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Cassandra89

I'm 19 and in college and I'm in some clubs but recently I have been noticing I spend a lot of time alone in my dorm. I do have friends but most of them have significant others and are always with them and then they make plans and don't think to call me sometimes.

I have also been in a rut of sorts and for some reason no guy is showing ANY interest in me. I don't know why I'm single, I love sports and I am not high-maintenance (but I do take care of myself), and it's not like I act as if I'm unavailable. Is there something wrong with me? Am I ugly? I don't think I am but I don't know what to think anymore. Is there anyway I can get guys to notice me? Is there anything that I can do just to keep myself occupied, my life is starting to get lonely, even with the clubs I'm in.

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Hey you know sometimes there are just dry spells - I've been there, where you start to wonder if you are actually invisible. Try not to worry about it too much. If you have one or two very close friends, confide in them that you feel alone alot, and ask them to check up on you. It's not a bad thing to get comfortable spending sometime alone BTW. People who can't be by themselves, ever, are kind of pathetic.

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I remember feeling the same way in college at times. The only advice I can really give you is to hang out with your friends. For me, that was the best way to meet people of the opposite sex and I think about every girlfriend I had in college I met this way. Don't doubt yourself or ask questions like "am I ugly". Guys dig confident girls... at least I do. Be confident in who you are and it will all happen when its supposed to... I know, easy for me to say, right? I sure does suck feeling lonely...

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I have also been in a rut of sorts and for some reason no guy is showing ANY interest in me. I don't know why I'm single, Am I ugly? I don't think I am but I don't know what to think anymore.

Without a face picture, it's impossible to tell if you are cute or not. Next important is your height and weight. It may seem rude but guys are very visual. If you are not cute or if you are a bigger girl guys may not be drawn to you. Do you think you dress cutely? Are there any guys who seem extra nice to you? Do you have any guy friends or acquaintances that are single?

 

As for being alone that's something I almost never hear of for girls. From what I see, girls are instantly able to make friends and are always in groups. Are you on any sport teams?

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