why women cancel the date?

[yongyong]

there are two women whom I contacted through online date.

 

I met one at coffee shop. we talked about 3 hours without noticing time.

 

we were going to meet on sunday but she cancelled due to her sick grandma.

well she said she could meet me on monday but cancelled again by saying she would be free on wednesday. I just told her 'I will let her know'

Although I am ok on Wed, I won't come out since she cancelled twice and I don't want to look like dumbass (if she thinks I am playing game, I will drop her like hot potato)

 

there is another lady. we were going to meet on fri. she said she didn't receive my txts and it was too late to meet so we changed it to monday.

she sent me txt in the morning, saying she is excited to meet but wants to change the date to next week and she said she was really sorry.

 

Another old story. I met this girl and we had kiss on first date.

second day, I asked her out to dinner and she said she already got plan on saturday and didn't want to talk about detail. she asked if sunday would be ok. well I had to say I would be busy because she rejected me first and meeting me on sunday instead of sat seemed disrespectful.

when I said, I would be busy on sunday, she said 'you are playing' WTF?

 

 

 

For those first two women above,

I am just like WTF?? those women are not working professional in wall street something like that, they don't even have 1 hour?

well I had plenty of 'I am busy' excuses after number closing at the club. but I think this is different situation.

[not.who.you.think]

Dude... "met online" that's your problem right there.

[Trialbyfire]

Another old story. I met this girl and we had kiss on first date.

second day, I asked her out to dinner and she said she already got plan on saturday and didn't want to talk about detail. she asked if sunday would be ok. well I had to say I would be busy because she rejected me first and meeting me on sunday instead of sat seemed disrespectful.

when I said, I would be busy on sunday, she said 'you are playing' WTF?

But she was right. You were playing her because she was busy first. IF you're unable to take the consequences of playing games with someone, such as them calling you on it, don't play games.

[yongyong]

that's BS. so if a woman first says she would be busy, you must be available to meet her?

 

But she was right. You were playing her because she was busy first. IF you're unable to take the consequences of playing games with someone, such as them calling you on it, don't play games.

[Trialbyfire]

that's BS. so if a woman first says she would be busy, you must be available to meet her?

If you have problems with game playing, don't do it. If you don't care, then play the game better.

[yongyong]

I just don't like the fact that they force me to play the game and they blame me for doing that.

like the first one I mentioned, she cancelled dates twice.

 

I am afraid that she might come up with some lame excuse on the same day OR I am going to look too available to her. so I am gonna have to act like I have something going on even though that wasn't inital intention

 

 

 

If you have problems with game playing, don't do it. If you don't care, then play the game better.

[JohnnyBlaze]

Nobody's forcing you to play games; you're doing it of your own free will. You always have the option of deciding to not play.

 

Lady 1: I'd agree to Wednesday. If she cancels that day, too, just tell her to give you a call when her schedule isn't so hectic. After that, forget about her. If she calls, she calls. If she doesn't, no loss.

 

Did you already agree to Wednesday? If so, canceling is definitely going to make you look like (as you put it) a dumbass. It'll be obvious that you're playing and she'll probably never bother contacting you again (and rightly so). So decide quickly if you want anything to happen or not. If so, be mature about it. If not, walk away from her.

 

Lady 2: Call me old, but texts don't work. The same phone that you send the messages from has this lovely feature called "calling". Use it. It serves multiple purposes. First, girls love hearing a new beau's voice, so it'll up your chances. Secondly, it shows that you think more of her than the others; you're putting your day on hold to make time to talk with her, rather than simply taking a 30 second break to send her a (comparatively) impersonal text message. Third (and most important to this instance), she can't say that she didn't get the message in time. If you ask her on the phone and she agrees, she can't say she didn't find out in time without looking like a complete player.

 

Lady 3: She had plans one day, but was interested enough in you to not only offer a definite alternative, but was so eager to see you again that she picked the very next day. And you said no? Seriously? Why? Because she didn't want to tell you what her plans for Saturday were? I hope you don't think she owed you an explanation or anything, because she didn't; not after just one date. So she's right - you ARE playing her.

 

In General: You have to lose this "keeping score" mentality. "She bailed on me, so I have to bail on her" isn't going to work. Say a chick does like you, you do this to her, and by some miracle, she sticks around. You have just set the tone for any future events during the relationship. If she ever does anything bad, you've told her that you're going to do something bad, too, just to make things even. That's not going to make for a very long or loving time together.

[yongyong]

thanks for reply

 

for Lady 1, I just told her 'I will let her know'.

when I said I will look like dumass, I meant if I am still eager to see her after she cancelled on me twice. I am not trying to be a puxxy. but come on, after cancelling first one, she could be more careful about setting 2nd date?

If a guy does that to a woman, he is toally jerk or player.

Should I still come out like a excited puppy just because she is Woman? lol

 

for lady 2, yeah I think I should call her.

for ladies, if you meet a guy over online and gave him a phone number, do you lose interest if he just txts you?

I told her I prefer hearing her voice in person.

 

for Lady 3, I met her at speed dating. I met a guy from there later and found out he had a date with her. so I could understand why she didn't want to talk about it.

 

 

 

 

Nobody's forcing you to play games; you're doing it of your own free will. You always have the option of deciding to not play.

 

Lady 1: I'd agree to Wednesday. If she cancels that day, too, just tell her to give you a call when her schedule isn't so hectic. After that, forget about her. If she calls, she calls. If she doesn't, no loss.

 

Did you already agree to Wednesday? If so, canceling is definitely going to make you look like (as you put it) a dumbass. It'll be obvious that you're playing and she'll probably never bother contacting you again (and rightly so). So decide quickly if you want anything to happen or not. If so, be mature about it. If not, walk away from her.

 

Lady 2: Call me old, but texts don't work. The same phone that you send the messages from has this lovely feature called "calling". Use it. It serves multiple purposes. First, girls love hearing a new beau's voice, so it'll up your chances. Secondly, it shows that you think more of her than the others; you're putting your day on hold to make time to talk with her, rather than simply taking a 30 second break to send her a (comparatively) impersonal text message. Third (and most important to this instance), she can't say that she didn't get the message in time. If you ask her on the phone and she agrees, she can't say she didn't find out in time without looking like a complete player.

 

Lady 3: She had plans one day, but was interested enough in you to not only offer a definite alternative, but was so eager to see you again that she picked the very next day. And you said no? Seriously? Why? Because she didn't want to tell you what her plans for Saturday were? I hope you don't think she owed you an explanation or anything, because she didn't; not after just one date. So she's right - you ARE playing her.

 

In General: You have to lose this "keeping score" mentality. "She bailed on me, so I have to bail on her" isn't going to work. Say a chick does like you, you do this to her, and by some miracle, she sticks around. You have just set the tone for any future events during the relationship. If she ever does anything bad, you've told her that you're going to do something bad, too, just to make things even. That's not going to make for a very long or loving time together.