Summer is on the way...

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OK, Summer is coming and I am seeking a TLC kinda girl - Crazy, Sexy, Cool [for those who don't know what I'm talking about]. I decided to go back to school this past year and also continue working full time. So my schedule has been very full to the point where I don't think I would've had time for an involved relationship. But now my feelings are changing and I would really like to have a girl. I currently have two beautiful women in my sight and will try for one.

Girl #1 is from my high school and we graduated together six years ago. We only started talking our senior year and when I look back at it, I think she may have had a crush on me, but I as oblivious to it at the time because I had a girlfriend and didn't notice things like that. After graduation we lost touch with each other. This past march I found her email address on classmates.com and emailed her out of the blue. We email each other a lot now and I am finding that she is pretty close to the girl I've been looking for. If only I knew what I know now back then. Since then, we've been planning to get together and a mini reunion since we never had our five year one [we are inviting only the people we still hang out with from highschool]. That's all gravy, everything seems cool, but she has boyfriend and so I'm not pursuing real hard. I haven't even hinted towards any feelings yet, cause I'm just trying to build our friendship back up. It sounds like she and her guy are having troubles though, so I won't wait too long, but should I say anything about my feelings?

Girl #2 goes to the same college as me and that's all I know. I see her every once in a while and when I do see her it's never a good time to talk to her. She's either on the phone, talking to other people or rushing to class. I had one really good chance to say something to her and I was speechless- totally blew it! I didn't know what to say. I generally don't have problems talking to females I'm interested in as long as I have an angle to go from. I have a feeling she is graduating this spring so now the clocks are ticking. How does a guy approach a girl he knows nothing about? I basically just want to say Hi, get her name and ask if she would like to hang out over the summer and then go for her phone number. Bodaboombodabingbodabang Right? Or is that the wrong approach?

One last thing, I have a tendency of falling into the notorious "Friend Zone" - you know what Chris Rock talks about in one of his comedy shows. That is totally me. Last summer I was talking to a different girl I graduated with and sparks were flying, then all of a sudden we hooked a sharp left turn into oncoming traffic and there it was - The Friend Zone! This has happened to me a lot recently and it's getting tiresome. I honestly don't think I am turning girls off by any rude or immature acts, but I don't have that Bad Boy image. At 24 years old do I really need one still? I like to treat women with generous amounts of respect and affection, but I do have a spine and won't get pushed around by them either. So what's the deal, could I be wanted as a friend more than a lover? I don't know, I just want a relationship with a girl I am attracted to who wants to be more than friends. Help Me! Oh you may wonder if my appearance is hindering my results. Nope I checked for boogers- none hangin' : ) For real though, I'm very modest and don't like to toot my own horn. But I'll just say I don't think it's a problem, I keep my self very clean and attractive. Ok now it's your turn, throw me a frickin' bone here! : )

[Tony T]

You sound like a great guy but brevity is certainly not your greatest asset.

 

I think you're making a big mistake by putting all your eggs in these two baskets. Both of these ladies you speak of seem to be distant possibilities, the first more than the second, and there are some ladies out there who you could nurture into meaningful romance in much less time...or at least in a way you were sure of what direction you were going.

 

Anyway, I'm not really sure what you were wanting from us by your post, but I do wish you great luck with the ladies. You seem to have a very good head on your shoulders and a good handle on your strategy.

 

The only thing I could possibly advise you to do is keep your eyes open and don't be closed to the possibility that your dream lady may not be either one of the ones you referred to.

 

Good luck and happy summer!!!

[velvet]

School, is one of the best places to meet good people. If you were to ask this girl for a phone number she would kindly give you her number if she is interested. You said you have talked to her but shes always busy. So tell her since shes always too busy to talk that you want her number and ask her if you call if she wont be too busy talk, right?

 

Thats all you can really do, and if she gives you her number theres no telling how busy she will be when you call. Than shes going to be too busy for a date, if she can manage to date you she will always so dang busy your going want to look for someone elese.

 

As for the other chick, shes taken. Shes not on the market! She has to decide to leave the man shes with first, than you have to give her a moment of free time before you move in on her.

 

But take the advice from Tony and do not put all your eggs into these two baskets. There are too many chicks out there looking for a guy with education and nice qualities just like yourself.

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Check my new posting in the forum "in search of"

thanks

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