KunFuZed Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 Ok I've been living alone in my new state for a year as of today and still don't have any friends or a boyfriend =(. I've met people who I click with but for some reason they don't come around any more and they don't pick up when I call n they don't call me. I'm talkin males and females. I meet people in night clubs but mostly from different jobs I've worked at, even at the current job. And I still feel rejected. Now in the the bf dept I don't kno whats going on there, I'm a beautiful female cute face nice body and I'm a model. I don't know why I'm still single, maybe I'm just too picky. Every guy that I pick has a girlfriend and the ones that pick me, it makes me sick just to look at them or they r old enuff to b my dad. I don't think I'm gonna get much advice here because I was just venting with out much detail but all opinions are welcome. Link to post Share on other sites
Sadcakesleo Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 its okay sometimes to just vent. if u want 2 tell me the details, maybe i can help out. I am partially in the same boat as you, I am a 23 yr old male and i have my own place so sometimes i get pretty lonely. I have friends but i am just not social like i used 2 be in hs or college. are you feeling more lonely because you don't have a bf or you dont have good friends? Link to post Share on other sites
Grimreaper Posted January 27, 2008 Share Posted January 27, 2008 duh ok, maybe you are being really picky! Dont get into a relationship just because you feel lonely, be sure that you actually have feeling for him and only then jump into it... About the friends thing, well maybe you are one of those loners. There are several of them out there who like to be left alone. Its not a bad thing. Link to post Share on other sites
RacerState Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 Your post is so familiar to me it made me register for this site! I moved to a new state about 6 months ago, and been ever so lonely. I was dating a girl for 4 years, where due to location started a long distance relationship. That worked pretty well for about a year, then quickly things changed where we she didn't want to return (we both moved away after college). I told her, well then things won't work, and we kinda left things in a break upish state. She doesn't want to figure things out, but when I say "break up" she has a break down. The whole situation has left me even lonely as she isn't really my girlfriend anymore in the normal sense, but at the same time I haven't looked for anyone new. Likewise, a new girl I met seems to like me, but I just am not too interested. So here I am, new state, not too my friends since I work all the time. I consider myself pretty attractive, successful, and normally I'm pretty happy, but all this lonelyness is starting to wear me down. I spend my days off alone. You must be my lonely female twin. Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 I think what helps is to find hobbies/interests outside of work to keep you distracted from loneliness. I'm a 23 year old guy who pretty much has his life together except the girl, but when I don't work I usually keep myself busy with other stuff like errands, hobbies, and friends, and occasional travel. Read a good book, watch a movie/tv, join a club, volunteer, take some classes, pick up an instrument and learn, travel, join a protest..who knows you could meet someone great! But I do hear you, girls that I'm interested usually wind up being taken or not my type. Link to post Share on other sites
Mezzi Posted January 28, 2008 Share Posted January 28, 2008 You are not alone I am in the VERY same position except I havent moved anywhere. I was with an older guy who was my first boyfriend and I havent had any since. Im 20, very alone and I have no friends. I have been single for over a year now. With crappy prospects showing interest. Old guys and young guys who suck. LOL I feel like I wrote this topic just check out my threads and you will see what im talking about. I have tried the whole if you want a friend me a friend, ive done soul searching and I have no idea why I dont have any friends. Kunfuzed, I think maybe you need to try and meet people in different places it seems you mostly meet people in clubs. Try a cafe or bookstore or something. Good luck to you and everyone in a similiar situation. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KunFuZed Posted January 28, 2008 Author Share Posted January 28, 2008 Thanks everyone. I haven't had a bf in almost 3 years cuz I can't find a man that can satisfy me and I'm not talking sexually. The men I've been meeting don't have it together. They wanna take me out on a date but I have drive. I'm sorry I thought U were taking ME out. U don't have to have a lexus but have something to go from A to B. Then we got the ones with no job, no education and a truck load of baby mammas with drama. Am I being picky? Link to post Share on other sites
monkey00 Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Then we got the ones with no job, no education and a truck load of baby mammas with drama. Am I being picky? Doubtful, though I'm sure there are as much women as men who haven't gotten their sh*t together. Link to post Share on other sites
Author KunFuZed Posted January 29, 2008 Author Share Posted January 29, 2008 I got myself together I went to college, I live alone, I pay my bills, and my car is paid for by me with no help. I just want to find a man on my level who has his $#!+ together, don't have kids, no drama and is grown.... and sexy. They don't make em like that no more. Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 What kind of education do you have? What kind of work do you do? What kinds of interest and hobbies do you have? Those are 3 areas where you can start to do some work to find men you may be interested in. Link to post Share on other sites
dctommy Posted January 29, 2008 Share Posted January 29, 2008 Why that state??? Link to post Share on other sites
Mezzi Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 Thanks everyone. I haven't had a bf in almost 3 years cuz I can't find a man that can satisfy me and I'm not talking sexually. The men I've been meeting don't have it together. They wanna take me out on a date but I have drive. I'm sorry I thought U were taking ME out. U don't have to have a lexus but have something to go from A to B. Then we got the ones with no job, no education and a truck load of baby mammas with drama. Am I being picky? You are definitely not being picky! Men that want you to drive? Cars cost like what $500 and they dont have one?! Totally unacceptable. As for no job, no education and a pile of kids NO WAY! You just need to start hanging out in environments/establishments that attract decent men. Link to post Share on other sites
padder83 Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 hello yall! posting from ireland, we over here arnt all driving yet, ive decided not to get a car as its very expensive here (drove in australia, way cheeper) and our roads are v.bendy & dangerous, just check google news for irish crashes....lots of road deaths anyway my point is, i like to go outdoors for a walk with a girl for a date, maybe a picknick or if im goin on a date in town we meet at the cenima or the bar and then we make our own ways home, is this not how 2 independent people date in u.s? neither the guy or the girl should be taking or giving rides, i perfer the romance, windy walks, rosey cheeks, a nice lunch, the seaside> stop me if im sounding silly but i hope u can do things like that un ur state?! hope ur feeling better, u sound like a grand woman! 'men are like cheese,..they smell when u get them and get worse with age' -me..... hehehe -im a man so i can moan about men!! Link to post Share on other sites
lovelorcet Posted February 3, 2008 Share Posted February 3, 2008 Americans are a bit different when it comes to the car thing. I am an american who has lived in europe for many years now. I used to have a car here but I now just have my motorcycle. I live right in the middle of a really old city (old as in 1,000 years or so) and there is no place to even park a car here. Even if you do have a car I can get to 90% of the places in this city faster on a bicycle than in a car. Anyways, it is very normal to "date" here without a car. Link to post Share on other sites
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