2ndIINone Posted April 21, 2007 Share Posted April 21, 2007 Just curious... I had a brief encounter with a girl years back (8 or 9 years)... was very attracted to her, we talked, we had dinner... she seemed into it but also apparently hung up on her BF (best guy friend)hoping for more from him. I probably chased her away doing the typical 'nice guy' things... flowers, too many calls, too available... pursued her too much early on... gave up. Learned the lesson. Then last week, I came across a profile of hers on a dating site. Seemed she was looking for 'friends'... goin' through a divorce, with kids. Couldn't believe how time flew by. She still looked just as good as she did then. Anyway, I wrote her a short email saying hi... told her she looked good, wanted to say hi and wished her well. Pretty sure she remembered me. (pictures) She read it, but didn't respond. Which is cool... but of course my buddies are breakin' em' for me... poking fun, have their laughs because she blew off a simple hello. Honestly I don't care about the response, but one buddy said I was nuts for sending her an email after all these years.... Question, was it 'weird' for me to say hello to her? Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted April 21, 2007 Share Posted April 21, 2007 Not at all. She put herself on that site, and there is no reason that you should feel weird about contacting her. You just feel awkward because she didn't reply, I think, so you feel "rude". You are not! Any one of us might have done the same thing as you did. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2ndIINone Posted April 21, 2007 Author Share Posted April 21, 2007 so you feel "rude". You are not! hahah thanks Poly... but the Rude or shy part was referring to her. Actually before I sent the mail...50% of friends said she WOULD reply, the other half said... no way. So I sent it the other day... wasn't hoping to 'start' anything with her... I now live 800 miles away. Link to post Share on other sites
sb129 Posted April 21, 2007 Share Posted April 21, 2007 I agree with polywog. Maybe she was a little embarrassed to have been seen on a dating site by someone she knew? You aren't wierd, I think you were doing what many people would have done. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2ndIINone Posted April 21, 2007 Author Share Posted April 21, 2007 sb- thanks... I know I'm a lil' goofy sometimes, but I agree, not weird.... hope she doesn't think I'm weird. ( Maybe she was a little embarrassed to have been seen on a dating site by someone she knew?I thought about that... back in the day, she was ... how do I say it?? The 'hot girl every guy tried get'... could have any guy she wanted 'type'. Social, fun, club 'type' girl... very pretty, very confident.... and now goin' through a divorce, couple kids... (nothing to be ashamed about)... so I thought maybe she was a little embarrassed... hope not. Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2ndIINone Posted April 23, 2007 Author Share Posted April 23, 2007 well, she responded... said hello... asked me how I was... asked how I ended up in the state I relocated to.... so I answered back... kept in simple... answering her questions... asked her how she was? and what she was doin' on the dating site...in a complimentary way.... seeing as she shouldn't have any problems meeting someone She read it... and deleted her account. hahaha some women are goofy. Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted April 23, 2007 Share Posted April 23, 2007 well, she responded... said hello... asked me how I was... asked how I ended up in the state I relocated to.... so I answered back... kept in simple... answering her questions... asked her how she was? and what she was doin' on the dating site...in a complimentary way.... seeing as she shouldn't have any problems meeting someone She read it... and deleted her account. hahaha some women are goofy. Oh well. Just think, maybe she got the account just to hear from you, and having accomplished her mission, saw no need to keep it ! Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2ndIINone Posted April 23, 2007 Author Share Posted April 23, 2007 haha... somehow I doubt it... she had the account first. Do ya think I insulted her with the question of "why she was on the site??" Kind of strange for her to ask me a specific question about my relocation.... not respond and then delete her account... geeez, I think she gave me a complex. Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted April 23, 2007 Share Posted April 23, 2007 haha... somehow I doubt it... she had the account first. Do ya think I insulted her with the question of "why she was on the site??" Kind of strange for her to ask me a specific question about my relocation.... not respond and then delete her account... geeez, I think she gave me a complex. You asked her that??? Maybe she asked your location because she plans to stalk you!! Watch out! Link to post Share on other sites
Author 2ndIINone Posted April 23, 2007 Author Share Posted April 23, 2007 yea I did... but I was nice about it... kinda like a compliment... worded somewhat like.... "So what brings you on a site like this? I can't imagine you having any problems finding someone..." sound like an insult? or something? she was a really attractive girl... I'm sure she knows it. Maybe she asked your location because she plans to stalk you!! I don't have that kinda luck. Link to post Share on other sites
polywog Posted April 23, 2007 Share Posted April 23, 2007 yea I did... but I was nice about it... kinda like a compliment... worded somewhat like.... "So what brings you on a site like this? I can't imagine you having any problems finding someone..." sound like an insult? or something? she was a really attractive girl... I'm sure she knows it. Well, not to make you feel worried, but maybe since she's going through a divorce her self esteem is low, even if she is attractive to you She may not feel attractive right now. I speak from experience. Maybe it embarrassed her to have a man from her past find her there. But don't fret it. Link to post Share on other sites
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