She used her sons phonecalls... against me???

[2ndIINone]

Months back I reunited with an old friend. Emotionally on/off again for years. It started off slow.. then turned into hour long conversations. Asked me to exchange #'s with her son so we can keep in touch as well. (Completely innocent... he's young with his first new cell phone) I quickly realized my feelings were still there, she claimed hers were no more. I asked for distance and backed off... (don't want a friendship if it can't progress) Days later, she pursued. Making strange promises of future get togethers with her and her son. Acting as if it 'possibly' could progress sometime. This confused me, so I questioned her actions/words... she flipped... turned HER back to the whole situation. After one month no communication, I started getting weekly calls from her son. (he has NEVER called me out of the blue on his own) Now I'm getting weekly calls, every Sunday afternoon from him. I would always ask him if he was sitting with her (yes) where they were going, what they were doing (church). If she knew he was on the phone with me (yes). I made sure of that. During this time, I still haven't heard anything from her. The calls eventually stopped cold. I let a month or so go by and called him for his b-day. No response. Called again a few weeks later to check up on him and see how he's doing. No response. So I sent her a message asking how he was and if anything was wrong with him and IF she told him not to communicate with me anymore. She responded but didn't answer the question... only told me that he mentioned me the night before. So I replied back, asking why she teased me with his phonecalls if she really didn't want me to keep in touch with him. No response.

The next day, 2 missed calls from him. He called a third time and I answered... we talked, he mentioned he was out of state visiting his dad. (His real dad hates me) I ended the conversation, hung up and sent her a message hoping I didn't get her son into any kind of trouble for speaking with me. She called me immediately with an attitude, asking why I've been calling him, what fixation I had with her son, mentioned that whenever she talks to me, she gets aggrivated/upset with all my demands? and then says I shouldn't be speaking with her kid. Claimed she had no idea he was calling me weeks prior. Blamed his questionable? calls to me on his mental illness? Denied everything and anything, basically making it look like I was stalking her son. Then hung up on me???

 

This kid has been a distant part of my life for many years, (his whole life) ... has had a lousy child hood thus far. Deadbeat dad who sees him once a year. No childsupport, no nothing. He had a lousy stepfather after that. Emotional abuse and once physical. A very unstable childhood. So I figured it was 'good' of me to talk to the kid. Show him support, show him someone genuinely cares about him and is thinkin' about him and now I'm the bad guy?

 

FYI... this woman is the Master Manipulator... has displayed many narcissistic characteristics in the recent past, it scares me. (since her divorce) My question is... was I wrong? For answering his calls weeks prior? For calling him recently? I've moved on, bought a house, dating, etc... no interest in her anymore. She asked me to keep in touch with her son.. I did.

[Enema]

You weren't wrong.

 

But you're wrong if you continue trying to maintain any sort of relationship with either of them.

[2ndIINone]

But you're wrong if you continue trying to maintain any sort of relationship with either of them.

 

I had made this decision during the call with her as she was pointing the finger and at me and denying everything. I'm half tempted to shoot her an email asking her to remove my number from both her phone AND his... not that it was his fault or anything against him, but rather her.

[VinaAmez]

I understand what you were doing but IMO I wouldn't call them and would leave them alone.