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So sad. My life is a Drew Berrymore movie. Here's the story:

 

I went to high school in the inner city. Boys in the inner city are scary. That was an automatic no-no for me.

 

After that I went to college at an all-girl school. I was focused on my studies. I had fun in college, but I was always shy around people I don't know. I also went to college a year younger than everyone, so that sucked. It was either be alone, and bat for the other team. I love my girlfriends and all, but I...some things just aren't kosher.

 

Then I went straight to doctor school to be some type of doctor and hung out with those people. Since I was younger, most of the people in the program were either married, or were already in a long-term relationship. People have told me to try the online thing, but I'm more comfortable going out with someone I already know. The problem is, I don't know anyone. Most of my friends are non-daters, and they don't care about meeting other people. Oh, and my longest-term relationship is with my gay best friend. Will & Grace on a whole nuther level. We might actually be closer to Karen & jack though.

 

Time's just passing me by. I want to meet people, but when my friends take me out to bars and clubs, it's usually just the nasty people all over you. Ewww. I would like a George O'Malley from Grey's Anatomy. Just a normal guy. He doesn't have to be a doctor or terribly good-looking. Just funny, smarter than the average bear, cute, and a good friend. Sounds like I need a dog, huh? Hey, dogs can be funny. Any thoughts/suggestions on places to go and stuff, anywhere near Los Angeles. Or just random thoughts in general, like the World Series, or a sheer fascination for shiny objects?

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I felt that maybe you need to be more open. Just because in the past you've had a bad experience with people from a particular place/bar, it doesn't mean everyone will be like that. You could get a dog- you'll end up meeting your future man like in 101 dalmations.

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It's not necessarily the question about being more open, but patience. Live your life, maybe try online dating if you must but prepare to weed out hundreds of loser dudes for a couple guys that are possibly compatible with you.

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Get involved in activities that have nothing to do with the doctor/hospital thing or bars. There must be some other thing you enjoy? LA is a big surfing/water sports place - take some surfing lessons, or sailing lessons. Join a softball league, or a hiking group.

 

And, hey, Christmas is coming. Plant yourself under some mistletoe and you'll get that kiss...:)

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You wouldn't beleive how hard it is to find a cute available guy. Yes even someone like George from GA. My suggestion would be, if you really want a kiss, go out with someone who you wouldn't consider a long term relationship material. After all it is just a kiss and will make you more confident when you do meet the right guy. If I waited for my first kiss to happen with someone that I really really liked, I would have still been waiting. Same goes for sex but I better not get into that.

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I envy you.

 

There are a lot worse things to consider.

 

Take a deep breath. Relax your muscles. Concentrate. If you pay attention to the subtle hints and initiate -you'll find the man of your dreams.

 

Good Luck,

Sand&Water

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So sad. My life is a Drew Berrymore movie. Here's the story:

 

I went to high school in the inner city. Boys in the inner city are scary. That was an automatic no-no for me.

 

After that I went to college at an all-girl school. I was focused on my studies. I had fun in college, but I was always shy around people I don't know. I also went to college a year younger than everyone, so that sucked. It was either be alone, and bat for the other team. I love my girlfriends and all, but I...some things just aren't kosher.

 

Then I went straight to doctor school to be some type of doctor and hung out with those people. Since I was younger, most of the people in the program were either married, or were already in a long-term relationship. People have told me to try the online thing, but I'm more comfortable going out with someone I already know. The problem is, I don't know anyone. Most of my friends are non-daters, and they don't care about meeting other people. Oh, and my longest-term relationship is with my gay best friend. Will & Grace on a whole nuther level. We might actually be closer to Karen & jack though.

 

Time's just passing me by. I want to meet people, but when my friends take me out to bars and clubs, it's usually just the nasty people all over you. Ewww. I would like a George O'Malley from Grey's Anatomy. Just a normal guy. He doesn't have to be a doctor or terribly good-looking. Just funny, smarter than the average bear, cute, and a good friend. Sounds like I need a dog, huh? Hey, dogs can be funny. Any thoughts/suggestions on places to go and stuff, anywhere near Los Angeles. Or just random thoughts in general, like the World Series, or a sheer fascination for shiny objects?

 

A kiss... Hmm... Well, you'll always remember that first kiss.

Anyway, Los Angeles has so much to do. Yeah bars and clubs shouldn't be shunned out just yet. Yes, there are some dumb drunken men that make that experience horrible. Just keep an open mind to it. Get into some sort of club that might interest you. The gym has many single great looking guys... :) Also, concerts is a fun way to meet new people.

Keep on doing what you're doing and hey, sometimes when we least expect it we find what we were looking for.

Best of Luck.

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Did someone say the LA area?? :p

 

Ok, speaking from my point of view, and I would consider myself the type of guy you'd be looking for...27 yrs old, attractive, don't do the bars and clubs thing that much, into sports, outdoors stuff, cultured (ie: like museums, live music, etc.), etc, etc. I would say that most of our generation is not into seeking a long-term relationship. I can identify with your situation, as I got a late start in this whole area myself, but that was because of my upbringing and s*it that happened in my life....but nonetheless, I can identify.

 

So, when I am looking for a girl, I usually go to the more low-key type of places....coffee shops, bookstores, etc. Getting involved in some kind of activity you like works well too - if you're into the outdoors, you might consider the Sierra Club or the Outdoors Club (Google them, dunno if I can put links on here). In this way, you can meet people who are into your same sorts of interests, but get to know people as friends first, and in a group-setting, so that you minimize the deception and blindness that occurs when you date one-on-one...usually that type of relationship just progresses very quickly, and then fizzles out just as quickly.

 

From a psychological standpoint, you really need to get to know someone as a friend first, if you're ever going to have a SUCCESSFUL relationship with them. This is EXACTLY why I've stopped looking for relationships, because most women my age are not worth the time that I've put into them, and just take everything I've done, for granted....so just saying that to say that you have to be careful who you give your time to, as it may be wasted. It is honestly not easy to find serious people to date in today's day and age, especially if you're over 22 or so, because most people are already married or at least engaged, as well as people who are stuck in the party lifestyle....and then you also have to deal with the stuff like married people cheating on each other, and you begin to wonder what the point is in the first place....but, alas, I digress.

 

Anyways, I'd suggest you just find some activity that interests you, search for some kind of a social organization dealing with that interest (try meetup.com for tons of such topics), and then just go meet with other people, and take the emphasis off of finding someone....if a guy is real and he is trying to find a relationship too, you'll meet sooner or later, so just go and try to have some fun with something you enjoy.

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