LoveShack.org Community Forums

Reload this Page LoveShack.org Community Forums > Transitioning > In Search Of...

25 Year-Old Never Been Kissed


In Search Of... Having a hard time forming friendships or finding companions, lovers, or associates? Is someone pursuing an unwelcome relationship with you? Talk about your experiences here.

 
 
LinkBack Thread Tools Display Modes
Old 26th October 2006, 5:21 PM   #1
Unconfirmed Account
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Southern California
Posts: 2
Question 25 Year-Old Never Been Kissed

So sad. My life is a Drew Berrymore movie. Here's the story:

I went to high school in the inner city. Boys in the inner city are scary. That was an automatic no-no for me.

After that I went to college at an all-girl school. I was focused on my studies. I had fun in college, but I was always shy around people I don't know. I also went to college a year younger than everyone, so that sucked. It was either be alone, and bat for the other team. I love my girlfriends and all, but I...some things just aren't kosher.

Then I went straight to doctor school to be some type of doctor and hung out with those people. Since I was younger, most of the people in the program were either married, or were already in a long-term relationship. People have told me to try the online thing, but I'm more comfortable going out with someone I already know. The problem is, I don't know anyone. Most of my friends are non-daters, and they don't care about meeting other people. Oh, and my longest-term relationship is with my gay best friend. Will & Grace on a whole nuther level. We might actually be closer to Karen & jack though.

Time's just passing me by. I want to meet people, but when my friends take me out to bars and clubs, it's usually just the nasty people all over you. Ewww. I would like a George O'Malley from Grey's Anatomy. Just a normal guy. He doesn't have to be a doctor or terribly good-looking. Just funny, smarter than the average bear, cute, and a good friend. Sounds like I need a dog, huh? Hey, dogs can be funny. Any thoughts/suggestions on places to go and stuff, anywhere near Los Angeles. Or just random thoughts in general, like the World Series, or a sheer fascination for shiny objects?
thereseb is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 26th October 2006, 5:29 PM   #2
Established Member
 
Heavenseventeen's Avatar
 
Join Date: Jul 2006
Posts: 70
I felt that maybe you need to be more open. Just because in the past you've had a bad experience with people from a particular place/bar, it doesn't mean everyone will be like that. You could get a dog- you'll end up meeting your future man like in 101 dalmations.
Heavenseventeen is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 26th October 2006, 10:33 PM   #3
Established Member
 
Join Date: May 2006
Posts: 207
It's not necessarily the question about being more open, but patience. Live your life, maybe try online dating if you must but prepare to weed out hundreds of loser dudes for a couple guys that are possibly compatible with you.
Hitman10000 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 26th October 2006, 10:47 PM   #4
Established Member
 
norajane's Avatar
 
Join Date: May 2006
Location: in my body
Posts: 13,595
Get involved in activities that have nothing to do with the doctor/hospital thing or bars. There must be some other thing you enjoy? LA is a big surfing/water sports place - take some surfing lessons, or sailing lessons. Join a softball league, or a hiking group.

And, hey, Christmas is coming. Plant yourself under some mistletoe and you'll get that kiss...
norajane is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 26th October 2006, 10:55 PM   #5
Member
 
Join Date: Sep 2006
Posts: 1,063
You wouldn't beleive how hard it is to find a cute available guy. Yes even someone like George from GA. My suggestion would be, if you really want a kiss, go out with someone who you wouldn't consider a long term relationship material. After all it is just a kiss and will make you more confident when you do meet the right guy. If I waited for my first kiss to happen with someone that I really really liked, I would have still been waiting. Same goes for sex but I better not get into that.
BlueEyedGirl is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 27th October 2006, 1:10 AM   #6
Established Member
 
Join Date: Oct 2005
Posts: 1,131
Reply:

I envy you.

There are a lot worse things to consider.

Take a deep breath. Relax your muscles. Concentrate. If you pay attention to the subtle hints and initiate -you'll find the man of your dreams.

Good Luck,
Sand&Water
Sand&Water is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 27th October 2006, 4:31 AM   #7
Member
 
CosmoBella's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: Too many oranges...
Posts: 44
Just a kiss...

Quote:
Originally Posted by thereseb View Post
So sad. My life is a Drew Berrymore movie. Here's the story:

I went to high school in the inner city. Boys in the inner city are scary. That was an automatic no-no for me.

After that I went to college at an all-girl school. I was focused on my studies. I had fun in college, but I was always shy around people I don't know. I also went to college a year younger than everyone, so that sucked. It was either be alone, and bat for the other team. I love my girlfriends and all, but I...some things just aren't kosher.

Then I went straight to doctor school to be some type of doctor and hung out with those people. Since I was younger, most of the people in the program were either married, or were already in a long-term relationship. People have told me to try the online thing, but I'm more comfortable going out with someone I already know. The problem is, I don't know anyone. Most of my friends are non-daters, and they don't care about meeting other people. Oh, and my longest-term relationship is with my gay best friend. Will & Grace on a whole nuther level. We might actually be closer to Karen & jack though.

Time's just passing me by. I want to meet people, but when my friends take me out to bars and clubs, it's usually just the nasty people all over you. Ewww. I would like a George O'Malley from Grey's Anatomy. Just a normal guy. He doesn't have to be a doctor or terribly good-looking. Just funny, smarter than the average bear, cute, and a good friend. Sounds like I need a dog, huh? Hey, dogs can be funny. Any thoughts/suggestions on places to go and stuff, anywhere near Los Angeles. Or just random thoughts in general, like the World Series, or a sheer fascination for shiny objects?
A kiss... Hmm... Well, you'll always remember that first kiss.
Anyway, Los Angeles has so much to do. Yeah bars and clubs shouldn't be shunned out just yet. Yes, there are some dumb drunken men that make that experience horrible. Just keep an open mind to it. Get into some sort of club that might interest you. The gym has many single great looking guys... Also, concerts is a fun way to meet new people.
Keep on doing what you're doing and hey, sometimes when we least expect it we find what we were looking for.
Best of Luck.
CosmoBella is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 29th October 2006, 5:41 PM   #8
Established Member
 
laguy10's Avatar
 
Join Date: Oct 2006
Location: California
Posts: 106
Did someone say the LA area?? :P

Ok, speaking from my point of view, and I would consider myself the type of guy you'd be looking for...27 yrs old, attractive, don't do the bars and clubs thing that much, into sports, outdoors stuff, cultured (ie: like museums, live music, etc.), etc, etc. I would say that most of our generation is not into seeking a long-term relationship. I can identify with your situation, as I got a late start in this whole area myself, but that was because of my upbringing and s*it that happened in my life....but nonetheless, I can identify.

So, when I am looking for a girl, I usually go to the more low-key type of places....coffee shops, bookstores, etc. Getting involved in some kind of activity you like works well too - if you're into the outdoors, you might consider the Sierra Club or the Outdoors Club (Google them, dunno if I can put links on here). In this way, you can meet people who are into your same sorts of interests, but get to know people as friends first, and in a group-setting, so that you minimize the deception and blindness that occurs when you date one-on-one...usually that type of relationship just progresses very quickly, and then fizzles out just as quickly.

From a psychological standpoint, you really need to get to know someone as a friend first, if you're ever going to have a SUCCESSFUL relationship with them. This is EXACTLY why I've stopped looking for relationships, because most women my age are not worth the time that I've put into them, and just take everything I've done, for granted....so just saying that to say that you have to be careful who you give your time to, as it may be wasted. It is honestly not easy to find serious people to date in today's day and age, especially if you're over 22 or so, because most people are already married or at least engaged, as well as people who are stuck in the party lifestyle....and then you also have to deal with the stuff like married people cheating on each other, and you begin to wonder what the point is in the first place....but, alas, I digress.

Anyways, I'd suggest you just find some activity that interests you, search for some kind of a social organization dealing with that interest (try meetup.com for tons of such topics), and then just go meet with other people, and take the emphasis off of finding someone....if a guy is real and he is trying to find a relationship too, you'll meet sooner or later, so just go and try to have some fun with something you enjoy.
__________________
If thou canst believe, all things are possible to him that believeth. (Jesus)
laguy10 is offline   Reply With Quote
Old 4th November 2006, 11:33 PM   #9
New Member
 
Join Date: Nov 2006
Posts: 8
laguy10, what you said is right on.
laniwill65 is offline   Reply With Quote
 

Bookmarks

Thread Tools
Display Modes

 

Similar Threads
Thread Thread Starter Forum Replies Last Post
Girlfriend kissed a guy, well she says HE kissed her. Guest Cheating, Flirting, and Jealousy 5 24th August 2006 6:47 PM
16 year old female in love with a 19 year old male shyla320 Friends and Lovers 7 23rd December 2005 10:06 AM
7 year old teaching 3 and 4 year old about body parts..... why? koala bear Family 2 2nd October 2004 1:23 PM
29 year old female and 21 year old male - any hope of getting back together? Med Student Second Chances 2 29th September 2004 9:33 AM
kissed me ex AZNNTYCE Second Chances 1 17th February 2004 10:07 AM


All times are GMT -4. The time now is 12:09 AM.

Please note: The suggestions and advice offered on this web site are opinions only and are not to be used in the place of professional psychological counseling or medical advice. If you or someone close to you is currently in crisis or in an emergency situation, contact your local law enforcement agency or emergency number.


Copyright © 1997-2018 LoveShack.org. All Rights Reserved.