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Old 29th September 2006, 5:16 PM   #1
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I don't know how to get this girl..

Or any girl for that matter. It's kinda weird how things are in high school. When I had glasses, not one girl looked at me. Ever since I got contacts I've noticed a lot of girls looking at me. That's beside the point though. I'm not into getting a girlfriend because it's the cool thing to do. I really think I've found the right girl I want to get to know, I just don't know how to reach out to her.

Here's the basic layout: the only class we have is physics. She's a Senior, I'm a Junior so I don't wanna wait too long or else I'll miss out. We're about the same height, she might be half an inch taller maybe. She's also got two guy friends in that class who are on the football team, so it'd be kinda awkward to just go and talk to her in class.

Now, I'm pretty sure she likes me, in fact I'm almost positive. The only thing that's really holding me back is fear of rejection I guess, cause I'm not sure what signs to look for. I'm not sure if I'm just really paranoid and hopes she likes me or that she really does.

Well anyway, I'm just wondering how you can tell if a girl likes you or not, and how to really approach her. I know I can take it from there. Getting started is always the hardest part.

I can see everything happening if I can just get to talk to her. Believe me, I tried to get to her but I couldn't find her or didn't approach her when she was with her friends. I'm asking you guys because everything I've tried has pretty much failed.

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Old 3rd October 2006, 2:48 AM   #2
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I used to be in something like your situation, I liked a girl; and she liked me too when I was a freshman. The whole year I tried to get w/ her and get the nerve to ask her out, I never did because I was too scared of rejection, and guess what? I never did go out with her.

I still have a crush on her and she still likes me but not as much before, and now she's got a boyfriend. I say hi to her in the hall but it bothers me from time to time that I didn't ask her out because something stupid like fear; and I missed out.

It's tough, but get over your fear of rejection. I know it's easy for me to say this but stop worrying that she might say no. Just go up to her and ask her to see a movie on the weekend or go to the school dance or something. If you never take a chance you will never have a chance. You are wasting time worrying about what will happen if she says no.

And You say that everything you've tried has failed. What have you exactly tried? Did you ask her to a school dance or to a movie? If you didn't ask her out then you obviously haven't tried. Are you saying you tried to get close to her and become a friend to get to know her? If that's the case then all I have to say is do you want to go out with her or just be her friend? It's good to know someone a little before you go out with them but sometimes it's just not the case.

If you want to get to talk to her when her two guy friends aren't around in physics and say "hey, i really don't understand this stuff, you seem pretty smart can you help me out a little?" and when shes done helping you ask her out. And if she spends the entire class time with them then just go up to her after class and ask her out.

Don't screw up like I did. I'm a senior this year, and it I'm reminded evertime I see the one girl I like that I missed my chance and it bugs me. If nothing is happening then your either not trying hard enough or she doesn't like you and is trying to ignore you. There's only one way to find out.
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Old 3rd October 2006, 11:38 AM   #3
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I'm confused by your post... particularly with these:

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Now, I'm pretty sure she likes me, in fact I'm almost positive.

Well anyway, I'm just wondering how you can tell if a girl likes you or not, and how to really approach her.
I dunno about the rest of you but I think if everyone in the world had an orgasm at the same time we would achieve world peace.
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