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Old 13th February 2019, 2:51 PM   #46
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OP: You mentioned you don’t have friends and hobbies. Did he do anything to isolate you? How about your own family?
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Old 13th February 2019, 3:02 PM   #47
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NEST security cameras tend to be something people with nannies, babysitters, pet sitters, housecleaners, handymen, etc use.

Not something that partners use to spy on one another in a relationship.
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Old 14th February 2019, 9:54 AM   #48
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Originally Posted by liladavis662 View Post
I met my current fiance-- he's latin -- surgeon. I had never known anyone to be so loud and aggressive.
Due to all the PC nonsense in today's world, I won't comment except to say that I'm not surprised at all, and I'll just leave it at that.

I tried to leave and he wouldn't let me (he was trying to save relationship) and I called 911. While I told police I didnt' want him arrested --- they arrested him anyway for failure to let me call 911.
Stop making excuses for this abusive POS. He wasn't trying to 'save' ANY relationship. He was trying to CONTROL the situation by refusing to let you leave. And then he turns around and completely disrespects you to his family rather than owning his behavior.

And you chose to stay with him after that horrific level of disrespect.

I'm sorry, but at one time you were a victim of this POS. But those days are long gone. You became - and continue to be - a full fledged volunteer.

As Dr. Phil says, everyone has their 'currency.' But for the LIFE of me, I can't figure out what your payoff is in staying with this person. There isn't ONE positive thing he brings to the table. Not one.
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Old 14th February 2019, 6:02 PM   #49
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OP, it appears that your fiance's wealth is enough to make you tolerate abuse from him.
Marry for money and you will earn every cent. It sounds like you are already paying a heavy price for being with this abusive man.
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