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Old 30th December 2018, 1:31 AM   #31
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If a couple truly thinks that planning a wedding "tested their bonds to the limit", I really don't think that couple should be getting married.
This is actually why we didn't marry. We agree on most things, but couldn't agree on the type of wedding. He wanted four groomsmen, the dress and flowers and big shebang. I wanted a simple, off the rack frock, no attendants and just immediate family. So we broke it down to what was important and realised that the wedding was more about the event and that we didn't really place much value on marriage anyway. So after being unofficially engaged for a weekend, we put the money into a renovation. Getting married wasn't important enough to test those bonds.
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Old 30th December 2018, 9:42 AM   #32
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Yup plenty of MEN regret it. You don’t see these responses here because mainly women write in LS. But each and every guy friend I have that got forced into marriage regrets that day of their lives. Even the ones who did it by their own volition said they did it to make their woman happy, so didn’t care at all about the wedding lol.

Women too: my own mother shared she regretted the wedding. It was exhausting and pricey and she would have been much happier eloping.
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Old 4th January 2019, 4:45 AM   #33
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Yup plenty of MEN regret it. You don’t see these responses here because mainly women write in LS. But each and every guy friend I have that got forced into marriage regrets that day of their lives. Even the ones who did it by their own volition said they did it to make their woman happy, so didn’t care at all about the wedding lol.

What on earth does this have to do with the OP's question? Nobody is getting "forced into marriage" here.

FTR, I could have gone either way and would not have minded eloping, but H wanted a wedding - it was important to him that his family and close friends be there when he said his vows. My only requirement was that I did not want a large or elaborate wedding. So we had a small, albeit nice, wedding.

I've known of other couples where the man wanted a bigger or more elaborate affair than the woman, too. Men are different, they don't all think the same just because they have similar genitals...
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Old 8th January 2019, 7:07 PM   #34
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We had a very modest wedding, church service officiated by clergy, one maid of honor, one best man, with dinner afterwards at a close-by restaurant. Private room with an enclosed patio for pictures, modest number of guests and very few “extras” such as flowers. No one got hammered even though there was no limit set on availability of booze. It was all very affordable compared to a huge elaborate “traditional” ceremony.

We enjoyed it very much and haven’t regretted any part of it, It wasn’t too large nor was it too small.


Best wedding I have ever known was in the 1980s, a guy i knew through a mutual friend. He and his fiancé decided to spend all the budgeted money that was available on catered barbecue , a keg of beer, and a live band , back yard of one of the parent’s house. The musician was a local big name who later became a national act. Lucky for them b cause at that time they could afford his set price for a performance. A few years later, way out of the question.
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Old 8th January 2019, 7:17 PM   #35
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You probably won't regret it if you stay together and are happy for the rest of your natural lives. That much being said, the odds are against that happening.
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Old 9th January 2019, 6:56 PM   #36
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Uh? She asked "So my question is- do people regret their weddings?" so I told her which group of people regrets it.

I'm sure there are men that want wedding and women that don't, but pretty much the whole wedding ritual is designed around the bride, so it makes sense that women are the ones enforcing it.

Most men are perfectly content shaking up - just see here how many women were shaking up for years hoping for a ring without the guy even considering the option... It makes sense then to regret it for him after the gf plays princess bride and he loses the vast majority of his hard-earned cash reserves lol.

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What on earth does this have to do with the OP's question? Nobody is getting "forced into marriage" here.

FTR, I could have gone either way and would not have minded eloping, but H wanted a wedding - it was important to him that his family and close friends be there when he said his vows. My only requirement was that I did not want a large or elaborate wedding. So we had a small, albeit nice, wedding.

I've known of other couples where the man wanted a bigger or more elaborate affair than the woman, too. Men are different, they don't all think the same just because they have similar genitals...
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Old 9th January 2019, 6:59 PM   #37
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pretty much the whole wedding ritual is designed around the bride

Never seemed that way to me.
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Old 28th January 2019, 7:34 PM   #38
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if you love each other, then make this wedding first of all for yourself, and not for your relatives. This is YOUR wedding, not theirs! Therefore, initially proceed from your own wishes. This day will be unique for you, so let it be remembered as "the best", and not "the most expensive". My opinion - the main thing is not quantity, but quality. As my husband says, in a year nobody will remember what they ate at the wedding, but the photos will show the most touching moments. About food - it's just a comic example of course But about the photos - no. That's why we had a rather modest wedding by the number of guests (only 50). But we ordered professional photographers and videographers from Tara Weddings (Toronto). My dear granny says she still cries every time she watches our video
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Old 28th January 2019, 8:51 PM   #39
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My husband and I cancelled our “big white wedding”

Literally. Like 300 people all out obnoxious wedding.

It was a nightmare with family, in laws, etc all throwing “must have” and “must invite” and gah...so much pretension at us.



We signed a marriage license at a coffee shop costing us like $250 between the license, officiant fee and them filing the necessary documents.

We then had a party at our house wearing “Mr” and “Mrs” T-shirt’s, had it catered by an awesome caterer, and just had fun with our closest 30ish friends/family.

Our circle to this day says it was the “best wedding ever”. LOL

(And then when we got pregnant, our baby shower was a “Baby-q at a shooting range where all the guys got to go sporting clay shooting while us “hand” sat back and ate and opened presents and chatted)

My husband says he is the luckiest guy ever LOL
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Thread starter seems to be a drive by, if they come back and want this thread reopened then alert on my post and we will do so, thanks all who gave the thread starter great advice
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