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Old 6th March 2018, 6:54 PM   #1
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Before marrying a widower you need to decide if you are strong enough to endure all the baggage....blended family, resentment from her family, his friends not totally accepting you, the constant scrutiny regarding your past...etc. I am speaking from experience. Think of your own happiness FIRST.
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Old 6th March 2018, 8:33 PM   #2
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I'll do it in a heartbeat.
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Old 6th March 2018, 8:39 PM   #3
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Originally Posted by Popsicle View Post
I'll do it in a heartbeat.
I am friends with three widowers. One just got engaged and I'm SO happy for him even though I was good friends with his wife. He deserves every happiness. The other two do as well. One was so devoted to his wife during her illness and his love for her was inspirational. I hope he finds love again someday if he wants it. You can just tell he's a great husband.
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Old 6th March 2018, 10:25 PM   #4
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Everyone has their baggage, its part of being human.
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Old 7th March 2018, 9:16 AM   #5
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Everyone has their baggage, its part of being human.
Agree and since most widowers are 50+, good luck finding any marriage partner that age not accompanied by "baggage", history, family and friends...

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Old 11th March 2018, 3:42 AM   #6
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I think it's mainly a problem when the new partner feels like they're competing with a ghost.
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