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Which signs of immaturity are a red flag to call off a wedding?

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Old 25th February 2018, 8:44 PM   #16
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Well, the part about being mad because you didn't surprise her on the predictable holidays is really stupid because obviously, if she's thought about it this much, she knew it was Valentine's Day and she knew it was anniversary, and she knew you'd do something. So she sounds hard to please.

However, I'd be mad about how you dress on special occasions too. Here's why: A woman puts a lot of effort into her dressing so she appreciates it when a man does to -- but mostly, she likes to see her man looking HOT once in a while, whatever that means to her. And as much complaining as there always is from men about not getting enough sex, I'd think you'd all want to put on the ritz at least two or three times a year and look your best for her.
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Old 26th February 2018, 6:55 PM   #17
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Forgot to mention, she returned the engagement ring at the moment of the fight.
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Old 26th February 2018, 7:54 PM   #18
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A red flags come in different sizes.

Example. if you do not sexually desire your SO, constantly think about other women and masturbate more than you have actual intimacy that is immature.

And if you have no clue that this type of behavior could damage a woman to her core, and instead spend years creating threads pointing the finger at her, then that's immature also.

Stop wasting her life. You dont really want this woman.

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Old 1st March 2018, 6:40 PM   #19
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Originally Posted by andreap View Post
Forgot to mention, she returned the engagement ring at the moment of the fight.
My friend, true love simply isn't this hard. And those "whoa" instincts are there for a reason - self-preservation. So the system is working as designed - things didn't go smoothly, you've had serious second thoughts and now should be headed for the door. You've gotten off cheap...

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