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Old 7th September 2017, 9:56 PM   #1
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So, I am engaged. I met my fiancee through a coworker of mine. She was friends with him in college for 2 years. He lived in a different state than me and we got engaged and I moved out there. I realized that they go way back and I am also friends with her, so I put her in our wedding party.

With a recent, personal issue that my fiancee was having, she calls and gives him unwanted advice about this problem. in my opnion, she is overstepping her boudaries. Im not sure though, what to tell her to set up boundaries. I feel like it is my role to help him through this, not hers. It honestly makes me regret having her in my wedding. But, I am new to this role, so I do not know how to handle this.
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Old 8th September 2017, 12:55 AM   #2
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go with the flow?

I'd let it go. What does your fiancee say? Why not establish the boundary with him instead?
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Old 8th September 2017, 7:04 AM   #3
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They are friends. You knew that going in.

Yes, as his FI & soon to be wife you support him. That doesn't mean he can't get support from else where too.

Relax. She was being kind not meddlesome.
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