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shedrivesz

I am curious to know what really goes on at a Bachelor Party. I have heard all kinds of things and dont know what has or hasnt been exaggerated. I would never expect to get the truth from my guy if he ever went to one, so can someone give me the heads up. Is it really as bad as it's made out to be? Am I getting all upset for nothing? Does it depend on the group of his friends that determines how crazy it gets? Please spill your beans, I want to hear it all. Thanks a bunch:)

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I would never expect to get the truth from my guy if he ever went to one

 

Then you shouldn't be marrying him.

 

I'm getting married in August and my only request is not to goto a strip club. Why? Because I've seen what happens to that guy. The girls basically tie him to a pole and torture him.

 

I'd rather goto just a dance club or something. If you don't trust your fiancee then you really need to consider somethings.

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I've been an "honorary man" twice at Bachelor parties. Both were fairly wild but neither cheated on their girls. Other than that, anything goes :D

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shedrivesz

Hey Jmargel, I guess I should have been more specific in my post. Im not engaged nor have any desire to be married, been there done that. I would expect most guys wouldnt tell their girlfriends what really went on at the Bachelor Party, meaning one wouldnt expect to get the truth from their guy. Sorry if I confused you and thanks a bunch for your input. It was well taken:) I'll rephrase my post.

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depends on the guy. One might decide it's his last chance for no-questions asked, no-commitment sex and decide to get his screwin' while he can, while another might just be happy watching strippers onstage or a porn flick.

 

And then there are the guys like jmargel, who wouldn't mind just a kicked back evening doing something innocent, but enjoyable. A colleague of mine who got married several years ago complained about his then-fiancée coordinating a bachelor party for him (can't remember what all she planned), when all he wanted was just to get together with his best buddies for a lost fishing weekend because he figured that would be the last time he'd get to do something like that without having to be home at a certain time, etc.

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I have no idea what goes on. I think my first husband kinda watched porn or something with is friends. I have seen grooms who were so hung over on their wedding day that it was not even funny. When my uncle got married, my dad went to get him to take him to the church. My dad asked him if he was ready and my uncle said that he was. He was fully dressed from the waist up. You guessed it, no pants.

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Originally posted by shedrivesz

Hey Jmargel, I guess I should have been more specific in my post. Im not engaged nor have any desire to be married, been there done that. I would expect most guys wouldnt tell their girlfriends what really went on at the Bachelor Party, meaning one wouldnt expect to get the truth from their guy. Sorry if I confused you and thanks a bunch for your input. It was well taken:) I'll rephrase my post.

Some Bachelor Party is just a big drinking thing. I've been to few where we get the SOB so drunk he's sick for next few days. Some Bachelor Party can turn into more like a big orgy..... :cool: ....too bad I didn't go to that one... :eek:
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kirkyswife
Is it really as bad as it's made out to be? Am I getting all upset for nothing? Does it depend on the group of his friends that determines how crazy it gets? Please spill your beans, I want to hear it all.

 

Why does it matter really? I mean honestly, it's called a bachelor's party for a reason - whatever happens happens and you just have to accept that. As an owner of a marketing/promotions firm I have thrown many bachelor's parties for professional athletes and celebrities and can safely say that these events vary but tend to be tailored to the bachelor's buddies more so than the bachelor himself. You don't want to hear details - I am well aware of the goings on and again the wild ones typically are the buddies. The fiance's are having fun with their friends, drinking, acting crazy but usually shy away from the "crazy things" you have heard. I hate to hear fiancee's trying to crash a bachelor's party or getting upset or setting rules on her soon to be husband's last night as a "single" man. Trust him and allow him the space to enjoy his party with his friends. If he's a man of convictions and integrity he's not going to get too out of hand. You should spend your energy concentrating on being the most beautiful bride for your day, making sure YOU are ready to spend the rest of your life with someone you trust.

 

Relax and let your man be a man! Here's a better question - why would you marry someone you don't trust because this is an issue of trust? It's a party and that's that and don't waste spit questioning him about what happened - it's none of your business and I am sure the story in your mind is 100 times worse than the real deal.

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headstrong20

You do realize that while your hubby-to-be is going to a bachelor party, you are very much capable of going to bachelorette parties, right? How would you feel if your friends invited you out - would you decline? No way, jose! So he can't either. No worries. I went to my best friends bachelorette party not too long ago - we went to a male strip bar, then stayed out until the clubs closed dancing & drinking - definitely one of the most fun times of my life. So..... when are you going? :)

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My fiance's bachelor party is a fishing/poker weekend at a cottage.

He specifically asked for no strippers - and not based on me telling him he couldn't.

What he really wanted was a weekend with the boys fishing/playing poker and, probably, drinking a ton of Scotch and beer.

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It seems that you all are women and are merely taking stabs at what "truly" happens at these soirees. Well, at the risk of losing my "Guy Card" I will let you know--after all LS is somewhat anonymous!

 

A typical bachelor party begins with the best man (or other groomsmen) taking the groom out to a nice dinner where no more than a bnottle of wine is consumed. THe groom does not pay for anything this night.

 

After dinner, they typically will go to a soon to be married retreat where they will learn the ins and outs of proper husbandry including returning the seat down, and tossing underwear into the hamper and not the floor.

 

After that, they shake hands and wish the groom the best of luck in his new life and they get them home no later than 9pm for the big day tomorrow!

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I've been to two.

 

Both involved no women because one guy's girlfriend forbade him to have anything to do with stripclubs so it ruined it for the lot of us, sadly.

 

We ended up going to dinner and a club/bar/arcade, which was fun as hell, of course, but it would've been nice to use the old standard.

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My husband's friends took him to a skeezy strip club. His friend had a stripper kiss my husband's cheek. She had purple lipstick on that wouldn't wash off the next day, the wedding day.

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They vary depending on the men involved. The more a groom protests the old 'strip club' bit, the more likely his freinds will make it happen. The one piece of advice is not to have the bachelor party the night before the wedding. That is always a horrible idea. Everyone in the wedding party ends up hung over.

 

Most times it's just men hanging out, talking, drinking, maybe bar hopping. There may be some special 'entertainment' but I've never seen any groom do anything wrong.

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Sorry to have to tell you this, but I am a woman and I have been to a few bachelor parties, by way of my friends that are men. If they had strippers, the show was usually very nasty and the women had sex with each other in front of everyone. Then they go after the groom. Depending on what king of man the groom was would determine what would happen next. I think that bachelor parties suck. If you don't want your guy doing stuff like that when you are just dating, why in the heck should he do it the night before the wedding!! I just puts an awful lot at risk and I don't think its worth it.

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I am not going to tell my bf that he should not have a bachelor party or whether he should go to a strip club or not, but this I tell you, I have made it very clear to him that NO LAP DANCES. I did give him the option: you can have lap dances, if I can go and have fun with a guy I meet at a bar- since I do not like to pay for services. I told him that if he could have someone in his lap and big boobs in his face, i could go as far as oral sex on me.

 

Believe me, he did not agree to my suggestion or plan. Sorry, but I am marrying a guy, to say that he can do whatever and I have not right to know or say anything about it because it is his right to go crazy that night? I do not think so. The same rules apply..I would not want him having a lap dance any other night, so why would make me change my mind for this night?

 

he wants to hook up with a stripper, I am going to pick up a guy at a bar..simple.

 

...and for the dumb men who think women won't know...eventually, we know everything..we are snoops...and your buddies will talk...

 

..and then trust becomes an issue...to me if he agrees to my plan..and he lies..then it is over.

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I am sure that I will get attacked for this post but here it goes.

 

I have been to hundreds of bachlor parties ( I used to be an exotic dancer) the one's I have done are innocent in my eyes. The best man usually hires the girls to dance and the bachlor gets a free dance included in the price and any additional dances from the guest's are extra. Believe me dancers are not prostutes, we don't want your or anyones man. it's just a routine and a job. the men are lucky dancers even can remember their names. I wouldn't be worried if he was going to a strip club, there is no need to be threatned what so ever it's just a good time with the guys and he will be getting fake attention form pretty girls and I gauarantee when he walks out half drunk and completly broke he will know that Clubs, Bachlor parties whatever are not reality they are just fun and he will be happy to come home to you. ( Don't let him go with alot of money ;) .

 

and just a heads up YOU will be getting laid that night. :love:

 

Most Chicks worry to much

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Originally posted by codabean

Sorry to have to tell you this, but I am a woman and I have been to a few bachelor parties, by way of my friends that are men. If they had strippers, the show was usually very nasty and the women had sex with each other in front of everyone. Then they go after the groom..

 

I totally disagree with this statement, I think the weman that we're at that party we're found on a corner.

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Originally posted by stoneheather

I totally disagree with this statement, I think the weman that we're at that party we're found on a corner.

 

I second that! Some guys ask for a girl-on-girl dance where we might get raunchy with each other but definately no sex. The women who do that are more commonly known as hookers, not dancers.

 

Generally, in a good club, or with good dancers, the groom will be tied up and have a public dance and end up with ice/ shaving foam/ cream down his pants. The object is to humiliate him for the entertainment of his friends. And i can not blame many guys for point blank refusing to be put through such treatment. Even many who do go to a strip club for their bachelor party draw the line at having a 'stageshow'.

 

Some of the grimier clubs/ dancers might force the groom to remove a lollipop from their intimate parts with their teeth and then suck on it, or find they have another of ther personal items put where the sun don't shine before it is returned to them. :sick:

 

Personally, i'd rather my hubby to be went fishin!

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Some of the grimier clubs/ dancers might force the groom to remove a lollipop from their intimate parts with their teeth and then suck on it, or find they have another of ther personal items put where the sun don't shine before it is returned to them.

 

:eek:

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as i said - the idea is humiliation of the groom :( Men sure have a strange way of entertaining themselves! Although i guess it's not much different to most women's encounters with male strippers, which ALWAYS centre on making the poor female rub baby oil into their chest or bursting a ballon held over the guy's groin or worse!

 

I find it interesting that this ritual humiliation seems to to part of the standard package of male stripping for women, whereas it is only 'special occasion' treatment for men who pay for female dancers. A female dancer engages in a level of sexual fantasy that, although fantasy is quite serious in order to produce the erotic thrill, whereas with male dancers it's all a big joke, where women get to laugh and point in front of their friends without that erotic connection that comes as standard in a (good) dance from a woman. No erotic experience exists for women who pay for a male dancer in the way that it does for men.

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I've been to a couple bachelor/bachlorette parties.

 

One was really nuts and the grooom did cheat.:( She was in the next room..yeah it was a jerry episode...

 

But that was only one...the rest were very fun and innocent. They hired strippers and if anything the strippers paid more attention to the girls at the party than the groom and his buddies.

 

If you trust your husband though you should have no worries.

 

I don't know if anyone saw it but Carmen Elektra and her husband dave had a dual bachelor/bachlorette party. They sat on a huge couch and had girls dancing over them and both had a great time. If I was getting married I think that would be fun and I could keep an eye on my man. :)

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I just had my bachelor party, and I refused any sort of 'stage' treatment. I saw what they were doing to others, and I'm glad my best man (my brother) didn't try to get me up there.

 

I had a VIP dance, one done in a seperate room. Want to know what really happens there? And this is a full nude strip club.

 

She takes me back to this room, about the size of a dressing room, with a small jukebox. I laid on this couch, while she only took her bra off. She danced a little, and sat on my lap. You can tell she was tired, and not into it much. She then laid on top of me and nuzzled my neck.

 

That's it. Nothing else happened. I'm surprised she didn't fall asleep on me. lol..

 

My brother told her I was getting married, so I don't know if she did this on purpose or not, but when she got up she said 'Oh, I wanted to let you know that I got some lipstick on your shirt, I hope you aren't upset'. No big deal.

 

I talked to her for a little bit & she gave me a hug. I didn't get turned on at all by it. The next day I told my fiancee about the shirt since she does laundry. She didn't care about that, she trusts me.

 

You women who are against strip clubs have to remember, guys can't touch the women. When this chick was laying on me, my arms weren't even around her. They had security cameras in the rooms. How can you get into with that kind of environment, even if you wanted to?

 

Male strip clubs are alot worse. My ex went to one and she told me what they did to her. She also told me they were french kissing her friend who was also engaged. Male strip clubs, it's basically a free for all.

 

Btw, the woman who mentioned about if he gets a lap dance then she gets to have oral with another guy. That's disgusting. Those are TWO totally different things. Lap dancing is NOT sex. IMO you are way too controlling, and you are just going to push him into another woman.

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There is a similar discussion going on in the "Cheating, Flirting..." thread about strip clubs and what goes on there.

 

I just gave my opinion from my p.o.v as a lapdancer.

 

I think that if it is really going to upset the groom or bride hten people need to respect that and find something else to do. i mean, is it really sooooo important for a guy to get a lapdance on his bachelor night??? if it's going to upset his future wife, i'm sure he wouldn't think it worth it. Similarly, i would hope that the future wife wouldn't do anything to upset the groom...

 

Rather than the oral sex analogy (and i agree, definately NOT the same thing, see a good comparison on the abovementioned thread though) you could tell him you have arranged to go to an amateur night at a strip club for your bachelorette party and that you are going to get up there and strip - but i guess that might upset him ;)

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My fiance went to two bachelor parties in the time that we've been together. At one of them, the groom's friends hired porn stars, so yes, there was some girl on girl sex there. And there were even some extras for the groom and groomsmen. At another party, they had a stripper who poured chocolate sauce and whipped cream all over her body and got the groom to lick it off. Then she gave him oral sex in the bathroom and he got her phone number. The first groom denied the extra treatment, the second is just a sleaze anyway. My fiance had been married once before and he had two strippers at his bachelor party. Said they gave him lap dances and took off his shirt and poured hot wax on his chest. He's not really into strippers though, and has requested no strippers this time around. He just wants to go out for drinks with his buddies. I personally will be having a bachelorette party, so I have no qualms about him having a bachelor party. Even if there were strippers/hookers there, I know he's way too fearful of STDs and has waaaay too much integrity to do anything.

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