Killerlegz Posted July 30, 2003 Share Posted July 30, 2003 My husband-to-be is freaking out because one of his friends (my maid of honor's boyfriend) told him that my bridesmaids were hiring a stripper for my bachelorette party. I personally don't see what the big deal is, I mean, it's not like I am going to sleep with him! Anyway, I think it would be fun. After all, that is the last time I will see a man other than my husband in the buff. My husband even went so far as to say that he will call off the wedding if I have a stripper there. What should I do about this? I don't think its a big deal, and it's up to my bridesmaids, not me. Any thoughts? Link to post Share on other sites
moimeme Posted July 30, 2003 Share Posted July 30, 2003 Welcome to Lesson 1 about living with someone. Sometimes they will be very concerned about something you think should not be a big deal. If you cannot resolve this through discussion, and your spouse still feels it's a very big deal, then if you care about him or her, you respect your partner's feelings and honour them. One couple I read about used to use a rating scale to decide such things. One would say that something was important to them or bother them at a level of 8 and the other would say it felt like a 2 so the one who felt like it was a 2 deferred to the one who felt it was an 8. This acknowledges that you are both different humans and will have different reactions to things. Take, for example, all the women on this board who have posted in utter panic that their fellows look at porn on the web (I'm not talking about the 'addicts'; I'm talking about the occasional offenders). No matter how many people say that most men look at some porn sometimes, still the women are horribly upset, jealous, etc. You hope the person who is so concerned will moderate their view, but if your guy actually means he'll call off the wedding, then I'd pay attention if I were you because he's telling you it is a VERY big deal to him. By the way 'it's up to my bridesmaids' is a cop-out and you know it. Link to post Share on other sites
Kimber Posted August 1, 2003 Share Posted August 1, 2003 I know that if I was going to get married, and I really loved the guy, I would respect his wishes.. So what about the stripper anyways and why is it inportant to see one"for the last time in the buff"? I would tell the bridesmaids that it is a no go and to call off the stripper. You are starting a new life together, do not start it off by making a deal out of another guy undressing for you! That is the bottem line that he is thinking. If you feel that it is that inportant then have it there but there just might not be a wedding. You have to decide what is more inportant to you. Hope you make the right choice Link to post Share on other sites
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