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Old 29th April 2010, 1:09 AM   #61
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Our wedding def represented "us".
As it should be.

I think the wedding says a lot about the couple, actually.
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Old 30th April 2010, 10:35 AM   #62
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My bad. I could have sworn you said you had 200 people. Or maybe it was that you said it was $20K and $100 a head, and I just did the math.
Ah, okay. I was thinking that I never told anyone on LS how many people were invited so I was curious where the 200 people idea came from.
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Old 30th April 2010, 10:38 AM   #63
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I just think you should go for it with your wedding- make it whatever you want to make it. No scrimping. My wedding was awesome for myself and my husband- we made it into what we wanted. The pyro-technics might have been crazy- but it was what my husband wanted, so we did it. Our wedding def represented "us".

Even though our love didn't last-our party was what we wanted it to be.

You never want to look back and regret budget cuts. Throw the party of your life- because that's your time.
Yeah, I agree but I also don't want to go broke paying for our wedding. We need to save for a house and kids. That's great for you guys though, I do think that the couple should be on the same page about what kind of wedding they want and not regret any of it.
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Old 30th April 2010, 3:02 PM   #64
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We need to save for a house and kids.
It's great that this is important for you. Getting married is great, being crammed in a tiny apartment, stressing over money with your new spouse is not.

My SO and I have been ready to marry for a looooooong time, but we waited so that we could make a few other things happen before.
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Old 2nd May 2010, 8:36 PM   #65
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Yeah, I agree but I also don't want to go broke paying for our wedding. We need to save for a house and kids. That's great for you guys though, I do think that the couple should be on the same page about what kind of wedding they want and not regret any of it.
Agree 100%.
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Old 2nd May 2010, 11:02 PM   #66
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We want to have our pastor marry us with two people standing up for us. No guests, dinner out and the rest spent on time together. I am not starting my life together for anyone else but us. It is easy in our case though as neither of us speak to our families so no worries about disappointing anyone there. I was married once long ago and spent a fortune on the wedding. Looking back now, I would have been happier spending a month in another country, or a few.
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Old 3rd May 2010, 1:53 PM   #67
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When my fiance and I started planning, location was the first thing we looked at. And i was extremely disappointed with each and every venue, most above $2500. One was only for a three hour rental! Anyways, after visiting the last place and being sad for a few hrs...an idea struck us: We had planned on honeymooning in Hawaii...so why not just do it on the beach?! I researched and researched and researched the rest of that day and presented my dad with a waaaaaay cheaper version of my ideal wedding on the beach in Oahu...my wedding itself will cost less than $2000! At my dad's insistance on having a lil family at our ceremony, my dad, my brother, and sisnlaw will all be coming as well. Therefore, the most expensive part is getting there. Also, if you stay away from resorts, the entire trip can costs thousands less. We found an off-the-beaten-path lodging place with very affordable, very nice and quaint cottages 20 feet from the beach. And as for reception, when we get back, we are throwing a luau party at a pavillion by the lake, which costs $60 for the entire day and night. We are getting friends to do the cooking and I have searched all over the internet for the cheapest, but nicest looking, luau decorations. In all, I expect to spend about $1000 on reception, if that much. There are cheaper ways out there.....you just have to be creative and search for them.
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Old 3rd May 2010, 9:33 PM   #68
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GEG... but your "wedding" doesn't include a reception, isn't that right? It's literally just the ceremony...?
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Old 3rd May 2010, 10:41 PM   #69
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LB I understand...planning a wedding is hard. People get stressed and you need a place to vent. When its all said and done it is YOUR wedding...dont let anything that anyone says here or anywhere thats negative get you down.

Payless is by no means a designer shoe store BUT you can find great quality shoes for a cheap price. There are some who think that because something isnt a million dollars its poor quality...not all the time. If you want to wear payless shoes then go for it. As long as they are cute and comfy who cares. Unless the shoes have payless written on the side I dont think anyone will know where you got them.
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LB I understand...planning a wedding is hard. People get stressed and you need a place to vent. When its all said and done it is YOUR wedding...dont let anything that anyone says here or anywhere thats negative get you down.

Payless is by no means a designer shoe store BUT you can find great quality shoes for a cheap price. There are some who think that because something isnt a million dollars its poor quality...not all the time. If you want to wear payless shoes then go for it. As long as they are cute and comfy who cares. Unless the shoes have payless written on the side I dont think anyone will know where you got them.
Thanks! They are actually very beautiful shoes. They look like they could have been bought at a bridal shop easily. Nobody would EVER think they were from Payless. I liked them more the any other place I looked. Do they look like designer shoes? No. But I could care less. My dress is long so it's not like anyone will see them!!!
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Do they look like designer shoes? No. But I could care less.
Your guests won't notice or care, either, LB. As long as your feet are comfortable in them and you feel good, that's all that counts.
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