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Old 28th November 2017, 8:11 AM   #61
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STOP TEXTING HER!!!!!


Spend some time with her. What you do doesn't matter just spend time with her. Hence I suggested Christmas shopping . . . very low key, easy to pass off as a non-date; equally easy to ratchet up especially if you can find some mistletoe
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Old 28th November 2017, 5:38 PM   #62
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We have hung out multiple times. One time I took her to a party once where she followed me upstairs when I had to go to the bathroom, asked me to escort her to the bathroom later in the night. I told her I would and would wait outside while she goes. After we left and she was in my car, she looked in the back seat and appeared upset that I had all kinds of stuff back there and there was no room. We then hung out in my car for the next 5-6 hours and just talked.
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Old 28th November 2017, 6:22 PM   #63
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But what have you done for her lately? This girl is doing everything possible to get your attention. Why are you making her work so hard? You are going to push her away.
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Old 28th November 2017, 7:06 PM   #64
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I知 not intentionally trying to do it. The truth is that she has a history of leading guys on so when they actually make a move she turns them down. How that works when she has multiple times maybe like 5 told me that she痴 into me and wants to be more than friends when I on the other hand have told her that I just want to be friends I知 not sure.
If you like her, ask her out. If she turns you down you are more than entitled to ask "what gives?" given the way she's throwing herself at you. If a friendship is all you want then be clear about it. What you're doing is giving her false hope with some of the banter you two share.
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Old 28th November 2017, 8:02 PM   #65
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I have told her multiple times that I just want to be friends. I think she痴 starting to get the hint but I can still tell that she digs me. She knows that I知 a very decisive person so why she has made every attempt to get me to like her back. I have no idea.

The truth is that there is some attraction on my part. If there wasn稚, I wouldn稚 be here typing this. Part of me just feels like I知 too good for her. I also know that if we hooked up I would never get rid of her either which is a scary thought. We work side by side and it just makes things that more complicated.
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Old 28th November 2017, 9:19 PM   #66
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Just asked her

Me: what are you doing on Sunday?
Her: probably nothing why
Me: wanna go to the game?
Her: just us?
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Old 29th November 2017, 12:18 PM   #67
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So I said yes and she said first tell me if you were really kidding about the tree thing.
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Old 7th December 2017, 9:01 PM   #68
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So we hung out last friday night and went to a game. I asked her to drive so she picked me up at my place. I have a big vehicle so its difficult parking in the city. Anyway things went really good. When we got back to my place, she pulled into a parking space. It appeared like she wanted to at least talk for a little bit. I told her thanks for driving and that I should really get going. I got out and went inside.


This is our most recent text convo.

Me: So do you still wanna be under my tree?
Her: Do you still want me under it?
Me: I asked you 1st
Her: Yeah mhm you did. So tell me first too
Me: Yeah
Her: Yes I do
Me: You're tiny so no problem fitting down the chimney
Her: So who do you live?
Me: Why do you wanna know I live with?
Her: Just wondering if you live on your own. I have a couple questions because I want to move out is all. Plus I was curious if you have any siblings.

Why is she so curious about my living situation?
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Old 7th December 2017, 10:15 PM   #69
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I think she likes you. Ask her out. You like her too I think.
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Old 7th December 2017, 10:32 PM   #70
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DUDE! Grow up. I dated so many guys like you in my 20's. The way you're behaving is selfish and downright mean. You are telling her you want to be friends than behaving otherwise. You are leading her on. Either date her or let her go so she can start moving on. If it's because you are afraid of rejection get over it and grow some balls. You are constantly giving her mixed messages and to be frank you sound proud of it.
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Old 8th December 2017, 3:36 AM   #71
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DUDE! Grow up. I dated so many guys like you in my 20's. The way you're behaving is selfish and downright mean. You are telling her you want to be friends than behaving otherwise. You are leading her on. Either date her or let her go so she can start moving on. If it's because you are afraid of rejection get over it and grow some balls. You are constantly giving her mixed messages and to be frank you sound proud of it.
He has rejected this poor girl MUTIPLE TIMES. Yet is still leading her on, he gets a total thrill that this young girl is so into him.

If that was my sister I be shaking her and telling her to stay away from this guy.

OP, stop leading this girl on. You do not want to be with her. She has tried to pin you down multiple times, she must have low self esteem as after the first rejection any other girl would have nexted you.

You should be looking into why you are getting such a kick out of leading this girl on? what are you missing in your life that you are getting pleasure in this. Strange man.
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Old 8th December 2017, 9:04 AM   #72
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Maybe I知 just inexperienced. I知 trying my best I guess. Am I leading her on because I知 not making a move on her?
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Old 8th December 2017, 2:56 PM   #73
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Maybe I知 just inexperienced. I知 trying my best I guess. Am I leading her on because I知 not making a move on her?
You have constantly rejected her yet you are leading her on by giving her hope there could be more, you know this yet keep doing it. You also said this

"Part of me just feels like I知 too good for her. I also know that if we hooked up I would never get rid of her either which is a scary thought."

If she knew you felt this way, she would be very hurt and really it is a nasty way to think, you are no better than anyone else.

If you are decent, you would keep away from this girl. Like I said, look into why you are getting a thrill out of leading this younger girl on. How would you feel if a woman you really liked was leading you on?
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Old 8th December 2017, 3:09 PM   #74
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The way you act creates distance between you two.
You're making her take the lead and chase you.
Come on, that's not very manly and really off-putting.

Take a risk and put yourself out there or end it if you're not really into her.
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Old 8th December 2017, 7:17 PM   #75
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You have constantly rejected her yet you are leading her on by giving her hope there could be more, you know this yet keep doing it. You also said this

"Part of me just feels like I知 too good for her. I also know that if we hooked up I would never get rid of her either which is a scary thought."

If she knew you felt this way, she would be very hurt and really it is a nasty way to think, you are no better than anyone else.

If you are decent, you would keep away from this girl. Like I said, look into why you are getting a thrill out of leading this younger girl on. How would you feel if a woman you really liked was leading you on?
Isn稚 it possible that she is just doing this all for the attention? I mean why else wouldn稚 she have given up by now. She also keeps pestering me to know if I live alone.
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