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Old 11th September 2017, 2:20 PM   #1
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Why Does She Act Like This?

So I work with this girl and I was telling her a story about a female customer that complimented. I told her that she was pretty attractive and I would take her out rollerblading if I had the chance.

The girl I work with then told me I should take her rollerblading. I asked her if she rollerblades and she told me no. She then went on to say that she would learn or something.

She also told me that she gives me tips and pointers with work because she likes me. I don't know if she meant as a friend or what.

The other the day she organized my papers into a nice neat pile after I just threw them together. Yesterday she told me again to just put them over there because she was going to tidy them up for me.

Yesterday I came back from break and I was tapping my fingers vigorously on the counter because I was annoyed about something. she asked me what was wrong. I told her nothing and throughout the day she kept trying to get me to talk. She also told me to feel better and that she loved me. Also, when I was getting ready to leave she told me that she loved me again.

She also caught the fact that my shoe was untied so I asked her to tie and she gladly did it.

Today, she said I can tell something is wrong, so I told her this week has been rough and she said "aww do you want a hug". I told her no, that I was fine. She asked a little while later if things were better. After that she said that she comes into work to please me while smiling.

She has also told me multiple times to smile. She got upset when a friend told me something that made me smile and she responding by saying "I don't know why you will smile for him but not me".


I've known her for 4-5 months but this stuff has started to happen within the last several weeks. Why would a girl tell a guy that she barely knows that she loves him? I'm 22 and she's 19 if that helps.
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Old 11th September 2017, 2:23 PM   #2
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She likes you dude. Ask her out.....duh. Stop over thinking this.
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Old 11th September 2017, 2:26 PM   #3
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She also told me to feel better and that she loved me. Also, when I was getting ready to leave she told me that she loved me again.

She also caught the fact that my shoe was untied so I asked her to tie and she gladly did it.
Well, that escalated quickly!

This 19 year old girl seems to really like you but might not quite know about appropriate boundaries. Maybe you should ask her to go rollerblading?
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Old 11th September 2017, 2:31 PM   #4
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She's flirting with you. Ask her out.


Don't get hung up on the work "love". She loves her BFF, ice cream, the latest boy band & her favorite color too. It's a word not a plea for a life time commitment.
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Old 11th September 2017, 3:49 PM   #5
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I just have never had a girl be this bold before. Usually girls are a lot more reserved.
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Old 11th September 2017, 4:08 PM   #6
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She sounds a bit obsessive.

I got a girl pregnanant as a kid that was obsessive, and lied to me about birth control.

Sometimes high-interest can be too high

Take her out, and have fun. But make sure you put something on the end of it.
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Old 11th September 2017, 7:48 PM   #7
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She sounds a bit obsessive.

I got a girl pregnanant as a kid that was obsessive, and lied to me about birth control.

Sometimes high-interest can be too high

Take her out, and have fun. But make sure you put something on the end of it.
She appears too. As far as I can tell she does not act like this with any other guy. She's actually kind of a snob and a bitch to other people. (other peoples words, not mine).

She's pretty hot too, so its not like she couldn't get another guy.
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Old 11th September 2017, 7:55 PM   #8
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She sounds a bit odd. Perhaps she acts like this because she is nervous around you since, you, know she loves you,

What do you think of her? Other than being hot.
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Old 11th September 2017, 8:13 PM   #9
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She sounds a bit odd. Perhaps she acts like this because she is nervous around you since, you, know she loves you,

What do you think of her? Other than being hot.
Could be nerves but I'm not completely sure. She's pretty confident overall. Her comment of "I love you" which was said multiple times, in my opinion does not mean much.

Honestly, I don't know what to think. She is a overdramatic person without a doubt. But would a overdramatic person do everything that she has done.

She's also started parking next to my car in the lot, and I actually teased her about it saying that she better not have put a dent in my door.
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Old 12th September 2017, 4:17 PM   #10
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Anybody else have any input?
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Old 12th September 2017, 4:25 PM   #11
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So I work with this girl and I was telling her a story about a female customer that complimented. I told her that she was pretty attractive and I would take her out rollerblading if I had the chance.

The girl I work with then told me I should take her rollerblading. I asked her if she rollerblades and she told me no. She then went on to say that she would learn or something.

She also told me that she gives me tips and pointers with work because she likes me. I don't know if she meant as a friend or what.

The other the day she organized my papers into a nice neat pile after I just threw them together. Yesterday she told me again to just put them over there because she was going to tidy them up for me.

Yesterday I came back from break and I was tapping my fingers vigorously on the counter because I was annoyed about something. she asked me what was wrong. I told her nothing and throughout the day she kept trying to get me to talk. She also told me to feel better and that she loved me. Also, when I was getting ready to leave she told me that she loved me again.

She also caught the fact that my shoe was untied so I asked her to tie and she gladly did it.

Today, she said I can tell something is wrong, so I told her this week has been rough and she said "aww do you want a hug". I told her no, that I was fine. She asked a little while later if things were better. After that she said that she comes into work to please me while smiling.

She has also told me multiple times to smile. She got upset when a friend told me something that made me smile and she responding by saying "I don't know why you will smile for him but not me".


I've known her for 4-5 months but this stuff has started to happen within the last several weeks. Why would a girl tell a guy that she barely knows that she loves him? I'm 22 and she's 19 if that helps.
You two are so young adults your a bit older than her she's not even 20, or 21 yet. I would consider her 19ish. Sounds like she's having fun with you at your expense, flirting, teasing, toying and making you feel jiggery around her every word.
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Old 12th September 2017, 4:36 PM   #12
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You two are so young adults your a bit older than her she's not even 20, or 21 yet. I would consider her 19ish. Sounds like she's having fun with you at your expense, flirting, teasing, toying and making you feel jiggery around her every word.
I assume you meant to say jittery? If so, I really haven't show much emotion towards her when she says stuff except giving her dirty looks like she's crazy.

I don't really see how this stuff could be happening at my expense when I blow off everything that has happened. I'm just documenting it here so it may appear like I get worked up when she is around. That is not the case.
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You are on a downhill swirl. This girl is salivating all over you and you are taking full advantage to the point you tell her to tie your shoe. You are behaving like a douche on his best behavior, and what's worse is you sound like this young lady's superior.

Knock it off.

Boundaries.

You know very well she is sweet on you. She is immature. You set the boundaries. You know that dating coworkers is a minefield. Dating a coworker who is your subordinate is a bigger minefield. Dating a subordinate who is immature and insecure is a nuclear minefield. Asking a coworker or subordinate to get down on their knees and tie your shoes could very well turn into a fireable offense in addition to the nuclear minefield.

You are a douche. How dare you use and abuse this glossy-eyed, cow-eyed, star-struck woman and demand she ties your shoe. I hope she gathers a couple of non-star-struck brain cells together and goes to HR over this one. How DEMEANING!

And you're quite pleased with yourself over this! WTGDF??

Grow up, and grow and develop some humanity. Are you really that heartless, cruel, and disrespectful? Are you a sociopath? Is this a game to you? You know she's smitten...so just kick her a little...demean her and disrespect her and lead her on, see how far she'll go...you deserve everything you get...karma, sweetie.
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Old 12th September 2017, 6:43 PM   #14
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I just have never had a girl be this bold before. Usually girls are a lot more reserved.

She's not that bold. Also as women mature they get more confidence. At 22 your experience has been limited to girls. At 19 this one is on the cusp of womanhood but isn't there yet.


If you like her ask her out already. If you don't like her, let her down gently but for heaven's sake stop dithering.
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Old 14th September 2017, 9:24 AM   #15
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She is showing you she is interested.....blatant interested, serving it on a platter to YOU, and you are being all worried about it? Seriously all we get are guys whining/ bi&^% and complaining on here about mixed signals, and here you have it all out for you. STFU and ask her out.
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