Is it time 2 call it quits?

[Crunchay000]

Ok heres the story I'll try to simplify it as much as possible

The girl Lauren, went to highschool with me, I always thought she was gorgeous and we got along pretty well when we talked and i sensed some kind of chemistry, but we ran with such different cliques so nothing came of it then. So anyway we attended the same college and had a class together, we started hanging out a lot and i sensed some connection mabye even attraction but didnt really give it to much thought, i just enjoyed hanging out with her. Anyway school ended the summer came around and we got closer, hanging out a lot sometimes just sitting at her or my house watching movies, during this time i grew to be pretty fond of lauren but never said anything, i didnt want to creep her out or anything, anyway i felt we became close and had some kind of bond i could realize when our eyes met(corny as it sounds), sometimes shell say things that ill be thinking. anyway i went away to college after the summer, and she said that was the first place she was going to look into the next year,and i visit home every couple off weeks, when i visit she seems to always make time for me and actually call me before i call her often. everytime i visit it seems like we become closer, and we hang out more often, her friends whenever i small talk with them always seem to bring her up asking when we became close blah blah. however recently she started going back with an old boyfriend who she basically never brings up in conversationunless i ask what she did last night, she says she does nothing with unless i ask what she did last night, the one time we were all together at a party felt pretty uncomfortable when he left his seat next 2 her she basically told me to come sit over there, she would shift attentions back and fourth, etc she doesnt say anything about going to my school anymore, she tells me she misses me a lot, and i dont know how i should take all of this in I am really attracted to her, am i just imagining all of this or should i make a move? is it 2 late i think i might be stuck in the friend trap

[TUDOR]

No time like the present to make your move before some one else does. She may be too shy to tell you she wants the same thing in which case it will be win/win. But the most you have to loose is that she doesnt' feel the same way but cherishes your friendship. In which case you still have your friend and won't have to live with any regrets later that you didn't put that big "what if" behind you. Regret sucks...don't regret not making your move.

[SuperFantastico]

Well you might have left it too long unfortunately. Lots of people make the mistake of

'getting to know someone better first' . Thats a great way to make friends, not such a good way to get a girlfriend/boyfriend. You instil in them the belief that you are only friends, and belief is a VERY powerful thing.

 

Whatever you are gonna do, do it soon before its too late(if it isnt already). But dont pour your guts out. Say i like you and was wondering if you would like to go out.

Have a plan before hand though. maybe some specifics. out for a movie friday or something like that.

 

If it dosnt work, aww well you are in college. Lotsa ladies there.

 

P.S. Tudor is absolutely right. Nothing is worse than wondering what could have been. I've been there. If i didnt wait to get to know this girl i fell for, for years, better i am now 100% sure i would have gotten together with her. Now i can only say what if. Suck it up man, take one for all of us that wonder what if.

 

worst case, she dosnt want to go out with you and you can look back and say to yourself I tried my best. And you will feel good because you dug down and found the courage to face your fear.