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Can you be attracted to one another and still be "just friends"?

Friends and Lovers Progressing into "Friends with benefits" and beyond: When platonic relationships become more intimate.

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Old 15th September 2004, 2:46 AM   #1
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Can you be attracted to one another and still be "just friends"?

If a man who is your friend tells you he finds you "very attractive" and "cares for you a lot", is he hinting that he is interested in more? Any ideas? I'm very confused by his hints, why doesn't he just flat out tell me if he wants something more? Help!
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Old 15th September 2004, 3:36 AM   #2
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Why don't you just ask him if he wants something more?
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Old 15th September 2004, 9:37 AM   #3
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it sounds to me like you want something more (and he might as well) so think how annoyed he must be that you won't 'flat out tell him that you want something more'

when i suspect that my friends are interested in me, i just ignore it (if i'm not interested in them). i don't bring it up, and i make a conscious effort not to be overly flirty and not to suggest in any way that i want something more. in fact i will make sure that they are aware of who i am interested in (subtly of course).

i'm a bit disappointed that your thread title isn't actually your question, i came to this thread ready to be the champion of platonic relationships.
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