situationshipsareforever Posted Tuesday at 09:36 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 09:36 PM I am very confused. This guy and I met through work (at a large company where you don't know most people). A colleague we both knew invited us dancing. That week, he invited me to lunch (in the office), and to a festival on a weekend (a female friend of his was also there for most of it). After this, we would regularly have lunch and dinner together in the office, sometimes with other people, and sometimes just the 2 of us. He messaged me happy birthday on my birthday, and from that day on we started messaging each other about once a day, keeping up the conversation. One weekend he invited me to have dinner with him, and he tried to pay (I didn't let him - I paid instead). A few weeks later we again hung out outside of work. And again a few weeks after that. And then again the following week, None of it was explicitly romantic - no hand holding or kissing. Then he went on a trip for 2 months, which he had planned before he met me. We continued to text about once a day while he was on this trip, and he would send me photos etc. When he got back we went for drinks, which were again platonic. Then, the following week I left my job working with him. The week after that I had a leaving party for my ex-colleagues at my flat. I also invited some of my university friends, who knew I liked him. At the party, he put in effort to speak to all of my university friends, none of whom he had met before. At the end of the party, I was quite drunk and I was leaning against him. Everyone else eventually left and he stayed and we sat on the couch. As soon as the door closed and the last person left we started making out. We eventually went to my room and he stayed the night. In the morning, we chatted for hours, but did not discuss what had happened, and we kissed again. The next day I messaged him asking if he wanted to have dinner with me that week. He enthusiastically replied yes. We went for dinner but it was like our dinners before the party - on the edge of friendly, and no kissing or handholding at all. After the dinner, for the first time in 5 months, the text conversation ended. I started a new conversation 2 days later, and then it was back to normal. The following weekend, we had plans to go on a hike with 2 of my friends. Him and I walked in a pair the whole time, and talked for about 8 hours, and discussed a lot about other people's relationships, but nothing about our own. It was very enjoyable conversation but again, nothing explicitly romantic. Then after the hike the conversation died again, and this time I have not revived it. We were meant to go dancing this week but he has asked if we can move it. I don't know what is going on or what to do - does he like me? Was after the party a one time thing? Did he like me and now he doesn't? Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted Tuesday at 10:27 PM Share Posted Tuesday at 10:27 PM Sounds like a drunken snog with a friend. Whether it's the only drunken snog you have depends entirely on your own boundaries 2 Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted Wednesday at 05:34 PM Share Posted Wednesday at 05:34 PM 19 hours ago, situationshipsareforever said: I don't know what is going on or what to do - does he like me? Was after the party a one time thing? Did he like me and now he doesn't? I don't know either but I agree with basil67 that it just seemed like drunk sex with a friend. Maybe at this point you should take matters into your own hands and ask him what he wants. What do you want? 1 Link to post Share on other sites
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