nate804_d Posted September 27 Share Posted September 27 I’ve known this girl since elementary school. We went to the same school from grades 3–8 (she’s one year older than me), and kind of kept in touch throughout high school as our sisters were in the same grade and would always hang out. Over COVID we didn’t talk much, and 2 years ago, when I started university (she was going into her second year at the time), we briefly spoke as she was one of the few people I new at the school. Fast forward 2 years later, after not talking at all really in those 2 years, I bumped into her at a club and we spoke a bit. I’m now in my third year, and she’s in her fourth. I somehow ended up with her ID, and took it over to her place 2 days later, where she invited me up and we sat on the couch and talked for 2 hours. I’m grabbing brunch with her tomorrow, and I’m not expecting anything to happen then, but I do want to somehow express my interest in her and invite her over for dinner and a movie or something. Seeing as how we’ve known each other for just under half our lives, I don’t know how she feels towards me. I know for sure she’d like to be friends, but I don’t know how to express that I want to be more than that. I’ve never had my first kiss or been in a relationship, so I’m overthinking a lot right now. I just want to know how to express that I would like to get to know her better, and even kiss her. I'm just scared of losing a friend by expressing my feelings to her. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted September 27 Share Posted September 27 Invite her out to dinner. Keep progressing the romantic nature of your relationship by continuing to spend time with her and showing her through your actions and conversations that you're interested in her. If she is romantically interested there will be a sense of reciprocity in her actions and she will inch closer or touch more frequently etc. If she doesn't the relationship will be more friendly in nature. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Leihla_B Posted September 28 Share Posted September 28 I wouldn't put the cart before the horse. Keep asking her out and learn over time how often she's willing to see you. Don't worry about managing the context prematurely. If she's not willing to spend more time with you beyond the brunch, then any investment you might hold in getting romantic is a moot point anyway. If she continues to accept your invitations, or even better, if she reciprocates and invites you out at some point, then you would have a better shot at raising that conversation. Patience. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
flitzanu Posted October 1 Share Posted October 1 i know it sounds like you may both be younger college? students, but it might be wise to ask her on a proper date, not just "come over and watch tv" because that can either seem platonic or that you're just wanting sex. surefire way is to qualify your outing as a date. as in, "I'd like to take you on a date to dinner" that way there's no question of your intentions. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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