question for ladies and gentlemen

[basil67]

5 minutes ago, Specific296 said:

oh i see. see thats your culture. here we dont look if guy is smart or funny because we dont see those traits as if he has it that means hes nessesarily a good person. 

 Options 1, 2 and 3 of your opening post gives impression that you're single, you  have a difficult time finding a girlfriend and hold a degree of resentment over that.   

Do you have all the traits which you describe in your opening post?   If you do have those traits, and that's what women in your culture want, why are you still single?

[basil67]

1 minute ago, Specific296 said:

so u dont want sex money and someone to talk to? he just has to be interesting thats it

Sex is such a basic requirement that I didn't think I needed to mention it.    And if I'm going to talk with him for the rest of my life, he needs to be funny and interesting

[Specific296]

16 minutes ago, basil67 said:

 Options 1, 2 and 3 of your opening post gives impression that you're single, you  have a difficult time finding a girlfriend and hold a degree of resentment over that.   

Do you have all the traits which you describe in your opening post?   If you do have those traits, and that's what women in your culture want, why are you still single?

thanks for the passive agressive insults im no longer gonna talk to you thank you

[basil67]

3 minutes ago, Specific296 said:

thanks for the passive agressive insults im no longer gonna talk to you thank you

Hey, I’m only working off what you wrote and the impression it gives.  If you’d left those three choices off, I wouldn’t have been so quick to see what’s going on.

If you really are chronically single, it would help if you ask women what they want and listen to the answers. 

 

[Gaeta]

it would be much better if you gave us the real situation instead of writing this as if it's about other people. 

You like a girl and she doesn't like you back even if you are giving her a lot of attention? is that what's it about?

@basil67 did not insult you, at all.  She is trying to understand what's your story. 

[Gebidozo]

6 hours ago, Specific296 said:

i disagree with you because a real masculine man protect her from getten stolen

Stolen? What is she, a thing?

You shouldn’t be using such disrespectful language, dude.

[Gebidozo]

5 hours ago, Specific296 said:

i see a huge culture difference here already im not (western) so my cultural beliefs primarily puts needs first before attraction

No kidding. Your cultural beliefs put the global before the individual and the material before the spiritual. I’m not going to be politically correct and tell you that all cultural beliefs are equally valuable. They aren’t. If I were you, I’d try to learn from Western values in this respect.

[Leihla_B]

22 hours ago, Specific296 said:

2 not go on the internet and say i hate all men

3 expect more of him when this is his limit.

Did your wife do these things?

Your poll is too cryptic to be understood. It assumes that others would be as suspicious of their partner as you seem to be, or that a woman would be eager to give up her career in order to be isolated in the home.

Why not just explain the problem you are having with your marriage and ask questions about that?

Edited September 17 by Leihla_B

[jasonblackheart01]

That's sounds like a perfect dream man of without flaws, but wake up your not living in dreams. Reality will smack you in the face if you want to find this kind of perfect guy. 

First of all, not everyone has grown to a stable environment, some with deep emotional trauma and scars. 

Not everyone has the same level in case of financial level status.

Why do you need to be physically ready? Do you need him to be a six pack ab model for a relationship?

Why do you need protection? Can't you say simple no? Are you waiting for a dashing prince charming to swept you up in your feet to feel safe? 

Don't you have a job? Why are you depending on someone to sustain you? As if your just going to marry him for comfort

Lastly, he is your partner, not your sugar daddy.

Love respect and loyalty goes both way, you need to give him the same equal value if you want the same treatment.

And lastly your just satisfying your vanity by choosing your choice base on your standard.
 

[Els]

I literally have no idea what you are even talking about here. Maybe it would help if you described the actual situation and how it relates to you specifically, rather than just providing vague hypotheticals with a weird undertone of sexism?

[riversidemf]

On 9/16/2024 at 4:19 PM, Specific296 said:

first question for the ladies

if all men

were emotionally/mentally financially physically be ready for relationship

then protect you/from flirting men and himself from flirting women/and threats physical and mental threats

and he provides/emotionally/physically/financially

lastly shows, kindness/love/respect

(mind you he is either a normal looking guy and mentally normal aswell financially average. or and ugly looking or hot looking.)

would you do the following 3 things if he were to be ur husband

1 respect him love him and loyal to him

2 not go on the internet and say i hate all men

3 expect more of him when this is his limit.

second question for the men would u say u would be able to do this?

I would 1 and 2.... remove 3 and add expect him to be a good parent.