basil67 Posted August 23 Share Posted August 23 If you are honest with the counsellor about her behaviour, the counsellor will tell her that she's the one who needs to address her behaviour. Her response will be to declare that counsellor to be a waste of time. There's just no point in doing it Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ShyViolet Posted August 24 Share Posted August 24 8 hours ago, Cheeko96 said: I woke up to a message from her today saying "I think we should book a couple councilor asap as I don't want to be in this more then I do. I can offer this as a compromise" This is absolutely ridiculous and crazy. I hope you're not considering it. When you've only been dating someone 7 months and the relationship already has this many problems, and the other person has started acting toxic, you break up. You don't go to couples counseling. 4 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted August 24 Share Posted August 24 OP, you might be overwhelmed by the harsh consensus here. The truth is that people here have a lot of relationship experience and know one thing for sure: change is impossible when there is no remorse. If your GF said something like, “I’m so sorry for my crazy controlling behavior, I’m aware of my problem and I’m working on it, please give me another chance”, I’d be definitely advising you to agree. But she seems unable to even make that essential first step. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted August 24 Share Posted August 24 Relationship counselling at just 7 months? Sorry, but that is absurd. Recognize that this is dead in the water, and get out of there. 2 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Author Cheeko96 Posted August 24 Author Share Posted August 24 7 hours ago, Gebidozo said: OP, you might be overwhelmed by the harsh consensus here. The truth is that people here have a lot of relationship experience and know one thing for sure: change is impossible when there is no remorse. If your GF said something like, “I’m so sorry for my crazy controlling behavior, I’m aware of my problem and I’m working on it, please give me another chance”, I’d be definitely advising you to agree. But she seems unable to even make that essential first step. It's been a positive overwhelming I'd say and I appreciate everyone taking the time to reply and give insight. I have posted a couple other places when I did here... 95% of all replies had all stated pretty much the same sort of view. So clearly it's clear as day. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gforce77i Posted September 17 Share Posted September 17 I look at other women, then confirm what I'm looking at with my wife who normally agrees. We're not swingers or anything like that, but can both look and appreciate good looking people. There's no harm and no concern, it's a bit of entertainment for us. We are terrible at the beach 🤣 Insecurity (as you are finding out) is kryptonite in relationships. 1 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jasonblackheart01 Posted September 18 Share Posted September 18 Women are...very complicated creatures. They are proud hyenas protecting their territory warning other hyenas to back off. But of course your just a man after all, you not a Steelman, I'm sure your junk is still working. But being loyal and remain true to your heart is the wisest decision. Just be patient on your girl. Quote Link to post Share on other sites
Gebidozo Posted September 18 Share Posted September 18 33 minutes ago, jasonblackheart01 said: They are proud hyenas protecting their territory warning other hyenas to back off. Good Lord, I wonder where you’re meeting such women… I’ve had many relationships but never with a woman who’d be even remotely like you describe🤭 Quote Link to post Share on other sites
jasonblackheart01 Posted September 18 Share Posted September 18 7 minutes ago, Gebidozo said: Good Lord, I wonder where you’re meeting such women… I’ve had many relationships but never with a woman who’d be even remotely like you describe🤭 I assure you they exist somewhere hiding in plain sight Quote Link to post Share on other sites
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