Loooli767 Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 I’m trying to get my ex back after I cheated and lied to her, I was a pretty shitty boyfriend and she still hasn’t forgiven me. We’ve been hanging out and spending time together for a few months, I want us to get back together but she hasn’t got over over my past mistakes. I’ve been staying at her place for a few days to help her with some stuff around her apartment and we’ve been having fun together. Last night she went out with some friends and I got worried cause she stayed out all night, I kept calling and telling her to come home, she ignored me for most of the night but assured me nothing would happen. A few hours later, when she got home I found out she had kissed some guy. Did she cheat? I’m embarrassed to admit I reacted in the worst way possible and got very mad at her. I’m not sure if I overreacted or not. Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 3 minutes ago, Mike9982 said: A few hours later, when she got home I found out she had kissed some guy. Did she cheat? Yes, kissing is cheating. It looks like you're both on equal footing now. Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 7 minutes ago, Loooli767 said: , I was a pretty shitty boyfriend . I’ve been staying at her place for a few days to help her with some stuff around her apartment. I reacted in the worst way possible and got very mad at her. How long were you dating? How old is she? Why are you staying at her place? Pack up and go back to your place. Don't try to get back together. Don't be her handyman. She's foolish to allow you to stay there. Make a clean break. Of course it's not cheating. You two broke up. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, Loooli767 said: I want us to get back together but she hasn’t got over over my past mistakes. Given that she hasn't forgiven you and you aren't back together, she is free to kiss whoever she wants. She can also have sex with whoever she wants. You have no claim on her whatsoever Edited September 11, 2022 by basil67 2 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Alpacalia Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 Right. Different story if you were broken up. Initially, I thought you were just requesting opinions on whether "kissing" is a form of cheating in the general sense of the word (which varies from person to person). Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 8 hours ago, Loooli767 said: Did she cheat? Are you in a relationship with the woman? No. Well then, she is free to kiss whoever she likes. It’s time for you to move on. Too much history here, this is a very unhealthy relationship for you both. Link to post Share on other sites
poppyfields Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 (edited) 8 hours ago, Loooli767 said: A few hours later, when she got home I found out she had kissed some guy. Did she cheat? I’m embarrassed to admit I reacted in the worst way possible and got very mad at her. I’m not sure if I overreacted or not. OP, yes you overreacted. You need to learn to manage your emotions better. She's not even your girlfriend anymore, you broke up, you had no right going off at her like that, she's a free agent. You said you are trying to get her back as your girlfriend? That was NOT the way to do it. In fact, by getting jealous and angry, you most likely pushed her further away. But maybe not, some women get turned on when men get angry.😳 Nothing surprises me anymore when it comes to romance and human interactions. How did she respond to your jealousy and getting angry at her? Edited September 11, 2022 by poppyfields Link to post Share on other sites
ExpatInItaly Posted September 11, 2022 Share Posted September 11, 2022 No, she didn't cheat on you. She can do whatever she wants with whomever she wants, as she's not in a relationship with you anymore. Link to post Share on other sites
BDDazza Posted September 29, 2022 Share Posted September 29, 2022 (edited) On 9/11/2022 at 6:59 AM, Loooli767 said: I’m trying to get my ex back after I cheated and lied to her, I was a pretty shitty boyfriend and she still hasn’t forgiven me. We’ve been hanging out and spending time together for a few months, I want us to get back together but she hasn’t got over over my past mistakes. I’ve been staying at her place for a few days to help her with some stuff around her apartment and we’ve been having fun together. Last night she went out with some friends and I got worried cause she stayed out all night, I kept calling and telling her to come home, she ignored me for most of the night but assured me nothing would happen. A few hours later, when she got home I found out she had kissed some guy. Did she cheat? I’m embarrassed to admit I reacted in the worst way possible and got very mad at her. I’m not sure if I overreacted or not. No she hasn't cheated because you two are not a couple. She is free to date and kiss whomever she wants. Why are you hanging around her house anyways, if you two are single you shouldn't be alone in her house doing her chores. What if she wants to bring another guy around and you're there like a bad fart lingering. You said you've been trying to get her back for a few months, that is a long to linger, sounds like you're desperate. Edited September 29, 2022 by BDDazza Link to post Share on other sites
Lisa Posted September 29, 2022 Senior Moderators Share Posted September 29, 2022 Thread locked as OP hasn't returned Link to post Share on other sites
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