creyente7 Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 Its been 5 months since my ex broke up with me. All of a sudden a rush of sadness just came over me to a point I felt tears come out my eyes. There were times she'd pop up in my head but nothing like the one im having now. I feel pain, loneliness, and sadness. Im suddenly remembering everything as if it happened just yesterday. Im trying so hard to stay strong and ignore it. But the strength I thought I had seems gone. I dont understand this, Im so tempted to know how she is, how she's doing, if she's happy or sad. Just one sign from her. I thought ive been doing so well moving on with my life and finding happiness on my own. She's thousands of miles away and I know we'll never be together again. I want this to end but not sure how to let it happen. Ive turned down so many girls because Im not ready yet. Im most definitely sure im not ready now since this happened. Im having an anxiety attack and im not even sure why. Link to post Share on other sites
Ruby65 Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 I'm so sorry for what you're going through! But you're doing the right thing -- even though it's the harder thing to do -- by NOT just using other women as rebounds to make yourself feel better. Recovering from a breakup is a cyclical process... you're gradually working your way through the denial, through the sadness and anger and grieving to reach a point of acceptance. It doesn't happen in a straight line. I'm guessing that on some level, the breakup has become more real to you. Maybe part of you was still hoping that you'd hear from her by now, that she'd reconsider? And part of you is facing that it isn't happening? Please find healthy outlets for your anxiety. There's nothing better for it than exercise. Also be sure you're adding other meaningful things to your life, activities that feed your soul and make you happy just to do them. Keep strong, head high! You're doing great. Link to post Share on other sites
Author creyente7 Posted March 2, 2015 Author Share Posted March 2, 2015 I wish that were the case, except itm afraid acceptance is bot the answer. I went through that phase a while ago. December, when I got a letter from my University that I will no longer be attending the school the following semester. Forcing me to leave the state as well as all memories I have with her and being thousands of miles apart. That moment I knew all hope of recon. was gone. So the breakup becoming real happened a long time ago which is why im not understanding why all of a sudden these emotions are coming. Link to post Share on other sites
erklat Posted March 2, 2015 Share Posted March 2, 2015 (edited) What you described is not acceptance but you stopped being in denial. You acknowledged that breakup happened. Panic attacks can not happen again once You reached acceptance. Meditation helped me to relieve my anxiety. I know how hard it is, ruby65 gave you good advice. Edited March 2, 2015 by erklat Link to post Share on other sites
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