Marla Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 My ex and I broke up many years ago due to him being transfered by his job and my being unwilling to relocate with him. He was very hurt by my decision and it was a bitter, painful breakup. We broke off all contact and moved on. I have recently (about a year ago) contacted him and we are now in more or less frequent touch by e-mail. and phone. He was very reserved at first but is now opening up quite a bit. We are both single (we were both married before) and I'm hoping to get a second chance with him. Since we live on opposite coasts, we haven't met in person yet, even though he has mentioned that he will be in town on a business trip soon. I have told him that I still have a lot of strong feelings for him, but he has been very reluctant to "go there". He has told me that he was very much in love with me then, but wouldn't say anything about now. I assumed that he just wanted to be friends, at least for now. Because he sometimes wouldn't respond to some of my mails, I got an e-mail tracker to see if he even got them. Well, I found out that not only has he gotten all of my mails, but he opens and reads them constantly! Almost not a day goes by where he doesn't open them at least once, mostly several times a day. Some of my mails also contained pictures of me - nothing racey mind you, just ordinary pictures of me, fully clothed and all. He opens them first thing in the morning, during his lunch break, when he gets home, and before he goes to bed. I find that strange, since sometimes he won't write back for weeks on end, but he still looks at my mail. Is there hope that he may be interested in more than just being a good friend? On the one hand, he has never indicated that he is still interested in me romantically, but his actions suggest otherwise, or am I just fooling myself?
P1xie Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 Originally posted by Marla Is there hope that he may be interested in more than just being a good friend? On the one hand, he has never indicated that he is still interested in me romantically, but his actions suggest otherwise, or am I just fooling myself? You have answered your own questions. He has never indicated that he is still interested. I feel that you are reading his actions to for your own benefit. His actions of not responding to you right away to me would inticate that he isn't interested. Until he says otherwise I would not get your hopes up.
Sharmaine Posted February 2, 2005 Posted February 2, 2005 How do you know for sure that he still isn't married Marla......do you have any 'real' proof of that? While he might be saying he's single now, he may not be telling you the truth. This might explain why he doesn't and can't answer your emails all of the time, why he seems reluctant to go into 'feelings'...he may still have a wife and he knows he's doing wrong! On the offchance he isn't married though: I disagree with the poster who said that because he isn't answering all of your emails, that it shows a lack of interest. He's interested enough to read them all and daily, (he would block your mails IMO and if he wasn't interested). He's likely to be in his 'cave', the place where men go when trying to look for solutions/to think things over - read Men are from Mars & Women are from Venus if you havn't. When he resurfaces, he will likely be back in touch with you. Meanwhile I'd back off emailing him as regular as you are doing and give him some space in which to work out how he feels/what he wants. He has let you know that he will be on a business trip in your area shortly, something he need not have let you know and something that IMO he wouldn't have let you know, if there wasn't a spark of interest there. My guess is, is that he told you this because he wants you two to meet up perhaps?
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