hotpotato Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 (edited) Maybe a 35 year old guy might chase a woman in her late 40's early 50's-I can see that....But this scenario? Its more about a novelty and an easy lay from an old lady... TFY Guy in question is my ex. When we met I was 20 and he was 36. I would have to beg him for sex. Sex was always available to him. He would still turn around and chase older women, usually bbws. Actually, if Monica Porter put on about 50 lbs she'd be exactly his type. Another man I had attempted to date also prefers to date older women. I doubt he's the only one who chases older women. I dont think it's that common for men to chase much older women (or the other way around), but it does happen and not necessarily desperation, desire for novelty, or trying to get an easy lay. Edited March 4, 2014 by hotpotato Link to post Share on other sites
hotpotato Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 I'm not saying all guys are desperate. Obviously. Men can and do choose not to have sex with any mary, jane, or sally... What I am saying is that there are sufficient desperate men that it would not be too difficult for any woman to find a few for NSA sex. Hence the 'not an achievement' part. I do agree that it is generally relatively easy for a woman to get sex. Link to post Share on other sites
topaMAXX Posted March 4, 2014 Share Posted March 4, 2014 A woman journalist tries online dating for one night stands with much younger men and writes a book. Just like older men who screw much younger women for the ego boost, so did this woman with these guys. I can't help but feel it is a bit of revenge (re: her ex) knowing he'd read about it. She probably had more one night stands than he did. Ultimately both sexes who engage in this sort of behavior feel dissatisfied, if they are emotionally healthy. She does make a good point about people being disposable thanks to the internet and Tinder. I don't think any woman in the US would have difficulty having one night stands. Guys have very low standards here. Personally, as a 27 year old guy, I would never touch this woman, even when I was into the casual thing (though I've always prided myself on having options and standards). Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 (edited) I wonder if any of her young men, would want to be seen out in the open with her? Holding hands in the park, kissing over a candle lit table? Or going to doctor visits with her.... I agree with all the comments on how much easier it is for a woman of any age or shape to get NSA sex ...but one thing that I understood for women in their 60's and older is that the available pool of men their own age for committed relationships is shrinking. I remember older male relatives (widowed or divorced) literately being pounced on by similarly older ladies (who lost their husbands or partners). Those retirement communities had fierce competition for the dwindling males. Then again - these days being older is not like it used to be, 60's are the new 40's. Baby boomers are heading into retirement like they are going of to college. Edited March 5, 2014 by dichotomy 1 Link to post Share on other sites
dichotomy Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 (edited) I have a feeling that horny, desperate guys would screw an apple pie if they were given one. More like a "hot pocket" Teen Explains Why He Had Sex With A Hot Pocket I think Jim Gaffigan needs to update is routine on this wonderful American food. Edited March 5, 2014 by dichotomy 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Canucklehead Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 My "thesis" as you call it has nothing to do with age. Her quote: "I felt a vague dissatisfaction because something was not right. I realised I didn't actually care about any of these men. Had all these human beings, even the good and likeable ones, become disposable, mere off-the-shelf products? I didn't want to feel like that." I generally date men 10-15 years younger, with sixteen years being the biggest age gap thus far. I don't care what other people do, frankly. I found the article refreshing in that it showed more younger men have a fantasy about older women and it's become the cool thing to do. Nothing wrong with living out a fantasy between two consenting adults. Ultimately most people want a real connection beyond just their genitals. Nothing personal but I have seen your posts bashing guys for going after way younger women. RobertZ comes to mind..... Hope you are more careful about your comments after revealing your own experiences here if you do not want to feel the backlash. Just sayin'..... Link to post Share on other sites
Candy_Pants Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 My mom is in her early 50s and still gorgeous. And when I was single, she generally dated men younger than I preferred!! Who cares who this lady screws or their ages? Just consenting adults not hurting anyone. Link to post Share on other sites
janedoe67 Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 I have a feeling that horny, desperate guys would screw an apple pie if they were given one. This one time, at band camp.... Okay, now that I have that out of the way, age or not, I enjoyed reading her musings about dissatisfaction and people becoming disposable. While I am not longer tied to the idea that everyone must wait until marriage or you've stained yourself, I do feel a bit sad that we treat sex like ordering a pizza these days. it is intimate and special, or at least my opinion is that is should be. It does seem like people just don't care about other people the way they used to, and I wonder how much of it is being used to thinking we can treat people any way we want since they are "faceless" online. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
joystickd Posted March 5, 2014 Share Posted March 5, 2014 Guys are not that desperate lol. Who cares if she wants to be a cougar! The women that whine about men wanting younger women should do like her. I could think of a few on here that need to do it. Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 When someone writes a book about it, where it's obvious that she's getting off on the age disparity, as if it's something to brag about, it's just as annoying as Hugh Heffner and his totally creepy fixation on youth, sex and a big bowl of cocaine. I will never understand why people feel that getting laid is such a big deal since it's one of the easiest things people can get for free. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Trimmer Posted March 6, 2014 Share Posted March 6, 2014 When someone writes a book about it, where it's obvious that she's getting off on the age disparity, as if it's something to brag about, it's just as annoying as Hugh Heffner and his totally creepy fixation on youth, sex and a big bowl of cocaine. But according to the OP: My "thesis" as you call it has nothing to do with age. I know it's disingenuous of me to point that out, but I just couldn't help it. I will never understand why people feel that getting laid is such a big deal since it's one of the easiest things people can get for free. "Let them eat cake!" says the hot chick with the dancer's body... (and I say that with love and a big "mmmmmwuh" air kiss... ) Link to post Share on other sites
tbf Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 "Let them eat cake!" says the hot chick with the dancer's body... (and I say that with love and a big "mmmmmwuh" air kiss... )Dahling, don't forget that as an over 35 year old, I'm a wrinkly old version with dried up eggs, a shadow of my former self. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
ascendotum Posted March 8, 2014 Share Posted March 8, 2014 When someone writes a book about it, where it's obvious that she's getting off on the age disparity, as if it's something to brag about, it's just as annoying as Hugh Heffner and his totally creepy fixation on youth, sex and a big bowl of cocaine. I will never understand why people feel that getting laid is such a big deal since it's one of the easiest things people can get for free. lol. It depends if the subject of your lust shares the same feelings back as to if its going to be easy or a big deal....and if you're male or female. For a Hugh Hefner look a like minus the million $ empire & the mansion, consistently snagging cute 20 somethings as opposed to Doris, Mable or Flo from the bowling club would be big deal. That guy could write a book for other geezers Link to post Share on other sites
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