Baggins808 Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 So, My fiancé and I recently moved to an area where she want to be near so I took a job in the area. She found a job in a restaurant which was a quick way for her to make money before our wedding and before we attempted to have children. We were planing on a special wedding so were we're being celebant and she was also off birth control. She had been working in this restaurant for a few weeks before I started hearing rumors about her boss beeping a scum ball and I told her to quit. She got deffensinsive and defended him and said he's a nice guy. Keep in mind this guy lives with his 8 month pregnant gf. Well I had begged her to quit and asked her not to hang out there after work and not drink with him. Against my wishes she did, there were even a few instances where I was left at home and she went out with out me and never told me about seeing him or meeting up with him. Needless to say she ended up hanging out with him one night after she told me she was going home and was so called pressured into hanging out there. She ened up getting blacked out drunk and making out with him and maybe more according to her and doesn't remember much but the only resason she told me is because she got caught in the parking lot by my brother. She swears she didn't not have sex with him and is admit she loves me and misses what she had. She still want kids with me and the whole nine because I'm great to her. She seems sorry but I just can't seem to trust her. What do I do please help! Link to post Share on other sites
mishy Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 You can't trust her. You can't be sure that she won't do this again when you are married. Marriage won't make her suddenly trustworthy. Do you want to be with someone for the rest of your life that you can't fully trust? That whenever she gets a job you will be wondering if she is fooling around with the boss or a co- worker, the neighbour, etc etc etc You have to ask yourself these questions 1 Link to post Share on other sites
JDPT Posted July 22, 2013 Share Posted July 22, 2013 The only man who she should stick up for is you and she clearly can't commit to that. As previously stated, are you ok with worrying what she is doing not only at work but during her free time? It was probably best although hurtful for things to unfold the way they did. She is clearly not trustworthy and that's simply the way she is. I'm sure this is the beginning for you in an attempt to have questions answer and going through healing process. Take it a day at a time. It should be a good idea for you to start packing. Link to post Share on other sites
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