Zabs Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 At the risk of getting a lambasting from 'the family', sincerely, I am interested to know.. I guess my question is more directed to those who have a level of acceptance about event compared to those whose are raw. I personally, DO feel pity for my ex...but only in the point of I know what it feels like to think and feel something and not express it..saying that it is also I feeling I am distantly acquainted with...don't get me wrong...I still think...you made your bed...but the more time passes, it is clear I am dealing with it much better than he thought I would and indeed he is...and also, that he really has cut his nose off to spite his face...shame! Zabs xx
calreese Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 At the risk of getting a lambasting from 'the family', sincerely, I am interested to know.. I guess my question is more directed to those who have a level of acceptance about event compared to those whose are raw. I personally, DO feel pity for my ex...but only in the point of I know what it feels like to think and feel something and not express it..saying that it is also I feeling I am distantly acquainted with...don't get me wrong...I still think...you made your bed...but the more time passes, it is clear I am dealing with it much better than he thought I would and indeed he is...and also, that he really has cut his nose off to spite his face...shame! Zabs xx I wouldn't call it pity, but for me it seems like the better I feel about my situation, the more I can't help but wonder if this is what she expected to happen, or if she thought I would mope around and sit patiently for her to come to her senses. Either way, I know I've been more productive since the BU than she has, coming from mutual friends, and I haven't spoken to or seen her in 2 months so I can only assume I've done so for the last time... oh well, I'll survive
TheDovic Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I pity my ex for the level of perfectionism she feels towards her job. She has given up me and every friend in her life to work constantly. She has no social life anymore and spends every waking hour either in work or working at home on her computer. Everything she does must be perfect or she starts from the beginning. I've witnessed the frustration she feels at working towards the unattainable goal of perfectionism and it's heartbreaking to see!
Buttercup84 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 I pity him that he is so easily influenced by his friends , that he can't handle ups and downs and he can't be alone.
ffw Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Unforunately, things didn't worked out as we thought. I hope she is happy with the new guy. I won't say pity. The only thing concerns me is that she falls for guys easily. Evenmore, for the guys who don't want to have a serious relationship with her. At the end, she ends up getting hurt.
ken_25 Posted October 17, 2011 Posted October 17, 2011 Yeah, it's unfortunate that my ex bottles up all her problems and emotion so much that she'll break down every few months. Whether it's about her family problems, work, etc. I tried hard to help her with this, but I couldn't get through to her. I feel bad that she can't be alone, as in living alone and single, she'll compromise her situation as much as she can to not be alone. That she has to keep trying to find replacements for her mother, and actually call these people mom, because her relationship with her mom while stable, there is no true relationship there and so now she has found her next "mom" and new family and is happy on the outside currently. It's unfortunate that she feels the need to escape or run from things and not deal with them... I feel bad for her. I hope somehow the cycle will be broken.
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