jacksonBrown Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 some ppl love it, i just got out of a realationship of 3 years 7 weeks ago i've been hittin the clubs and pubs and hangin out with friends way more since the split but i much prefer having someone to come home to and be with every night i dont like one night stands much prefer a realationship
quankanne Posted June 18, 2011 Posted June 18, 2011 am sorry to hear of your break-up, and from what you've posted, I think you've realized that the club scene isn't gonna work. So I'm going to tell you what I've told countless female friends/relatives: Don't think of it as a time of loss, but an opportunity to discover yourself in a way that will help you bring more to a future relationship. what do you like doing? Hunting? Fishing? Camping? Get back into that stuff you enjoyed doing but may have fallen by the wayside because there was never any time, and then seriously consider taking up a new interest. Volunteer. Join a book club. Take a class on cooking, writing, welding, etc. just because it looks interesting. in other words, there's more to you than someone who's been wrenched out of a relationship and this is the time to discover yourself. Who knows? Maybe in meeting different groups of people, you'll find someone you feel comfortable spending time with and either end up with a good friend ... or someone to date! hugs, q
Author jacksonBrown Posted June 18, 2011 Author Posted June 18, 2011 thanks those are some encouraging words
Dorie Posted June 19, 2011 Posted June 19, 2011 There's nothing quite like the club and pub scene to make one feel acutely alone. I don't recommend you go there to find someone or to put your ex out of your mind. Going so as to spend time with your mates seems a more healthy motivation. You're in the thick of it, OP. The Hurting Zone. You can help the pain a bit by investing in your interests, if only as a distraction. Use the time for growth. The next woman will be coming along.
Truly_asia Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 I'm so sorry to hear that, and myself have been break up from end of Mar'11, so since then..I tried not to meet people around for the moment..and I don't think clubbing will help Try not to think about the past, and enjoy the presence of moment life, I'm like you in few months ago, I forgot surrounding me, my best friend..and I wake up, realised..this world not only for him/her.. We deserved to be happy, and life move on..pls try to look in positive way..every happend for reason...
reservoirdog1 Posted June 22, 2011 Posted June 22, 2011 am sorry to hear of your break-up, and from what you've posted, I think you've realized that the club scene isn't gonna work. So I'm going to tell you what I've told countless female friends/relatives: Don't think of it as a time of loss, but an opportunity to discover yourself in a way that will help you bring more to a future relationship. what do you like doing? Hunting? Fishing? Camping? Get back into that stuff you enjoyed doing but may have fallen by the wayside because there was never any time, and then seriously consider taking up a new interest. Volunteer. Join a book club. Take a class on cooking, writing, welding, etc. just because it looks interesting. in other words, there's more to you than someone who's been wrenched out of a relationship and this is the time to discover yourself. Who knows? Maybe in meeting different groups of people, you'll find someone you feel comfortable spending time with and either end up with a good friend ... or someone to date! Quoted for truth. Don't focus on finding your next relationship; focus on yourself. Do fun stuff with friends. Check out new interests, sports,or potential hobbies -- even if you try something once and don't like it, you've benefitted. Practice your flirting when you go out (and not just to clubs -- everywhere), but focus on the flirting itself, not on the desired end result. Have fun with it. And if you meet somebody cool in the process, so much the better.
light_vader Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 My God, so much people with so great thoughts! Damn if only we could hang out in "real life" and exchange our views. This is all great and spot on, and definitely... a "playa" life... what is it good for... Nothing like making love to somebody you... love.
crazyd Posted June 24, 2011 Posted June 24, 2011 Try not to think too much of being single. Enjoy the time you're spending with your friends, and yourself with hobbies, etc. You'll eventually find someone else to have a relationship with, but don't force yourself to get out there and find that person ASAP; especially considering how recent your break-up is.
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