Mad Max Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 Most jerk men want quick sex. Most good men are willing to wait a bit. Waiting a bit is one thing, but no man is going to stick around without getting sex.
dispatch3d Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 This is all part of the playing hard to get game. no, it's part of the treating people like **** game. And putting up with it or ignoring it is just causing me to treat girls like **** for no reason. So I'm not putting up with it anymore.
NeoGen85 Posted September 2, 2010 Posted September 2, 2010 I found out that young men and women tend to play the game period regardless of how they look. Some don't. I've always been real about everything so I don't mind speaking up from day. You get to a point where you think that the two of you are about to move forward. But someone decides to initiate "the game". Right when that happens you can be yourself, and have real talk. Or just play along. But once you put yourself in that position you become apart of the problem. I played the game for 6 month with my current girlfriend. I felt horrible that entire time. There was one question I had on my mind before the game was initiated. If I had asked that question much earlier during the time we had been playing games it wouldn't have been 6 months of going back and forth.
ChicaMusica Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I'd personally get tired if a guy tried hard to get. I've seen girls do it and it's stupid. Then again some guys get pissed because the girl likes them, but wants to get to know them as friends before anything. I mean who wants to date someone they're unable to have a substantial conversation with besides flriting in circles? Personally I'd like it if the guy would get to the point.
Hopeful30 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Because a woman wants serious men to approach her, not the dirty perves who go for whats easy just cuz they don't need to put in any effort. It's those guys that we want, the ones that will put in the effort and try, not the ones who go for what's easy just cuz.
Disillusioned Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 I never let those HTG-players get to the starting line. If they're not willing to do the Interview, I take the hint and show as little interest in them as possible. They actually get kind of PO'd because I send them the message that power isn't mine to give them.
jamesum Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Because a woman wants serious men to approach her, not the dirty perves who go for whats easy just cuz they don't need to put in any effort. It's those guys that we want, the ones that will put in the effort and try, not the ones who go for what's easy just cuz. What a dumb logic. A perv is a perv. For those guys the harder you play the more determined they get also. It doesnt matter even if you make them chase you for years. You are just a game for them from the start.
phineas Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 Because a woman wants serious men to approach her, not the dirty perves who go for whats easy just cuz they don't need to put in any effort. It's those guys that we want, the ones that will put in the effort and try, not the ones who go for what's easy just cuz. If a guy is the hit-it & quit-it type he's going to hit-it & quit-it regardless of how long you make him chase because after putting in his chase time with you he just has to stop, turn around & go home with the chick chasing him. These guys can wait forever for sex with you because they got sex with someone else.
Hopeful30 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 What a dumb logic. A perv is a perv. For those guys the harder you play the more determined they get also. It doesnt matter even if you make them chase you for years. You are just a game for them from the start. Ya but think about it, if there is a girl who isn't as easy, and then there's a slut, who will the perv approach first? Exactly. It's a way of filtering out the idiots. But you make it sound like hard to get means total bitch. In my eyes, hard to get means she doesn't open her legs within the first week of knowing someone.
Hopeful30 Posted September 4, 2010 Posted September 4, 2010 If a guy is the hit-it & quit-it type he's going to hit-it & quit-it regardless of how long you make him chase because after putting in his chase time with you he just has to stop, turn around & go home with the chick chasing him. These guys can wait forever for sex with you because they got sex with someone else. Really? As far as im concerned, there are guys that I didn't sleep with within the first few dates, and because of this they said "f*ck this" and went on to date someone who did. If they have sex with other people then why would they even bother waiting? Might as well get whats available.
jamesum Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 Ya but think about it, if there is a girl who isn't as easy, and then there's a slut, who will the perv approach first? Exactly. It's a way of filtering out the idiots. But you make it sound like hard to get means total bitch. In my eyes, hard to get means she doesn't open her legs within the first week of knowing someone. What are you talking about? Playing hard to get has nothing to do with sex. Playing hard to get is pretending not to be attracted when a guy makes a move on you when you actually are and makes him keep chasing you while giving him mixed signals all the time. C'mon, even 6th graders know what playing hard to get is.
EasyHeart Posted September 5, 2010 Posted September 5, 2010 How do you know if a woman is "playing" hard to get or she really IS hard to get?
jamesum Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 How do you know if a woman is "playing" hard to get or she really IS hard to get? You cant. Thats why playing hard to get is annoying and stupid. Someone can approach you with genuine intention but you pretend to show no interest and that person stops because he/she thinks you arent interested.
phineas Posted September 6, 2010 Posted September 6, 2010 Really? As far as im concerned, there are guys that I didn't sleep with within the first few dates, and because of this they said "f*ck this" and went on to date someone who did. If they have sex with other people then why would they even bother waiting? Might as well get whats available. But, did they keep dateing those women who put out or did they move onto the next target?
Sphere Posted September 7, 2010 Posted September 7, 2010 I call a woman 2x without calling her back and I'm automatically a stalker. You really think that I'm going to kiss someone on the first 3 dates? A slap across the face would be the least of my problems if I kiss too early. That's bs that I'm sexless. I'm using to hiding it but the sex hormones are raging inside. It seems like to have a chance a woman has to feel a spark within seconds of meeting me. That hasn't happened yet. I probably will be in the same place 10 years from now. Who says you are a stalker? If you continually try and make contact with a woman who doesn't have the common decency to return your calls because she is not interested and has taken the easier option of "avoiding you" then that represents desperation, there's nothing "stalker" about that, whatsoever. I always escalate with kino up to the point where she is expecting me to kiss her, if she is receptive of all the other kino then I will definitely go in for the kiss and if she rejects my advances then at least I tried and failed rather than not try at all. "Hesistency only leads to regret". I also highly doubt any sane woman would slap you for trying to kiss them on a date, they'll politely decline and that will be that. Hiding it? Why are you hiding it? So when I said you are a feminized man who is sexually repressed and you said "I was a jerk and I was wrong", I was in fact right wasn't I? It's not about me being right or wrong, the issue here is why for you entire life have you hidden your sexuality and refused to embrace it? If you treat a girl as a friend, you'll land in the friendzone. I'd sooner get rejected outright then take my time while winding up in the friendzone, because it takes a special man to climb out of the friendzone, believe me. "Never hide your intentions, always be honest to people, but more importantly always be honest with yourself". It seems as though you have resigned to a life of involuntary celebacy and loneliness, why? I think you are depressed myself, you show all the signs of the Morrissey-complex and that's not a great complex to have, you need to pick yourself up, inspire yourself and get on with getting what you want. You owe it to yourself.
Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 because women have the vagina, and they know there are suckers that will chase till the end of time. PERIOD if EVERY guy in the world stopped chasing, the women would change their ways.
Gattica Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 ^When a guy shows me he is interested in more than just my vagina...things go a lot more smoothly! I don't play hard to get. I am upfront with what it is I am looking for and see if we are compatible and on the same page. Playing hard to get is not just something women do. I have had men play hard to get as well...I guess it was more that they just weren't that into me, but backburneedr me in case the other women they are chasing after don't want what they is selling.
Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 ^When a guy shows me he is interested in more than just my vagina...things go a lot more smoothly! How the hell is a guy supposed to get a chance to prove that when you cant even get women to answer their phone or reply to your text/voicemail? I don't play hard to get. I am upfront with what it is I am looking for and see if we are compatible and on the same page. Amazing how no matter what is posted on here, women will always reply " I dont do that" Just once I want to see an honest women post on here in a thread and have her admit that yes she does whats being implied. .
Gattica Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 How the hell is a guy supposed to get a chance to prove that when you cant even get women to answer their phone or reply to your text/voicemail? Amazing how no matter what is posted on here, women will always reply " I dont do that" Just once I want to see an honest women post on here in a thread and have her admit that yes she does whats being implied. . Why would I admit to doing something I don't do? I return phone calls and texts. I initiate them as well. I suggest places to go and when to meet. If anything, I tend to come off as not needing a guy (ie, you don't have to pick me up, I will meet you or even pick him up. As I grow more comfortable with a man, I will let him pick me up). This is a habit I need to break because it comes off as disinterest when in fact, I am interested, but have some insecurities that I tend to mask with the independent woman thing. Sometimes I don't even realize I am doing it until it is too late. It is a hard habit to break.
Serenitynow Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 you don't have to pick me up, I will meet you or even pick him up. Come pick me up
phineas Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Ehmm... You shure you are a woman? Because women NEVER initiate phone calls/texts or dates. They do when their pushing 40 & your a guy who hasn't been in jail, gainfully employed, not a substance abuser, or a lifetime bachelor.
LoveLace Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 They do when their pushing 40 & your a guy who hasn't been in jail, gainfully employed, not a substance abuser, or a lifetime bachelor. Don't have to be pushing 40 to want a guy like that "Hard to get" is all a game to me that I've never been good at. If I don't like a guy, I tell him so, if I do like him, I let it show. On the other hand I'm bad about expressing my feelings in words vs. actions. If that looks like I'm playing games then I don't mean for it to look that way, obviously. Anyway like I said, not afraid to show a guy I like him, I just try not to over do it on the phone calls and such and give a guy room to at least think he might be chasing a little; which doesn't feel like a "hard to get" game, pretending to be something I'm not, or whatever. If I back off some it's not meant to appear like I"m playing a game, I just figure both parties put the effort in whenever they can or feel like it...
WowReally Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 They do when their pushing 40 & your a guy who hasn't been in jail, gainfully employed, not a substance abuser, or a lifetime bachelor. WOW! Really?! Ouch
phineas Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 WOW! Really?! Ouch Yep. They were blowing up my phone right up until we went out & they figured out I dug them also then they play the "busy" game. If I get busy also then their all of sudden not busy on a day they said they were busy. Women playing hard to get stop playing so hard once they realize you'd rather go out with another woman than wait for them to decide they have time for you.
meerkat stew Posted September 8, 2010 Posted September 8, 2010 Women playing hard to get stop playing so hard once they realize you'd rather go out with another woman than wait for them to decide they have time for you. This should be stickied. It contains the solution to over half the male dating problems here on LS.
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