nydesii Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 me and my boyfriend have been going out for a year and 3 months. it was very rocky, its basically the first real relationship for both of us. at first he'd be a real jerk and say stupid things because he didnt really know how to handle a girl. i let that stuff go, talked to him, we had a few fights about it cuz he wouldnt understand, but he eventually grew up and realized he was at fault for the fights and stopped the stupid stuff. then, i had a problem. i would be oversensitive and overanalytical of everything he said and even when he was joking around about things and jus having fun id get too serious and try to analyze why he said some jokes and he would get mad at that cuz i was bitching for no reason and ruining the fun when hes jus tryna make some laughs. and i got that after a while i needed to stop that. so im trying to do that now, but sometimes it still happens. but in like the past month both of us have been so much better and there really hasnt been a fight all month and that was one great streak. when i would get mad and bitch about little things, at one point he said he was going to talk to me less and start jus checking in on me a few times during the day instead of actually talking to me normally so i would have less to pick on. i didnt like it, so i promised him i would stop being like that and take the jokes and joke back and stop being so uptight. after a while, he finally did start talking to me normally again and we joked and laughed and were extremely happy being ourselves and being what we both wanted from each other. i wanted him to be himself and talk normally, and he wanted me to be able to handle it and joke along with him and laugh. yeah well yesterday i was having a bad day to begin with. i wasnt feeling great, kinda pissed off at my mom, and worried about stuff. and i saw my bf at work, he was joking around and stuff like usual, he said one thing but i didnt like it and it was bothering me. he asked me what i rate myself on a scale of 1-10. i guess i overanalyzed and i thought he was asking to see how high on the scale id put myself and then make fun of me for it. well he got mad cuz i overanalyzed and im being exactly the way i was before and going back to that bitch. picking on his jokes, being too sensitive etc. but it was ONE time after so long, i slipped. why cant he forgive me for it? i told him it was an off day and im sorry but i wont do it again, and now hes like "no, now i cant talk normally to you. ur just gonna pick on everything and be a bitch; ill check in on you but i dont feel like talking to you" why cant he just let this go? i apologized a billion times, weve been fine the past month, his joked were fine, i was fine, we were happy. one slip-up and its a huge deal? what should i do?
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