babygrrl Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 I spent 4 years in a relationship with a man who was controlling and verbally abusive. After leaving him, I moved out of state and began a relationship with a guy I had dated briefly in college. He is a wonderful person, and showers my daughter and I with love..but I feel really insecure and always think he is going to want to be with someone else. When we are watching tv, I wonder if he used to watch that show with his ex. When we go out to eat, I can't enjoy the restaraunt because in the back of my head, I wonder if he took his ex there. He was with his ex for 7 years and they had a lifestyle of constant partying and he was a musician. He gave it all up for me and the family life (he and his ex have been broken up for 3 years) I want to stop feeling so insecure, but I don't know how! I'm turning into my ex and I know how it felt when he constantly controlled me, and I don't want to do the same to my new boyfriend. How can I stop….?
Jaymar21 Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Dont let ur past ruin ur future! You have said urself he gave up a lot to be with you, So he obviously loves u! By you being this way u will push him away that really should be enough for you to stop! everytime your getting paranoid just think to urself you could loose him this time! If all else fails perhaps you should talk to your partner about it????? I was in a situation a few weeks ago where i came on here and was asking for advice and i got nothing so i decided to brave it out and just tell him what i thought, turns out that was exactly the right thing to do! What is meant to be will be so dont threat.........good luck
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