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PhillyDude Established Member

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Credit Card?-lol

 

It's never no end to the dumb things that come out of some women mouth. What difference would it make how the meal was paid for as long his CC was in good standing?

 

She said that-"doesn't set a great pecent for dates to come a possible long term relationship"

 

 

Can someone please tell me what she is talking about?

EYECANDY000 Established Member

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Did you ask her to elaborate further.. that doesnt make since.....

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PhillyDude Established Member

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Did you ask her to elaborate further.. that doesnt make since.....

 

 

She said it's a sign that he can't manage his money

AverageJoe Established Member

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I think in her minds eye it could possibly signal finanacial irresponsibility and accumulating debt, and a sign of over all irresponsiblity.

 

This is a pretty damn dumb outlook if you ask me. Besides, his financial status or obligations are simply none of her business at all. Ever.

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Obviously not the most intelligent of women. I see people pay with credit cards all the time. As long as he makes all his payments on time, I don't see where the problem is. Sounds like she's just looking for any reason to dump him.

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I don't understand it either. Plenty of fiscally responsible people use credit cards instead of cash. It's not a sign of anything.

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Thats totally ignorant for someone to make that assumption.

 

I use my credit card for EVERYTHING possible because I get killer cash back on purchases. I pay it off each month without accruing any interest.

 

Its actually a smart thing to do if used right, but of course people love to assume.

 

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****, I don't own a credit card. I guess you're going to have to pay then.

 

Seriously I would move on the second a girl said that. Does she have to spell gold digger on your forehead?

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I see where the girl is coming from. Some people who use credit cards to pay for most things are probably in debt. My mom dated a dude like that. Had a home, nice car, always going out to eat but owned nothing. If he lost his job, he'd be SOL.

 

Some are smart enough to use CCs with no annual fee rewards programs for miles or percentages back on purchases. Since you're going to spend money on essentials like food and gas anyway, why not get something back from it in rewards or percentage back?

 

Honestly, I think she has the right to be suspicious or consider it a red flag to look further into.

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It just demonstrates massive financial ignorance. Half the cards people carry now are ATM cards that are serviced by the big credit servicers, draw straight from a checking account, and are indistinguishable from a credit card unless she is looking way too close.

 

This would be akin to assuming that a woman who brings a large purse on a date is looking to shack up or is a kleptomaniac.

 

Perhaps she's used to dating drug dealers or loan sharks.

 

In your shoes, would not be dating that one further.

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Honestly, I think she has the right to be suspicious or consider it a red flag to look further into.

 

My financial obligations are none of a dates business. One of the points of going out on a date is to get to know each other, well she doesnt know him, thats why they went out. If he chooses to share intimate financial details with her that is his call. A dumb one, but such is life.

 

If that was the only eventful thing she walks away from on dates, I want no part of a woman like that.

 

I have a company credit card that allows me expenses. She doesnt know that, so I must be in financial ruins.

WTRanger Established Member

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Next date, pay in all pennies. Nothing says financially responsible like lugging around a fat sack with a dollar sign on it.

dispatch3d Established Member

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lol if I'm nice enough to take a girl out and buy her a meal, then she's going to bitch or pass on me because of the way I paid for said meals? Girl doesn't have her priorities straight.

 

Move on to the next one.

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I use my credit card for EVERYTHING possible because I get killer cash back on purchases. I pay it off each month without accruing any interest.

 

Its actually a smart thing to do if used right, but of course people love to assume.

 

Yup, totally agreed. I do the same, except with both my credit and debit cards since both get rewards/cash-back. I've paid off the full balance each month every time (literally, every single time) and have never had a late payment.

 

If we were talking about, say, 20 years ago when this kind of thing wasn't common, she might have a point in being suspicious, but these days, you really can't tell the health of someone's finances by how they pay for something. There are people who use credit cards all the time and are up to their eyeballs in debt, and there are people who use credit cards all the time and have their finances in order. You just can't tell.

 

If a guy pays only in cash, every single time, does that mean you should be suspicious that his credit is so bad that he can't even get a credit card? :rolleyes:

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My financial obligations are none of a dates business. One of the points of going out on a date is to get to know each other, well she doesnt know him, thats why they went out. If he chooses to share intimate financial details with her that is his call. A dumb one, but such is life.

 

If they're going to get serious, they would have to share their financial situations eventually. Financial matters have ruined some marriages, and I've been using the word "some."

 

Seriously, if the girl was a true gold digger, she wouldn't care how the guy pays. Just pay. The guy can pay in cash, pennies, credit, check, whatever as long as she's not paying. She'll just see the guy as an ATM and wouldn't care about the possibility of him being irresponsible and in debt. :laugh:

 

I certainly see where you all are coming from as well though for a girl to be suspicious of someone just b/c they're using CCs to pay for everything.

 

If a guy pays only in cash, every single time, does that mean you should be suspicious that his credit is so bad that he can't even get a credit card? :rolleyes:

 

There are prepaid cards, too, nowadays. :lmao:

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There are prepaid cards, too, nowadays. :lmao:

 

True! The obvious solution is to perform a credit check and demand to see bank statements. ;)

lso802 Established Member

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:laugh: I don't doubt that some people do.
AverageJoe Established Member

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If they're going to get serious, they would have to share their financial situations eventually. Financial matters have ruined some marriages, and I've been using the word "some."

 

 

Potentially, yeah. Were talking about a date here. Maybe she should take the initiative to annie up for the bill next time. Problem solved.

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Well, OP said every date, so I was thinking it would be several dates until she got suspicious. Oh we've had lots of threads about girls paying or not.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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Well, OP said every date, so I was thinking it would be several dates until she got suspicious. Oh we've had lots of threads about girls paying or not.

 

Actually she shouldn't be paying attention to how the meal is being paid for as long as she ain't paying. It would be no way for her to see what I'm taking out my wallet anyway

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Well, call me crazy... but I'd notice and I'd be cautious/concerned too. I understand some people always pay with a CC for miles/bonus points purposes, and the like, but if that and other things caused me to think he was living beyond his means, I'd be concerned and might say something.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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Well, call me crazy... but I'd notice and I'd be cautious/concerned too. I understand some people always pay with a CC for miles/bonus points purposes, and the like, but if that and other things caused me to think he was living beyond his means, I'd be concerned and might say something.

 

 

How would you notice if the inside the inside of my wallet is facing me?

lso802 Established Member

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Somehow, you are discreetly handing your CC to the waiter/waitress without your dates noticing? :confused:

AverageJoe Established Member

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Well, call me crazy... but I'd notice and I'd be cautious/concerned too. I understand some people always pay with a CC for miles/bonus points purposes, and the like, but if that and other things caused me to think he was living beyond his means, I'd be concerned and might say something.

 

 

Really? Well, in that case I would suggest you just be preemtive and end all contact immediately. Why bother if it is that important to you? End it.

Rememeber this question was posed in the context of a date(s). And on a date, if someone questioned me as you suggested you may do, im out. OUT!

 

Here is a deeper question. Why would you be cautious or concerend to begin with at all? Its just a date. Crazy.

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PhillyDude Established Member

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Somehow, you are discreetly handing your CC to the waiter/waitress without your dates noticing? :confused:

 

The receipt is usually inside something that you put your CC inside of and hand to the waiter

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