LoveLace Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 A friend of mine told me about a single guy she knows a couple months ago. We were together that night so she took it upon herself to text him and see what he was doing. The only photo she had to show me was hard to tell if he was attractive or not, but cute considering I could hardly see his face in it...anyway, he was out that night, but by then it was late so her and I just called it a night. A couple times after that, she tried to arrange a night out for the 3 of us, but my schedule kept clashing with hers so I couldn't make it work...not to mention they both live on the other side of town from me, something to consider of course if the plan is to go out drinking. Weeks later, she finally says that he keeps bugging her about meeting me, so she just gave me his number. That day I texted him to say hello, and without even having a conversation what so ever, he says what are you doing tonight? I wasn't able to do anything (I have work hours that can be inconvenient for social life to say the least). Later in the week he invites me to have drinks at a place that is, of course, on the other side of town...I told him it would be better if I didn't have to drive as far since drinks are involved. Then he never texts me again until that very day comes, and says come out here and you can stay at my place tonight... Sorry but I'm not going to drive to the other side of town to meet a total stranger who hasn't even had a real conversation with me yet, with plans to stay over night at his house!! So I ended up just saying thanks for the invite, but decided to stay home tonight. Of course, haven't heard from him since which is fine. Am I wrong to feel like the guy is a little to desperate or something? Something about the whole thing turned me off big time. I feel bad because it's a friend of a friend, and I appreciate her efforts, but the guy wouldn't even initiate a real phone call or chat with me somewhat, all he cared about was getting me out for drinks...no thanks. ??
bobdole Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Most men should know better than to invite the girl to his place on the first meet for any reason unless he thinks shes "easy" or looking for a ONS. I have enough trouble getting women to believe I'm not a serial killer much less get them to my place... (exagerating, but the amount of suspicion and paranoia with women is crazy)
EYECANDY000 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 theres absolutely nothing to feel bad about. Its about your comfort. I would be put off by it him I try to initiate a conversation and they immediately ask if I want to hang out. Isnt the whole point of getting to know someone is by conversing first. Lose this guys number....
Author LoveLace Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 theres absolutely nothing to feel bad about. Its about your comfort. I would be put off by it him I try to initiate a conversation and they immediately ask if I want to hang out. Isnt the whole point of getting to know someone is by conversing first. Lose this guys number.... Good if someone agrees with me then I didn't over react.. I know that it probably looked bad when I could never get my schedule together for meeting him, and I'm sure he was just trying to be nice and accomadating by giving me a place to stay...but still, DUH, not a proper circumstance for a 1st meeting...not to mention lack of getting to know me first...
lso802 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I don't know what the dude was thinking. I don't think you were irrational though.
Author LoveLace Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 I don't know what the dude was thinking. I don't think you were irrational though. Right even though we have a mutual friend, to me it's no different than meeting an online date for the first time, hence inviting me to your place for the night is, well ridiculous?
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