jtjohnny102 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I've been with my girlfriend for over 6 years and we used to be such a happy couple and when she turned 21 shes been enjoying her time. Unfortunately, I get jealous and don't trust her when shes out and about and then it gets to the point where it ends up in an argument. I guess i'm not used to feeling like I've been pushed to the side and now I feel like she doesn't put as much effort into findin time for me. she says im smothering her and that work and moving and everything has gotten her stressed out. What i dont understand is that she says she wants to see me but when she can find time...the thing is she finds time to go out with her girls at night and whatnot but not even enough time to spend time with me??? We're still together but she says she needs some room to breath and that she does miss me and wants to see me but shes just really busy and stressed out. It kills me when i try to ignore her and give her space but i dont know how and end up giving in to txt her and see how shes doing and etc. How do I keep myself from doing this...I really want to give her space but the anxiety is so much i end up txting her one way or another. i also just moved back about a week ago after taking up an internship and we still have not seen eachother since ive been back...what is going on!!?? I'm getting mixed emotions from her and I dont understand it....she misses me an wants to see me but she also wants room to breath??? Is my jealousy an so forth with her finding time for her friends and not me causing some of the arguments? I just need help and I dont know what to do...
Sabali Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 Guy, I really like that you and your girl have been together for 6 years and to be so young. That is great. I want to see this one work. A lot of adults can learn from you but boy are you being clingy. When a woman asks you to give her space, always do it. You can either give her space eternally or enough for her to not feel smothered anymore but always give it to her. Find someone else to hang with such as friends but please give the woman some room and always do it when she asks for it.
carhill Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 If she said the words 'I want my space' to someone who has been her monogamous partner for six years, that's like a married person saying 'I'd like to separate'. In implies a de-evolvement of the committed relationship. She's young and hasn't tasted all the guys whom she's interacted with in those six years. Women are no different from men in that regard. Accept that she wants her space. That space comes with consequences, since taking it abandons you, whether situationally or globally. Enjoy your space too. You're only young once
bobdole Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I kind of get the impression shes on the verge of "checking out" and may just be tired of you after 6 years
Author jtjohnny102 Posted August 20, 2010 Author Posted August 20, 2010 I think personally I'm having difficulties of the change. I'm not used to not being around her as much and now her friends have become a large part of her life again. It's been years since I caught her talking to her ex. it wasn't anything bad, it was just something that threw me off guard and i felt as though my trust had been damaged. I need to figure out how to move on from past issues because I'm feeling like I don't trust her even to this day is because I cant leave the past behind. What are some ways to move on from the past?? I've tried so hard...is it something i should speak to a counselor or someone professional about? Ugh i dont wanna lose her, but I keep making the wrong moves lately....I've learned to accept a majority is my fault, but why cant i seem to change...
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