Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 that was my greatest moment when i went up to her because i was so confident that night idk how that happened, but i wanna get to that place again, lately i've been scared to approach girls, where at one point i didnt give a crap and could do it, but now im back to square one. any pointers? Only pointer is JUST DO IT. See a girl you like and just walk up and say "Ooogly boogly" if thats all you can think of at the time... thens say "Lets do dinner at ________ tonight at 6:30" try to pick a good resteraunt that isn't that expensive and isn't a chain... just make sure its good. then get her number.. then make sure you KISS on the date. Remember JUST DO IT... don't think and say "Some weather we've been having " or what ever silly flirty crap comes to your mind... it doesn't matter what you say as long as you say it in a good voice... a sane voice... a guy who has his sht togather voice... Nervouse stutter voice is fine if you can't help it. Then just keep on hitting on women. If you get one womans number and agreement to go on a date... but then later that day see another pretty girl... get her to agree to lunch the next day... then you have two number and two dates..
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 that was my greatest moment when i went up to her because i was so confident that night idk how that happened, but i wanna get to that place again, lately i've been scared to approach girls, where at one point i didnt give a crap and could do it, but now im back to square one. any pointers? You seem to worry too much about the outcome, especially after this last girl said she doesn't want to date you. Not all of them are going to be like her, so don't go in assuming that a girl won't be interested. Once you get over your fear of the outcome and stop caring whether they say yes or no, you'll be right back on track. Get some.
Author doomage Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Actually i do have a clue, i mean i made all those six lays happen, the girls didn't fall on my lap, plus i've been studying seduction and social interactions for awhile now, the trick is putting it into practice, which this year is my first year actually improving. I just don't believe in myself at times, but when i do things happen.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Wow, it's amazing how guys who seem to not have a clue what they are doing seem to get girls. And this is the sixth girl he's slept with, unfreaking believable! If it makes you feel better I havn't even slept with that many girls. I've slept with my current gf hundreds of times though.
Author doomage Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 That's good green, it's a beautiful thing, thats probably more meaningful than a bunch of random girls. But since this is the second time i've been burned i feel like i should just go out meet girls with no outcome of commitment and just have fun whether it's just having sex, and hanging out with no title. Because this last girl was the hottest girl i've been with, so of course i want more and better girls, and if i did it once i can do it again. I just dont wanna settle for a girl that chooses me that isn't what i want like in the past.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 That's good green, it's a beautiful thing, thats probably more meaningful than a bunch of random girls. But since this is the second time i've been burned i feel like i should just go out meet girls with no outcome of commitment and just have fun whether it's just having sex, and hanging out with no title. Because this last girl was the hottest girl i've been with, so of course i want more and better girls, and if i did it once i can do it again. I just dont wanna settle for a girl that chooses me that isn't what i want like in the past. well hit on some girls tomorrow. BE YOURSELF around them .The real you.
somedude81 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Actually i do have a clue, i mean i made all those six lays happen, the girls didn't fall on my lap, plus i've been studying seduction and social interactions for awhile now, the trick is putting it into practice, which this year is my first year actually improving. I just don't believe in myself at times, but when i do things happen. Obviously that's the case now, but with the content of your previous posts people got the impression that you were a virgin. Then you go and so, "Oh by the way, we've already had sex." My first guess is that it was a fool's mate. But when you said she was the sixth, something had to be up. BTW, after the success you've had, how can you not believe in yourself? That doesn't make any sense. Confidence is gained through accomplishments.
Author doomage Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Thanks Green I will do from now on Somedude: Well 3 of those girls were me just settling or being horny lol, the first girl i lost my virginity to a week after meeting her i was 19 im 21 now, she didnt know i was a virgin. the second was a friend i had for 10 years, we didnt have sex before because it just didnt happen but the sexual energy was there, when i went to visit california where i used to live and where she lives one thing led to another and we did it. Another one was kinda big and i was just horny and she was just a f buddy. Now in the beginning of this year i met a girl at a club through friends and i got her number and we went out couple times but only did it once, i guess i sucked lol i didnt last too long but we still hung out. after that fizzled out a girl by my job liked me and i didnt even know she did but i asked her out and we went out, sex only once. Then comes this last girl which is asian by the way i put her in a separate plane, because this is the first pretty girl that i saw, knew that i wanted her and actually got her. Becuase in the past all the girls i ever liked either didnt like me or friend zoned me, and that night at the party i saw this girl and thought she was so pretty and i just went over put my hand out to shake hers confidently and said "hey doomage" and i dont even remember the rest but what was funny was that i wasn't thinking at that point, i was just being. But thats the start of breaking my old reality into a new one, i guess through some more success then ill believe in myself more.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Thanks Green I will do from now on Somedude: Well 3 of those girls were me just settling or being horny lol, the first girl i lost my virginity to a week after meeting her i was 19 im 21 now, she didnt know i was a virgin. the second was a friend i had for 10 years, we didnt have sex before because it just didnt happen but the sexual energy was there, when i went to visit california where i used to live and where she lives one thing led to another and we did it. Another one was kinda big and i was just horny and she was just a f buddy. Now in the beginning of this year i met a girl at a club through friends and i got her number and we went out couple times but only did it once, i guess i sucked lol i didnt last too long but we still hung out. after that fizzled out a girl by my job liked me and i didnt even know she did but i asked her out and we went out, sex only once. Then comes this last girl which is asian by the way i put her in a separate plane, because this is the first pretty girl that i saw, knew that i wanted her and actually got her. Becuase in the past all the girls i ever liked either didnt like me or friend zoned me, and that night at the party i saw this girl and thought she was so pretty and i just went over put my hand out to shake hers confidently and said "hey doomage" and i dont even remember the rest but what was funny was that i wasn't thinking at that point, i was just being. But thats the start of breaking my old reality into a new one, i guess through some more success then ill believe in myself more. I didn't kiss a girl until I was 22
somedude81 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 I didn't kiss a girl until I was 22 I got mine at 23, but this isn't a contest, I'd win either way Well 3 of those girls were me just settling or being horny lol, Settling, an interesting word. What does it mean to you? I could have slept with three additional girls if I settled for them. The problem was that they grossed me out and I didn't even want to imagine them naked. I did make out with one of them. She was fat but kinda cute. Annoyingly enough she actually had small tits. I got her shirt off, but had no desire to take it any further. She was also the first girl I've kissed.
Author doomage Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Settling to me means just being with the girl not because you really want her but because thats all you think you deserve or can get at the time. Like one of the girls kinda smelled down there this was the bigger chick, and it smelled really bad but i stll did it with her because at the time i was like "well i rather have some smelly P*ssy then none" lol now im like hell no, but i had my low moments. It's kind of funny to look back on now, but wow desperate times. But see now im settling for this girl even though shes pretty and hot or whatever, im settling because i feel i cant get better even though realistically i can. So im retroactively trying to get her back so i can feel better about myself, but that aint right, and she obviously doesn't want me so why bother.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Settling to me means just being with the girl not because you really want her but because thats all you think you deserve or can get at the time. Like one of the girls kinda smelled down there this was the bigger chick, and it smelled really bad but i stll did it with her because at the time i was like "well i rather have some smelly P*ssy then none" lol now im like hell no, but i had my low moments. It's kind of funny to look back on now, but wow desperate times. But see now im settling for this girl even though shes pretty and hot or whatever, im settling because i feel i cant get better even though realistically i can. So im retroactively trying to get her back so i can feel better about myself, but that aint right, and she obviously doesn't want me so why bother. You should never settle. Only be with girls that you TRUELY LIKE. Thats what it means to BE YOURSELF. Every girl I've been with I've found completely beautiful
Author doomage Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 i truely did like this girl, but as soon as i liked her more than she liked me she lost interest, that or i showed her a weak side of me.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 i truely did like this girl, but as soon as i liked her more than she liked me she lost interest, that or i showed her a weak side of me. Some times things just don't work out. Seems like you allowed her to treat you bad. That is unattractive. You should also hold back on liking a girl to much for the first month or 2 Just date many girls (not necesarily sex) but just date many girls at once
Author doomage Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Well ya i never thought she'd treat me bad, but even the nicest girls will treat you bad once they lose attraction for you, and respect, if you let them. The last day where everything went to hell i sensed something was very wrong, because i hadn't seen her in a week and i wanted to pick her up around 7 and she said "oh thats too late i dont think i can go" and i was like wtf and so i compromised and said a earlier time and shes said no i want to drive so i said ok fine meet me at so and so and so she says "what are we gonna do" and i siad "dont worry well have fun" and she said "cant we just go to so and sos house everybody is hanging out there" and like a chode i said "ya but later" and she said "well my later is in thirty minutes" so i agreed and when she came to meet me instead of being happy to see me i try to kiss her and she gives me her cheek to kiss. So now in retrospect i should have said "well you can go" when she said if we can go to her friends. because i didnt want to hang with her and her friends i wanted to hang out with her only. so i put my own needs aside for her. and it went further down hill from there.
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