goodgrief Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I think if you had a penis you'd understand. Normally I hate that kind of gender oversimplification, but this is one case where I think it applies. Ok, I take your point!! (in the figurative sense, you understand!!) Sometimes when I've having great sex regularly, it just boosts my libido more. I can't figure out any real pattern of appeasement for it, and most guys I talk with about it can't either. Hmmmm. I wonder if this might also have a bearing on the OP's situation? 5 times a week = his libido is kept on the up, 5 times a week, his GF's libido is absolutely fine, and she feels just right.... It is intuitive to think it would work the way you describe, but it doesn't. In terms of appetite, being a man is more like an being a chronic overeater than being someone with a modest healthy appetite that is sated with the proper meal. This is about as close as I'm ever going to get to understanding what makes men tick... I'm never going to be able to go on a dinner date with a guy ever again, and keep a straight face..... LOL well good thing locker rooms are generally segregated by sex! It's pretty standard. I'm just asking here, really, not seeking confrontation, but don't you think this kind of terminology possibly perpetuates this aggressive attitude towards women? I've worked with two women who suffered abuse, you see, and they both speak of dominant sex by their partners.... I think you may be a bit naive about how commonplace and strong male sexual fantasies are. Most of the guys you would consider normal and good guys have them too, but are classy enough to just keep a lid on it when appropriate. Yes, you're right, I may well be naive.... I just hope the OP can keep a lid on them, as he seems to believe he currently can.
someotherguy Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I could have the kinkiest girlfriend on earth, and I'd still fantasize about sexing up that little hottie in the coffee place. It's normal, and nothing to have a guilty conscience about. Now, if you find yourself chatting them up and getting phone numbers...then you need to get some serious help, because then you're getting into the realm of obsession and addiction. Anyway, to relieve your guilt, talk to your lady about it. Tell her you've been having some fantasies. Would you want to hear about hers? They may surprise you, and they may turn you on. Of course, if you're a jealous nutjob, you might also freak out and get crazy paranoid. LOL.
WintersNightTraveler Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 I'm just asking here, really, not seeking confrontation, but don't you think this kind of terminology possibly perpetuates this aggressive attitude towards women? I've worked with two women who suffered abuse, you see, and they both speak of dominant sex by their partners.... Possibly, but more likely a symptom than a cause, if related at all. It can be misleading to equate dominant sex with abusive sex. Many women if not most prefer their partner to be at least somewhat dominant in the bedroom. With so many unabused women out there who like to be dominated, you can't jump to a conclusion if you also see a lot of abused women who have experienced this. Not underselling the abuse of your two women at all, I just mean that it's not as simple as removing the terminology. And if the dominance was not consented (or anything along those lines) then it's obviously abuse. And really "banging" is no more rough than "shag" at least in the slang in my part of the world, not really very risque sounding, I think...
Author bigworm23 Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 We got a little off topic here..perhaps my own fault.. Basically what I was wondering is this: Is it normal to want to have sex with other women regardless if you are married for 20 years to a perfect 10 or dating your high school sweetheart.... I see nothing wrong with thinking of having sex with other women, personally...I'm not looking for an answer as to whether or not it is right to fantasize. I agree, if I were to act on them, that would be wrong, which is why I don't. Bottomline, I just want to know if the fact I want to have sex with good looking girls whenever I'm out is a sign I am not with the right person. I.e. do the desires ever stop..or is this just a part of being a guy? To answer a few posters above....5 times a week is fine for both of us...Neither of us are sexually deprived...It's not so much that I want to get laid MORE..its just that I see something hot I want to have sex with her....thats all it is.
FL Lady Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 ha...definitely NOT into the open relationship thing... I mean, I dont want to just date girls my entire life..I'd like to get married and have a family..and she is a perfect candidate for that. She's great, very few flaws and hot, but I still want to have sex with other girls. I guess I'm just wondering if most guys are like this...and are able to have happy, healthy relationships..? HELLO........women have these SAME exact feelings too. No difference.
FL Lady Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Women feel the same way. We think the same thing when we see someone hot.
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