rumrunner63 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 It's when your not afraid to share anything with them from your past to your thoughts and desires. And it's also when you miss them just because they went grocery shopping or something.
Simon Attwood Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 When you decide to be. The perfect answer. But to expand a little; "in love" is not knowing of it's self, this love is a mystery and a practice for when we become an adult. When we are an adult, we love because love is no longer a mystery, we know that love is something we have inside and choose give to another, we are love's master, rather than love being some mysterious feeling that we are a slave to. Loving someone is a choice; but a choice we either make unconsciously when we are immature, or consciously when we have the maturity to do so. Or it could all just be Oxitocin
zengirl Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 I guess we'd have to clarify what you mean by 'being in love.' 'Feeling' love is related to a person's emotional capacity, I think. And like any other feeling it can be squashed or stirred, and it'll fade eventually if you stop paying attention to it. Loving someone is having respect for their character and seeing beauty in their uniqueness. It's committing to stir up the warm-feelings with loving actions even when you really can't be bothered. It's wanting the best for them, even if you come to realize you're completely wrong for each other (even if you're pissed about it). Stuff like that. That's why I say love is a choice, not a feeling. True. I think there's a quote by someone that says "Love is a verb." At any rate, that's true, and people always forget it.
mr.dream merchant Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Your willingness to put up with an unnecessary amount of bull****.
BWLoca Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Thats nice BWLoca, who is it by? It's called "Love Without Love" by Luis Lloréns Torres.
runner Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 you think about him all the time.completely comfortable around him - no barriers, no pretensions, no defensiveness.deeply rooted sense of trust.the L comes easy for the both of you.you see him in your future - growing old together, raising a family, etc. now, the question of whether that 'love' you feel right this moment will make it for the long haul, only time will tell. but enjoy the ride yes ?
Simon Attwood Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 no defensiveness. A very, very important point here. Defensive behaviour is is the enemy of love. Love eminates from our higher selves, yet defensive behaviour is rooted in our phylogentically inherited animal origins, it's deeply primitive. To love is to open up and expose what is vulnerable. To defend is to protect what is vulnerable. Love cannot exist where there is defence.
stace79 Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 IMO: Love is not a feeling. Love is displayed through actions.Yes, four months is too early to truly love someone.If you haven't found something about him that annoys you yet, you're not in love.Love is when you find the person who has faults, but you love them just as much in spite of them. Love means forsaking all others. Love means you work hard every day -- even the bad days -- to make your loved one feel happy and appreciated.
Author ladyjane83 Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 IMO: Love is not a feeling. Love is displayed through actions.Yes, four months is too early to truly love someone.If you haven't found something about him that annoys you yet, you're not in love.Love is when you find the person who has faults, but you love them just as much in spite of them. Love means forsaking all others. Love means you work hard every day -- even the bad days -- to make your loved one feel happy and appreciated. Thanks for the opinion. If you read my original thread I didnt say that I was IN LOVE with him yet, I have been in love before I know what it feels like for me...what I meant was that I am starting to notice myself feeling some of the similar things that I did last time I was in love, which lead me to believe I am starting to fall, or at least know that that's the way its going, and I asked is 4 months to soon to be thinking like that?
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