phineas Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Met a girl at my reunion. She's allready a facebook friend because of the reunion. I gave in the last month & friended my senior class because the whole thing was planned using facebook. I caught her checking me out so I went up to her. We chatted but this other girl I talked about in my other thread basically acted like I wasn't even at the reunion & cock-blocked me after she saw me talking to this girl. I mean how do I try to ask out one girl when the girl I was out with the night before shows zero interest & won't leave said woman's side? I basically could not get this other woman alone to talk. Is it weird sending her a message on facebook to just say I enjoyed talking to her at the reunion? What else would I say? How would I word it? I've got classmates I didn't really know in highschool both male & female I talked to just sending little notes about how nice it was catching up. Or should I just wash my hands of the whole thing because woman A was intentionally cock-blocking me & may of said something to ruin my chances?
quankanne Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 following up with a message – a PM if on facebook, an email otherwise – is a much appreciated gesture if you enjoyed your visit with someone. And it keeps the butt-munches like the CB-chick out of the loop. not sure what her power-struggle was all about, but I will say it was uncalled for. Avoid her at all costs, IMO ...
Author phineas Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 So do I just send a simple PM about it was nice talking to her & leave it at that? Assume if she is interested she will respond positively? I've been seperated 15 mos. D papers signed & with courts. But I was with my ex for 7 yrs. Long time to be off the market. I'm out of practice.
ReadyforLove Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I don't see anything wrong with sending a PM to her on Facebook. I am assuming you live relatively close to her? Why not go in for the kill and ask her to meet up?
Author phineas Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 She does live close by. But actually asking her out over FB doesn't sit well with me. I think asking for her number so I could call her would be better. Or if I see she is online I could send a chat to her.
quankanne Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 how 'bout something like "I really enjoyed catching up with you at the reunion, and would love to get together with you sometime. When you've got some evening free, give me a holler. My email is XX and my phone number is XXX, it was really fun seeing you again." that way you let her know you enjoyed seeing her, you let her know you're interested in seeing her again and it's her choice to contact you if she's cool with the idea. Phrasing it this way gets a message across (loved seeing you!) but isn't pushy.
Author phineas Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 how 'bout something like "I really enjoyed catching up with you at the reunion, and would love to get together with you sometime. When you've got some evening free, give me a holler. My email is XX and my phone number is XXX, it was really fun seeing you again." that way you let her know you enjoyed seeing her, you let her know you're interested in seeing her again and it's her choice to contact you if she's cool with the idea. Phrasing it this way gets a message across (loved seeing you!) but isn't pushy. I'm probably over thinking this but I didn't know her in highschool. I never had her in any classes. But then again, what's the difference. I just need to make it known in a non creepy way i'm interested in her.
quankanne Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I'm probably over thinking this but I didn't know her in high school. I never had her in any classes. depends on how you look at it: My nephew marvels over the fact that a former classmate who I call every couple of days and spend a good time on the phone with is someone I never hung out with in high school! But after not seeing each other for 25 years – and coming from a small town – it's been really cool being able to share memories of events that we didn't necessarily attend together. And it's forged a pretty strong friendship. we've coordinated meet-ups with other classmates in different cities because no one wants to plan a reunion. The beauty of these small get-togethers is that there are a group of people who normally would never have associated with in high school, and folks really get to learn about each other. Again, friendships are forged when you least expect it. so, please – don't let that hold you back!
that girl Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Contact her. You can get straight to the date, "It was great to see you again. I'd love to take you to dinner and finish our conversation." What is the deal with the other girl though? I don't think of reunions as pick up scenes so I wouldn't normally consider the friend who wouldn't go away a cock blocker, but it seems like there is a story here.
Author phineas Posted August 17, 2010 Author Posted August 17, 2010 Contact her. You can get straight to the date, "It was great to see you again. I'd love to take you to dinner and finish our conversation." What is the deal with the other girl though? I don't think of reunions as pick up scenes so I wouldn't normally consider the friend who wouldn't go away a cock blocker, but it seems like there is a story here. The deal with the cock blocker? The short is we graduated together. I never knew her in highschool. we connected over facebook because of the reunion last yr. we were just friends. Doing stuff with our kids. I assumed she wasn't interested so never made a move. Then I signed D papers & it was like "game on" for her. She called me all the time, wanted to hang out twice a week with kids. She'd ask me out on adult only activities then just flake at the last minute. we went to a concert. She got closer & closer so I made a move & put my arm around her & spent the concert that way. We walked back to my house holding hands. Then she told me she was scared about the whole dateing thing & needed to take things slow. Next night she acted like I was a stranger & avoided me. She was friendly & said hi but that was it. She must of seen me talking to the other girl because she didn't leave her side the rest of the night which was weird to say the least. I'm wondering if she said something to her now. LOL!
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