primer Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I had two requirements for dating material) 1. good work ethics 2. no children I found someone that met both of those requirements. It turns out the "no children" part does not matter. After 1-1/2 years I am still hearing about his ex and her children. It turns out, those without children still have baggage. Disappointed . . . .
OceanTropic Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 That has nothing to do with kids, it has to do with his personality and his take on it.
Stung Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Sure. Almost everybody on the face of the earth has some kind of baggage, children or no.
threebyfate Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I'm a little confused about why children have anything to do with your post. It sounds like you need to have more requirements, one that includes someone who isn't still hung up on his ex. But I do have to take this opportunity to rant. I'm really glad when people who aren't ready for or don't like children, chooses not to date people who do have children. It's best for everyone involved especially the children since anyone wanting to be involved with a parent, by default will become a parent.
Author primer Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 I had the requirement of 'no children' thinking there would be less drama and less baggage. There would not be an ex to deal with. I was wrong. The odd thing is - He does not like me talking to my exes. He also had the requirement of 'no children'. (I realize I am in a bad mood today and burned out.)
xpaperxcutx Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I had the requirement of 'no children' thinking there would be less drama and less baggage. There would not be an ex to deal with. I was wrong. The odd thing is - He does not like me talking to my exes. He also had the requirement of 'no children'. (I realize I am in a bad mood today and burned out.) He sounds hypocritical.
melodymatters Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Unless you find somone who was dropped on a desert isle as a youth, they are going to have some "baggage" or rather attachments to people who aren't you. We can't 'own" people. I can relate though, I dated a man in his 40's with no kids and thought the same thing. Turned out his "older" twin brother basically made the decisions for both of them, so unless I wanted to be part of a trio instead of couple, I would have to (and did) bail.
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