confused192 Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 well, I am a woman...and I couldn't be more excited for football season!!! I am as obsessed or more so than most men. College or pro...as long as it's football, I'm all about it! Honestly, don't worry about what someone else thinks. If you like football, then by all means enjoy it. I for one certainly understand the passion you feel towards it!
that girl Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 why the **** do girls think they have the right to dictate what a guy should or shouldn't be into? Way to overreact dude. When I said I think that your passion in life shouldn't be supporting a pro team, I didn't say there was anything wrong with being super psyched about a pro team and following their games. I think people's biggest passion should be something that loves them back. Most people are happier this way.
dispatch3d Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 Way to overreact dude. When I said I think that your passion in life shouldn't be supporting a pro team, I didn't say there was anything wrong with being super psyched about a pro team and following their games. I think people's biggest passion should be something that loves them back. Most people are happier this way. You are presenting a paradox. Apparently it's okay to be super psych'd (at least it is now that I spoke up) about football season starting, but it ISN'T okay to have a big passion with a pro football team. Maybe it's okay to be into whatever the **** interests you most. If girls in general don't like football TOO ****ING BAD! You don't see guys nexting girls because they like shopping, even though 90% of guys think shopping is ****ing stupid. I know I do. Therre are likely other cool+fun things you can do. Don't get me wrong. But there is DEFINITELY NOTHING wrong with liking football and the last thing I would do is change my beliefs to like football just because some chick decided to voice her unsolicited opinion on the matter.
Enchanted Girl Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 I have lots of hobbies that people of all genders make fun of. For instance, I am a big fan of Star Trek. If I wasn't considered a nerd before people find out about this, I'm definitely considered one afterwards. Most of my hobbies are mocked or considered socially unacceptable by lots of people. I rarely can talk about my hobbies to anyone else at all. I limit most of that discussion to internet fan forums. Usually with other people, I just talk about life or THEIR hobbies, not mine. Just get over it. Seriously.
that girl Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 You are presenting a paradox. Apparently it's okay to be super psych'd (at least it is now that I spoke up) about football season starting, but it ISN'T okay to have a big passion with a pro football team. Maybe it's okay to be into whatever the **** interests you most. If girls in general don't like football TOO ****ING BAD! You don't see guys nexting girls because they like shopping, even though 90% of guys think shopping is ****ing stupid. I know I do. Therre are likely other cool+fun things you can do. Don't get me wrong. But there is DEFINITELY NOTHING wrong with liking football and the last thing I would do is change my beliefs to like football just because some chick decided to voice her unsolicited opinion on the matter. I'm really not standing up for the woman who made a big deal about it in person. My saying "Football is my passion" is different to me than saying "I'm so psyched about the season starting up, I'm a huge Michigan fan." You are getting crazy angry and I don't really get it. Do you have a thing for the woman who said this or what?
dispatch3d Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 I'm really not standing up for the woman who made a big deal about it in person. My saying "Football is my passion" is different to me than saying "I'm so psyched about the season starting up, I'm a huge Michigan fan." You are getting crazy angry and I don't really get it. Do you have a thing for the woman who said this or what? lol I am definitely not crazy angry.
Author PhillyDude Posted August 16, 2010 Author Posted August 16, 2010 I'm going to plan a joke for her right before the start of the season by saying "I'm going to have a experience this sunday that I haven't had in so long, so very very long, ....................THE START OF FOOTBALL!!! lol I know she will be thinking I'm talking having sex
dispatch3d Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 blah, I'd build a shrine to your favourite football team on her desk. When she inquires on why you did this, I would tell her it's because you think she shouldn't have any other passions other than football. I wouldn't make that joke simply because it's at an office.
InceptorsRule Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I'm going to plan a joke for her right before the start of the season by saying "I'm going to have a experience this sunday that I haven't had in so long, so very very long, ....................THE START OF FOOTBALL!!! lol I know she will be thinking I'm talking having sex WOW this is a fascinating thread. I do NOT understand how people think at ALL about this stuff nowadays, I guess I'm like Rip Van Winkle or something. The ONLY thing about this incident that struck me as noteworthy is that it is SO OBVIOUS this girl in OP's office was looking for some MASCULINE ATTENTION. (Again not clear if it was sought from OP, his buddy, either or both.) That's what GIRLS, young girls especially, DO. If a girl in that situation LIKES you she can't just come up and say "I like you, let's go out together." But if she feels she's being ignored/unnoticed by the guy she likes, she has to "manufacture" some sort of reason to talk to him to flirt/tease with him. It sounds to me like ALL she was doing was using your conversation about football as an available topic to make a "remark" about to "get you going." People often use sarcastic comments to get attention because seriously--do you expect her to take her top off or something to get you to notice her? Now if she was absolutely not attractive to you, that's different, just ignore her. But you haven't said she was unattractive and usually most young office chicks are reasonably attractive. In fact as the thread progressed you are NOW even talking about teasing her back or pulling a prank/joke on her. Which means you have some level of interest in her, or else why even bother with such nonsense? LOL at me, everyone else in the thread seems to think this interaction was actually about having respect for one another's hobbies. OP, do you think this girl is potential dating material or not? If "yes" why not just ask her out? If not why are you wasting another second's thought on any of this?
zengirl Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 I was having a private conversation at work with a friend of mine about football sstarting in 4 weeks and he mentioned how excited I am as we get closer to september. I said "Football is my passion" Then this female coworker gets in the conversation and says-"it's time for you to find a new passion" So a single guy can't be excited about something not having to do with a woman or dating??? I'd find it odd if a single man DIDN'T have any passions besides women and dating, and in fact, if I wouldn't date anyone who didn't show sincere passion for something. This wouldn't be one I'd personally find attractive, but that's cool. I have male and female friends who watch football to the point where they know stats and follow pools intricately. I maybe catch the Super Bowl or when my alma mater plays, but I'm from the South. We are forced to learn our college football, at least, early. I probably couldn't date a fellow who's main passion was football (unless we had loads of other stuff in common), but that's because I tend to like nerdy fellows. (Not to say they don't watch sports, but they tend to prefer soccer or something to football, etc. And they have shared passions with me, like science or politics.) Are you sure this wasn't a mocking joke? I mean, people tease me about all sorts of stuff I like. I'm called a "nerd" on a regular basis, even by myself. Why take it so seriously? Unless you're some sort of weird, obsessive, over-the-top, compulsive person about it. . . I don't see it hindering your dating life in general. You have taken something that was barely a molehill (either this girl just failed at teasing you OR she's a bitch or something in between) and made it into a mountain. I have a friend who's an absolute shoe-horse. You think fellows don't tease her if she says shoes are her passion?
dispatch3d Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 she more likely than not was annoyed that op constantly talks about football. It's pretty hard to discern her intent honestly. Best case scenario (I think) she's testing you on whether you will stick with what you are passionate about even IF she decides she doesn't like it.
zengirl Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 she more likely than not was annoyed that op constantly talks about football. It's pretty hard to discern her intent honestly. Best case scenario (I think) she's testing you on whether you will stick with what you are passionate about even IF she decides she doesn't like it. Well, that would be annoying to me in a person -- talking incessantly about football -- just as some of my interests might be annoying to others if I talked incessantly about them. I understand this and don't feel defensive about it. People just have different interests. Hearing loads about something you're NOT AT ALL interested in might be annoying, and speaking incessantly about any interest in a common social setting with people who are clearly not like-minded is a bit socially inept.
dispatch3d Posted August 17, 2010 Posted August 17, 2010 Well, that would be annoying to me in a person -- talking incessantly about football -- just as some of my interests might be annoying to others if I talked incessantly about them. I understand this and don't feel defensive about it. People just have different interests. Hearing loads about something you're NOT AT ALL interested in might be annoying, and speaking incessantly about any interest in a common social setting with people who are clearly not like-minded is a bit socially inept. If she was actually interested in him I would THINK she would PRETEND to like football despite not liking it, or ask what other interests he has or whatever. She would do something that makes sense to do. Or she may test him to see if he truly believes in his passions. But the last one seems like an outside shot at best. More likely than not OP was just talking about football more than she preferred to hear about it. She could have been nicer about informing him, but she is a girl afterall. (not saying girls are mean or angry or whatever people. Just that they are emotional and hence will give an emotion-based response to everything)
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