Gattica Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 When there is trust and STD testing. Most guys want it fairly early and this is probably another reason why I'm still single. I love sex but I love my health even more. There are plenty of women who will give it up earlier so no guy has to wait on me. I hear ya. It is the same for me.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Wow, you are a boy ? Wow you're really gross. Why would you let someone give you oral sex at a parking lot? Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkkk, Us boys are hopeless when women want to blow us ANYWHERE!!!!!
AverageJoe Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I try from minute one of date one and continue relentlessly until minute two of date one, stopping ony because I've usually recieved some kind of bodily injury that requires immediate medical attention. Priapism??
Feelin Frisky Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 PS: Anyone who "requires" me to take an STD test and isn't willing to do the same can keep their shi+. I will not have serious relations with someone who doesn't accept my word. If I have reason to think I might have an STD, which I don't, I would get tested and treat it and would not bring it to someone I care for. If I haven't had relations for a long time but have been tested, I have no intentions of submitting myself for new testing to satisfy some neurotic's mistrust. Who's taking your temperature?
Mad Max Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 PS: Anyone who "requires" me to take an STD test and isn't willing to do the same can keep their shi+. I will not have serious relations with someone who doesn't accept my word. If I have reason to think I might have an STD, which I don't, I would get tested and treat it and would not bring it to someone I care for. If I haven't had relations for a long time but have been tested, I have no intentions of submitting myself for new testing to satisfy some neurotic's mistrust. Who's taking your temperature? You can't be too safe these days. Just because you don't think you have anything, doesn't mean that's the case. You can be asymptomatic. If someone asks you to get tested and they won't do it themselves, then yes that's very hypocritical. But if someone asks you to get tested and they get tested themselves, nothing wrong with that.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 ...If someone asks you to get tested and they won't do it themselves, then yes that's very hypocritical. But if someone asks you to get tested and they get tested themselves, nothing wrong with that. Yup. That's my point. I just kinda cringed at the tone of some posts here. They sounded like everyone else is suspect but they get a free pass. I didn't want to confront the parties and take on a crusade, but I felt compelled to speak. I was rather put off and would be totally frosted if someone treated me like that. Buzz-kill city.
zengirl Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 PS: Anyone who "requires" me to take an STD test and isn't willing to do the same can keep their shi+. I will not have serious relations with someone who doesn't accept my word. If I have reason to think I might have an STD, which I don't, I would get tested and treat it and would not bring it to someone I care for. If I haven't had relations for a long time but have been tested, I have no intentions of submitting myself for new testing to satisfy some neurotic's mistrust. Who's taking your temperature? I think the part about taking someone's word for it is important, too. I've never gone down and got STD tests together with someone or anything. I tend to get tested regularly and/or after I get out of a relationship (personally, I only have sex in relationships), and I've never dated a fellow who wasn't fine with me telling him I was clean. Nor have I ever taken issue with a fellow who had reason to know he was clean (not "I always have safe sex" but he'd actually been tested and proactive about his sexual health) saying so. I'm not sure how I'd feel about a fellow insisting on seeing paperwork. . . but this is from the perspective of someone who doesn't really have "casual sex." I mean, if I couldn't trust them well enough to take their word, I wouldn't be sleeping with them.
somedude81 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I'd only be concerned about getting my partner STD tested if we were going to have unprotected sex. There is simply no way I'm going to require every girl I sleep with or going to sleep with get tested first. Besides, how many couples actually talk about having sex before they do it?
jamesum Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I dont really care if a woman bangs different men every day because she has extreme libido or something as long as she has no disease and she only bangs me when we are in a relationship. After all most men do the same thing. Im not judgmental and I put both men and women on the same standard.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I don't like it. Imagine Clint Eastwood, Harrison Ford, or John Wayne ever saying "nook-nook."... How 'bout Gregory Peck? Jimmy Stewart maybe but not Peck.
chucksbabygurl17 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 I have a friend who always expects to have sex with a girl by the third date otherwise he feels she isn't attracted to him. As a man I would say between 3-5 dates is fair. Ladies, what do you think? well i think that u should wait until u get to know the girl n see what her intrests r n he alikes n dislikes cuz if u go to bed with a girl bc whats the chances that ur still going to be together the next day u dont want to come on too strong cuz that looks like u just want to get laid so i think u should wait about 1-2 weeks at the most n see if things do work out between u n her n maybe u guys will develope a stong relationship thats just what i think
Tayla Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 not so much dates as how long I have known them ....I go by the rule of thumb....Minimum of six months of getting to know (building foundation), average time to intimacy...8 months....only because I've seen far to many not build the trust and get to know the person..... Ironic that there is a large population that did not ask for STD, matter of fact none of them went out with that intention or forethought. Just food for thought when you stand in judgment of someone who is diagnosed with such. They didnt ask for it, but chances are they are doing something to make sure its less likely to be spread. Hopefully the poster who counsels ( to console) to such persons can attest to this perspective.
Gattica Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 PS: Anyone who "requires" me to take an STD test and isn't willing to do the same can keep their shi+. I will not have serious relations with someone who doesn't accept my word. If I have reason to think I might have an STD, which I don't, I would get tested and treat it and would not bring it to someone I care for. If I haven't had relations for a long time but have been tested, I have no intentions of submitting myself for new testing to satisfy some neurotic's mistrust. Who's taking your temperature? I would never (and have never) ask anyone to get tested w/o getting tested myself. I am careful to keep myself healthy and want to be with partners that do the same. It isn't about mistrust, it is about respecting myself and my body.
Gattica Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 I am not a casual sex person, at all. It isn't about taking someone at their word. They very well indeed could have contracted something and not be aware of it. I am just not willing to risk my health. STD testing is simple, and if you are headed towards a serious relationship, I don't see why getting tested should be an issue. I have never taken it personally when someone has asked the last time I was tested, would I be willing to get tested, or can they see my paperwork. When so many people are too chicken sh*t to talk openly about sex before actually engaging in sex with someone, I really appreciate a man that is taking his and my health seriously and cares enough about the both of us to bring up testing.
Tayla Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Totally OFF TOPIC: To Poster: "Feeling frisky" took me awhile to gather your perceptions which are rather out there and yet enticingly informative....BUt dang I gotta say this, The photo displayed reminds me of Will from Big Brother. Are you related to him (other then thru evolution?) .
Feelin Frisky Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Totally OFF TOPIC: To Poster: "Feeling frisky" took me awhile to gather your perceptions which are rather out there and yet enticingly informative....BUt dang I gotta say this, The photo displayed reminds me of Will from Big Brother. Are you related to him (other then thru evolution?) . I'm afraid I'm not familiar with Will from Big Brother. I take it that's a sitcom? Nah, no relation I'm sure. Is Will 6'-2, eyes of blue, son of the old sod of Donne gal and Cork? Someone said I look like Charlie Sheen. I'd tower over that guy. My last name starts with an Mc and neither parent had an Estevez in their lineage. I think my mug shot might channel a little Jake Gylenhall. But I was around before him so maybe he just looks a little like me.
Shakz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I'm afraid I'm not familiar with Will from Big Brother. I take it that's a sitcom? Nah, no relation I'm sure. Is Will 6'-2, eyes of blue, son of the old sod of Donne gal and Cork? Someone said I look like Charlie Sheen. I'd tower over that guy. My last name starts with an Mc and neither parent had an Estevez in their lineage. I think my mug shot might channel a little Jake Gylenhall. But I was around before him so maybe he just looks a little like me. I'm the one who said you look like Charlie Sheen, and you do. You look nothing like the the thick-lipped Gyllenhall. At least you don't look like me. Everybody tells me I look like James Woods. Despite the fact that I admire his acting ability, and think he's a stand up guy, I hate that SOB!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I'd only be concerned about getting my partner STD tested if we were going to have unprotected sex. There is simply no way I'm going to require every girl I sleep with or going to sleep with get tested first. Besides, how many couples actually talk about having sex before they do it? If I'm right even so called "protected" sex can lead to stds people get a false sense of security from those little latex shields. After all its only covering the shaft the rest of the private areas are still touching. You don't have to sit down and "talk" about it right before sex no thats a kill joy of course. But why not talk about it at some point before the temptation is even there? Better to be safe and prepared then sorry afterwards...
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