DustySaltus Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I have a friend who always expects to have sex with a girl by the third date otherwise he feels she isn't attracted to him. As a man I would say between 3-5 dates is fair. Ladies, what do you think?
USMCHokie Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Nook-nook...? I like that. I'm not a lady, but I say it happens when it happens...I don't put a number of dates on it...just as long as there's physical progression from date to date... Also, please fix the middle link in your signature...it's driving me nuts...
meerkat stew Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Nook-nook...? I like that. I don't like it. Imagine Clint Eastwood, Harrison Ford, or John Wayne ever saying "nook-nook." Could definitely imagine Justin Timberlake or Brad Pitt saying it though... draw your own conclusions No specific number for me, these days more often than not, I'm the one who slows things down. I'm dating 35-48 though.
Gattica Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 The # of dates is irrelevant. It can be made very clear that you are physically attracted to someone w/o there being sex. I won't have sex until there is a certain level of trust, we are exclusive, AND he has been STD tested. This criteria weeds out the guys only interested in sex relatively quick, in MOST cases.
caramel c Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 If you aren't going to wait until the relationship is very serious, then I still think waiting as long as possible is best. At least to where you are sure that there are deep feelings involved from both sides, and the relationship has a solid foundation before getting into bed. This usually takes some time. I say definitely a few months, depending on the circumstances of your relationship given that each relationship is different. I know most people here will think I'm nuts, but oh well. I think sex is a very special thing...
AverageJoe Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Three strikes your out. There is always someone else around the corner willing to do the heavy lifting.
Confusedalways Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 The # of dates is irrelevant. It can be made very clear that you are physically attracted to someone w/o there being sex. I won't have sex until there is a certain level of trust, we are exclusive, AND he has been STD tested. This criteria weeds out the guys only interested in sex relatively quick, in MOST cases. same goes for me.
bac Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I have a friend who always expects to have sex with a girl by the third date otherwise he feels she isn't attracted to him. As a man I would say between 3-5 dates is fair. Ladies, what do you think? it depends on age and type of dating. If you mean that type of multiple casual dating that people do online, i would say 3-5 dates is about right. It could be shorter if a girl views a guy as an object for short-term dating for sex (FWBs), especially if she is much older. It could be longer if a girl views a guy as a serious BF/husband material.
EYECANDY000 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Im not sure if it was stated , but the number of dates shouldnt matter. Its about if you have a connection with someone.
stellaluna Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I'll try on the first date if she's hot:rolleyes: But I won't respect her if she does it. I'll prolly call her again to do it again but I won't ever want her as a gf. Guys push boundaries that's what we do. A girl that holds out is what seperates potential gf's from flings. Speaking of which I have a booty call to get to:lmao: This girl is very hot but she gave me a bj in the parking lot after we all went out after my baseball game last week. She wanted to have sex but I didn't have a condom so I didn't. I texted her 20minutes ago when my plans with my buddy fell through and she texts back immediately that she is free tonight. I met a girl that came into my work a couple o' months ago and I liked her a lot at first but we slept together on the first night. A BIG part of me wished she would have said no but she didnt. I text her tonight as well as she just texted back that she wants me to come over. Now I have to make a decision, haha.
zengirl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 And there are girls who weed out fellows like that by not having sex right away, so it all works out. I wait until I'm in a committed relationship before sex, as I have to know I really like, trust, and want to be with the person, and vice versa. I've always communicated this pretty clearly to guys as the dating progressed (Not like I come right out with a big block-letter sign, but generally sex comes up naturally and organically). This includes any kind of sex or anything like sex. But a fellow ought to be able to tell I'm physically attracted by other physicality (kissing, holding hands, snuggling, sitting close, etc) and flirting/romantic communication. That stuff can be assessed as soon as the 1st date in most cases, maybe the 2nd date if the 1st date is a short 1st meet and the fellow feels awkward. Anyone who says the only way they can tell a gal is physically attracted to him is if she sleeps with him right away either has some sort of deep insecurity issue with his level of attractiveness or is just lying and just has no patience/real investment in these relationships. Neither one sounds attractive to me.
brainygirl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 At least wait until you can say and write "sex" instead of "nook-nook". And when BOTH parties are comfortable. Set rules, like three dates, are silly.
somedude81 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 To me it's pointless to wait for a set number of dates or even about exclusiveness. If there is a connection and trust between us, we should do it. If either one of us is also casually seeing other people at the time, then there is not reason to wait. I'll try on the first date if she's hot:rolleyes: But I won't respect her if she does it. Wow nice contradiction Guy's like you are the reason think they have to wait from some arbitrary reason to have sex. Grow up.
Mad Max Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I'll try on the first date if she's hot:rolleyes: But I won't respect her if she does it. So you would sleep with her anyway, but not respect her? Nice logic.
Sivok Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 3-5 dates. I'd say about a month if you're looking for a bf/gf.
ViciousViolet Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 When there is trust and STD testing. Most guys want it fairly early and this is probably another reason why I'm still single. Oh well. I work/volunteer in STD/HIV/AIDS prevention/counseling programs and it has made me cautious and aware (condoms don't prevent everything). I love sex but I love my health even more. There are plenty of women who will give it up earlier so no guy has to wait on me.
O'Malley Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 The # of dates is irrelevant. It can be made very clear that you are physically attracted to someone w/o there being sex. I won't have sex until there is a certain level of trust, we are exclusive, AND he has been STD tested. This criteria weeds out the guys only interested in sex relatively quick, in MOST cases. The same...and please don't say 'nook-nook' to any prospective sexual partners.
Eeyore79 Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I require STD tests and an exclusive relationship before I'm willing to have sex. I'd probably also wait for a few months to weed out the guys who are only after one thing. If a guy gets sick of waiting for me, then he's not the one for me anyway, because he probably wasn't interested in an LTR.
caramel c Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I require STD tests and an exclusive relationship before I'm willing to have sex. I'd probably also wait for a few months to weed out the guys who are only after one thing. If a guy gets sick of waiting for me, then he's not the one for me anyway, because he probably wasn't interested in an LTR. Exactly. I don't know what is so hard to understand about this. You don't even KNOW a person after a few dates...why share your BODY with them? Just because you can? Anybody can, ANYBODY!
EasyHeart Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 It's refreshing to hear these responses from the women of LS, but I wonder if they're representative of the female population. As a guy, I've encountered the female variant of the three-date rule: If a guy hasn't tried to have sex with you by the third date, he must not be attracted to you.
Shakz Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 The same...and please don't say 'nook-nook' to any prospective sexual partners. Me likey nook-nook.............now!
zengirl Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 It's refreshing to hear these responses from the women of LS, but I wonder if they're representative of the female population. As a guy, I've encountered the female variant of the three-date rule: If a guy hasn't tried to have sex with you by the third date, he must not be attracted to you. I get worried if a fellow hasn't kissed me or shown any affection/physicality at all by then, but most of the guys I've dated haven't actively tried to have sex with me this early.
temporaryvisa Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I'll try on the first date if she's hot:rolleyes: But I won't respect her if she does it. I'll prolly call her again to do it again but I won't ever want her as a gf. Guys push boundaries that's what we do. A girl that holds out is what seperates potential gf's from flings. Speaking of which I have a booty call to get to:lmao: This girl is very hot but she gave me a bj in the parking lot after we all went out after my baseball game last week. She wanted to have sex but I didn't have a condom so I didn't. I texted her 20minutes ago when my plans with my buddy fell through and she texts back immediately that she is free tonight. I met a girl that came into my work a couple o' months ago and I liked her a lot at first but we slept together on the first night. A BIG part of me wished she would have said no but she didnt. I text her tonight as well as she just texted back that she wants me to come over. Now I have to make a decision, haha. Wow, you are a boy ? Wow you're really gross. Why would you let someone give you oral sex at a parking lot? Eeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeekkkkkkkkkkkkk,
Shakz Posted August 20, 2010 Posted August 20, 2010 I get worried if a fellow hasn't kissed me or shown any affection/physicality at all by then, but most of the guys I've dated haven't actively tried to have sex with me this early. I try from minute one of date one and continue relentlessly until minute two of date one, stopping ony because I've usually recieved some kind of bodily injury that requires immediate medical attention.
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