feelingtorn Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Ok, I had a second date with this guy who is 12 years older than I am. Attractive and fun. I met him for dinner at 7 and ended up saying good bye at 11. I thought we were going to have dinner only, but he suggested dessert and then we went for more drinks. At the end of the date, he just gave me a hug. We walked between places, he never attempted to hold my hands. Is he into me? I never went out with a german guy before, so I felt a bit confused. He paid for the dinner and drinks. I paid for the icecream, but felt bad, so I emailed him first thanking for everything. He replied me back right away and said he had a wonderful time too. Should I see him again?
a_woman Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 probably. He is a little older so he doesn't act like a teenager.
sugarmomma Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 If he likes you he will call and ask you out again. You've already expressed being pleased withthe first date so leave the ball in his court. Don't scare him away and chase him. Guys don't like that.
Fouts Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Sounds like an ok date to me. See where it goes from here.
davegfx Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Sounds fine, I wouldn't worry. The fact that he didn't hold hands doesn't mean anything. I don't think most guys would on a first date - it seems a little too 'coupley' ya know? I wouldn't for fear that it would seem too much. I don't think you need to do any more. just wait for him to contact you again. he wouldn't have stayed out for that long if he wasn't interested.
Mad Max Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 If he likes you he will call and ask you out again. You've already expressed being pleased withthe first date so leave the ball in his court. If he asked her out initially, it's her responsibility to initiate the second date. That's common courtesy. Don't scare him away and chase him. Guys don't like that. Total BS. If you want something or someone, you go get it. If you don't go after what you want, the only person that loses out is you. I'm tired of hearing "Men don't like women that chase" and "Men love to chase". If that were true, you would see all guys doing that and I've seen MANY guys that don't like to chase.
FL Lady Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 If he asked her out initially, it's her responsibility to initiate the second date. That's common courtesy. Total BS. If you want something or someone, you go get it. If you don't go after what you want, the only person that loses out is you. I'm tired of hearing "Men don't like women that chase" and "Men love to chase". If that were true, you would see all guys doing that and I've seen MANY guys that don't like to chase. Mad Max- is your avatar your real picture or an athlete?
BiAxident Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Total BS. If you want something or someone, you go get it. If you don't go after what you want, the only person that loses out is you. I'm tired of hearing "Men don't like women that chase" and "Men love to chase". If that were true, you would see all guys doing that and I've seen MANY guys that don't like to chase. I second this sentiment. Granted, there are plenty of behaviors that would constitute coming on too strong and might scare some men away. Calling a guy to ask him out, however, is not one I would put on the list. Some men love to chase. Men that are confident in their ability to "bag" a woman, men who enjoy dating several women at the same time. Shy guys wont chase, they will have a hard enough time working up the courage to ask you out in the first place.
Mad Max Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Mad Max- is your avatar your real picture or an athlete? That is not me. That would be Maxim Lapierre of my hometown Montreal Canadiens. I second this sentiment. Granted, there are plenty of behaviors that would constitute coming on too strong and might scare some men away. Calling a guy to ask him out, however, is not one I would put on the list. Some men love to chase. Men that are confident in their ability to "bag" a woman, men who enjoy dating several women at the same time. Shy guys wont chase, they will have a hard enough time working up the courage to ask you out in the first place. I happen to be shy myself. Women have approached me, but I refuse to chase. It makes me feel desperate. Chasing and approaching are completely different.
Gattica Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I think both the man and the woman have to do some "chasing". I find it ridiculous to say it is strictly up to the man.
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