Kwati Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 I find myself in love with a very manipulative, controlling, selfish person. A person who has cheated on me twice, both times with ex-boyfriends. A person who used me as a vice to get over an ex-boyfriend, whom she is still in love with and has put above me this entire time. A person who gets angry at me for being vocal when things bother me, a person who flips every situation around and makes me apologize to her when I have done nothing wrong. A person who tries to control who I am friends with and who I talk to, because she is a very insecure about herself. A person that is extremely hypocritical and thinks that she is never wrong and will ARGUE and make you feel horrible until you give in and apologize. A person who does not take into consideration anybody elses feelings, not even her best friends. A person who made me fall in love with her, and never planned on being there to love me back. This person also broke it off with me for the sheer fact that when I could not talk to her about anything, I would go to friends and family. I am not the kind of person to "suck it up" and hold everything in, like she wanted me to be. She explained to me that she wants us to restart as "best friends", and that I need to prove to her that I care about her and that she needs to regain trust in me. Have I done anything wrong, besides confide in friends and family? I don't think so. I find myself arguing with this girl on a daily basis: "Why must I always call you first, you must not care. I knew you never did." I am to the point where I want to put my head through a wall. I love this girl and I care about her more than myself. I've put myself through more than I should for her, yet she still does not realize that and thinks that I am the reason for all the wrong. The predicament here is, do I stick around and apologize for nothing and hope for the best, that everything will work and that she will love me as much as I love her. Or do I gather my dignity and pride and move on. The problem with that is, she will use that against me and say that I am giving up on her and that I do not care about her, that I'm being selfish and not thinking of how she feels. I do not want to hurt her, but I am tired of being trampled on and getting nowhere.
Cracker Jack Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Gather your pride and move on. She's clearly a selfish, twisted individual. No way would any sane person have a good future with someone like that. Save yourself now before you get hurt several times more than you have already.
Author Kwati Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 That is what everybody says, and my head tells me that it is the right thing to do. It's just hard when you love somebody, I want nothing more than for it to work.
Cracker Jack Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 I understand. I was in love with someone who was bad for me, too. As much as you want it to work, you have to realize that some people aren't going to change. I mean, she's manipulative based on everything you've typed. Who in the world makes someone apologize to them for no reason if they love them? Or wants someone they love to prove themselves, even though they're the one who cheated and constantly placed more importance in their ex than their current boyfriend? Come on, man. That isn't love. It's clear that being a good person is your strong-point, and she's using it to her advantage. She's easy to see right through.
Author Kwati Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 You've got a good point. The times that she cheated on me, she tried to justify them and would get angry at me for being upset with her. She would use the "I'm just a horrible girlfriend, get rid of me like I know you want to. I can never do anything right." card and in turn I would feel horrible for making her feel low about herself, and by the end of the night it was me apologizing to her.
Cracker Jack Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 My point exactly. She's doing the dirt, yet she's making you out to be the bad guy. She only used that nonsense because she knew you wouldn't literally get rid of her because you're a forgiving person. And I'd be willing to bet her ex's are on the same level as her. So, is all of this helping you come closer to the path of reason?
reservoirdog1 Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 You've got a good point. The times that she cheated on me, she tried to justify them and would get angry at me for being upset with her. She would use the "I'm just a horrible girlfriend, get rid of me like I know you want to. I can never do anything right." card and in turn I would feel horrible for making her feel low about herself, and by the end of the night it was me apologizing to her. Jesus, what ARE you getting out of being in a relationship with this psycho hose beast? Hope the sex is spectacular, at the very least.
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