xtremegirl Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 (edited) Am I wrong here. A little background story. My boyfriend moved in with me. We have been living together for a month now. He occasionally stays over his parents house since they live an hour away and he still has items there he slowly brings over. Well, a few weekends ago, he stayed. My friend begged me to come out, I said yes.. then I texted him and explained I was going out. He said "Okay I love you have fun" I then texted about an hour later and said, "I changed my mind. I'm tired." I got a text back saying "I'm going to bed, goodnight love ya" Well, my friend convinced me to go out. I didn't text him because he was sleeping. It was a birthday celebration, and we all got extremely drunk. I've never had patron before, and had too many shots. My friend wound up bringing me home, and I passed out and had a seizure. She called an ambulance. My phone and keys were left behind. No one but her knew where I was. I don't know numbers by heart except for my mothers boyfriend since it's similar to mine. So I had the nurse call him and ask him to tell my mother where I was. She texted my boyfriend and he didn't know anything. By the time I got home, he was all ready here and a little pissy, but got over it. The other night, my sons father-my soon-to-be ex husband, came over to take my son birthday shopping, I tagged along(boyfriend had the option to go, he said no) because I, too, wanted to buy tings for my son. At the mall my son gets sick, so I decide to bring him home. Anyway, during the walk home, the ex meets up with his girlfriend, and they walk us to my building because at this time, my son was supposed to go with his dad.. so we had to pick stuff up. I come up, leaving the ex and his girl downstairs, take my sons temp and it's 104. I then go down to get my sons bags with his toys and tell them he's not going. The ex wants to come up and say goodnight, and all that. So I allow it. So fast forward to last night, my sons better and the ex takes him yesterday. So me and my boyfriend decide to have a few drinks and relax. Well, he brought up the fact that I am supposed to tell him when the EX is coming in, to give him notice. out of respect for him of course. He said it's the second time its happened, and he's not comfortable with being surprised. He said it makes him think I still have something for him, which he doesn't want to think anything like that. Then he brings up the story I mentioned about going out, and says I never tell him anything, but he tells me everything. He's not controlling by any means. But he didn't have to get all crappy with me. Am I wrong for not always texting him? For allowing my ex to come up and see our son? Is this a jealousy thing? I am NOT a cheater. I have assured him many times that I would never do a thing like that. ESPECIALLY with a man who hurt me for 8 years of my life. But he still has an issue. Just want to add that my ex has been abusive toward me, saying he was gonna choke me, and I DO see my boyfriends side, but since I have never had to deal with an issue like this, I dont know if he should always have to know if my ex is coming over to see our child. Edited August 11, 2010 by xtremegirl More info
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