bobdole Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 When you go to a bar - do you always go with a friend or friends? I'm kind of curious how others would feel if they went solo. Also be interesting on male/female difference of opinion.
runner Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 at a bar, which i'm assuming to be something of a dance club or 'meat market' type setting, i generally prefer going with good mates. but to the pub, i have no problem going alone; having a pint, some food, or reading a book.
skydiveaddict Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Never go solo unless you just want a quiet drink by yourself. If you are looking to meet a lady you will stick out like a sore thumb.
jamesum Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Most people go to a bar with their friends. But some people come just to drink alone after a bad day or something.
alexlakeman Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 I hate going by myself.. I do go sometimes when I travel, but it's best with freinds.. but if you're like me and null on the freind side, you're screwed ... It's easier to talk to a couple of girls when you are with a wingman, definitely...
meerkat stew Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 (edited) Male - solo mostly. Agree some with Skydive, but there are ways to work bars solo. Go to the bar, whether there is a seat or not, doesn't matter, in fact it's better not to actually sit at the bar but to work it up and down. Engage -everyone- at the bar in conversation, male, female, couples, bartender, until you "own" the bar as a kind of social director. Some people will wish not to be bothered, but this is rare, most want to chat, they are sitting at the bar after all. As new people come in, engage them. Keep light, gregarious banter going with everyone, and any woman who comes in will just assume those people you are talking with are your friends and that you are a regular. Having knowledge of a humorous current event that everyone is talking about in the media does wonders. When the people at the bar or the bartender call you by name and seem glad to see you or talk to you, it blows your social value through the roof with the women there. Double tip the bartender. Once they start treating you right, if they understand what you are doing and start introducing you to women or building you up with women and -help- you in other ways, triple tip them. Money spent on smart bartenders will get you further with more women than buying women drinks -ever- will, and will get you free drinks to boot. Need a cab? bartender has you one in 5 minutes. Surly patron acting like an ass towards you, he or she, is gone in an instant. Someone try to take your seat, not happenin. EDIT: This works with pro bartenders of either sex, but not dumb kids. If the bartender is a young kid and seems kind of dumb to the ways of the world, just treat them politely as you would any other staff and concentrate on the other adults at the bar. Edited August 11, 2010 by meerkat stew
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